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Three Skills for Staying Calm, Sane, and Open in a Chaotic World | Krista Tippett

Oct 16, 2023 1h 4m 24 insights
<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p>---</p> <p>The host of On Being shares lessons learned from 20 years of interviews, including: how to live with open questions, counterprogramming against your negativity bias, and getting over the God question.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><a href="https://onbeing.org/our-story/krista-tippett/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Krista Tippett</a> is a Peabody Award-winning broadcaster, a National Humanities Medalist, and a New York Times bestselling author. She grew up in a small town in Oklahoma, attended Brown University, and became a journalist and diplomat in Cold War Berlin. After studying theology at Yale Divinity School in the early 1990s, Tippett launched <em>Speaking of Faith</em> — later <a href="https://onbeing.org/series/podcast/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>On Being</em></a> — as a weekly national public radio show in 2003. She has published three books: <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/10066/9781101980316" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Becoming Wise: An Inquiry into the Mystery and Art of Living</em></a>; <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/10066/9780143116776" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Einstein's God</em></a>, drawn from her interviews at the intersection of science, medicine, and spiritual inquiry; and <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/10066/9780143113188" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Speaking of Faith</em></a>, a memoir of religion in our time.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>Getting over the God question when it comes to contemplating religion</li> <li>Why Western culture has such a dearth of ways to talk about love</li> <li>Why she thinks the core of relationships is not about agreeing but about navigating differences</li> <li>Tuning into our generative agency</li> <li>Her definition of a wise life as distinct from a knowledgeable or accomplished on</li> <li>Why she believes it is as important to know what you love as it is to know what you hate</li> <li>Learning to love big open questions instead of rushing to answers</li> <li>Why the things we get paid to do may not define whether we're living a worthy life </li> <li>And getting our intentions straight and then trying not to tie them too tightly to our goals</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Other Resources Mentioned:</strong></p> <p><a href="https://www.ted.com/talks/krista_tippett_3_practices_for_a_life_of_wisdom?utm_campaign=tedspread&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_source=tedcomshare" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Krista Tippett's TED Talk: 3 practices for a life of wisdom</a></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/krista-tippett</a></p>
Actionable Insights

1. Embrace Open Questions

In times of uncertainty, “love your questions themselves” and avoid rushing to answers, as they may not be livable or available. This approach allows questions to teach you and prevents denying the gravity of complex issues.

2. Tune into Generative Stories

Actively seek and acknowledge what is life-giving, creative, and worthy of aspiration (“the generative story”) to counteract the overwhelming focus on catastrophic narratives. Recognize that those leaning into their “best humanity” are the majority.

3. Cultivate Generative Agency

Understand and leverage your capacity for positive, life-giving action to effectively meet the challenges of the current extraordinary and perilous times. This involves confronting reality directly and articulating your personal agency.

4. Redefine Vocation Broadly

Expand your understanding of “vocation” beyond your job title to include all the multitudinous ways you contribute to the world, such as being a friend, parent, teacher, or kind person. These roles are elemental and defining, shaping your presence in the world.

5. Strive for Wholeness

Orient yourself towards “wholeness” and flourishing in yourself and institutions, rather than perfection. This means integrating all aspects of human experience and aiming for a life of “inner abundance” regardless of external conditions.

6. Focus on Pure Intention

Clarify your “pure intention” for why you want to be a certain way or have a particular presence, and hold lightly to specific goals. This allows for action based on clear motivation while accepting that you don’t control the results of your actions.

7. Embrace Failure for Growth

Recognize and embrace moments of failure, frailty, pain, and precarity as opportunities for significant growth. This counter-cultural perspective allows for learning and re-engagement rather than viewing shortcomings as definitive failures.

8. Understand Love as Action

Comprehend love not merely as a feeling, but as action and ways of being, especially in navigating differences within relationships. This understanding allows you to stay in relationship and act with care even when feelings are not perfect.

9. Keep “Worthy Life” Companion

Maintain the question “how to live a worthy life” as a constant companion and aspiration, using it as a “thresher” to evaluate how you spend your time. This continuous discernment leads to ongoing learning and integration of insights.

10. Refocus Close to Home

Combat existential despair by refocusing your attention on real people and problems “close to home” that you can comprehend and influence. This makes large structural issues less abstract and provides concrete ways to engage.

11. Choose Love as Your Fuel

When addressing problems, consciously choose love and care as your motivation, rather than anger, hatred, or fear. This provides a sustainable and positive fuel for long-term work and personal well-being.

12. Cultivate Joy and Love

Actively cultivate knowledge of what you love and how to take joy, even amidst challenges and brokenness. This provides essential fuel and prevents burnout for long-term, important work.

13. Be a Human Signpost

Strive to be a “live human signpost” in challenging times, offering guidance and hope to others. This positive imprint on lives around you is a measure of a wise life.

14. Practice Navigating Differences

Actively practice navigating differences in relationships, as this is a key aspect of love and allows relationships to endure even when feelings are not ideal or understanding is incomplete.

15. Cultivate Your Intuition

Develop and trust your intuition as a “course corrector” in life. By consistently engaging with guiding questions, intuition becomes more reliable and helps navigate decisions more intuitively.

16. Adopt Long-Term Perspective

View your work and contributions as part of “multiple lifetimes” or generations, acknowledging that your efforts may not be completed in your lifetime. This can be a relief, reducing pressure for immediate, total solutions.

17. Decide Against Weaponized Words

Consciously decide not to use words as weapons for arguing or putting others down. This promotes healthier communication and avoids pathological cultural habits.

18. Acknowledge Your Own Problem

Recognize and acknowledge that you are your “own most vexing problem.” This self-awareness is presented as a beginning of spiritual life and deeper self-understanding.

19. Seek Love & Worthy Life

Actively seek instruction on how to lead a worthy life and how to love, as most secular formation ignores these fundamental truths.

20. Internalize “We Are All One”

Understand and internalize the idea that “we are all one,” not just as a comforting saying, but as a truth supported by science. This perspective fosters connection.

21. Value Diverse Energies

Value and integrate both the wisdom of experience (e.g., the Dalai Lama’s) and the righteous impatience of youth (e.g., young activists). Both energies are collectively needed to navigate complex challenges.

22. Leverage Time for Discernment

Recognize that with time and age, you can gain more space for thoughtfulness and discernment. This is a natural evolution that can lead to deeper self-understanding and wisdom.

23. Cultivate Ardor and Remembering

Cultivate “ardor” (passionate enthusiasm) and “remembering” (re-situating, reorienting) in your aspirations. These practices prevent aspirations from becoming empty and ensure sustained engagement.

24. Awareness of Hiding Tactics

Be aware of the tendency to use questions as a way to hide or avoid being interrogated yourself. Asking questions can be a powerful but sometimes evasive tactic.