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This Quick Practice Will Make You Feel Lighter | Jay Michaelson

Feb 8, 2026 13m 14s 21 insights
<p dir="ltr">A guided loving-kindness meditation from Jay Michaelson that ditches the phrases and uses visualization instead.</p> <p dir="ltr">If you've done traditional metta (loving-kindness) practice before, you know it involves bringing people to mind and repeating phrases like "May you be happy, may you be healthy." It's a great practice. But sometimes the words can get you stuck in your head—thinking about what would actually make this person happy, or getting into stories about their suffering.</p> <p dir="ltr">This version takes away the verbal element. Instead, you work with a visualization: imagining a warm, golden light in your heart center that you can extend outward.</p> <p dir="ltr">Fair warning: this involves imagination. If that makes you roll your eyes, that's fine. But as the Beatles said, "The love you take is equal to the love you make." It's worth a try.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.jaymichaelson.net/">Jay Michaelson</a> is our Teacher of the Month for February. Find more guided meditations and live sessions with Jay throughout the month in the <a href="http://app.danharris.com/">10% with Dan Harris</a> app.</p> <p><strong><br /> <br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan's online community <a href="http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href="https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href="https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href="https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href="https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>
Actionable Insights

1. Visualize Golden Light in Heart

To begin the meditation, imagine a golden, warm glow of light in your heart center, understanding that this light is effortlessly present and limitless.

2. Expand Light to Fill Body

Once the golden light is established in your heart, imagine it expanding to fill your entire body, from head to toe, with warmth, light, and a feeling of contentment.

3. Extend Light to Loved Ones

Enlarge the golden light to include someone for whom it’s easy to feel love, such as a family member, friend, or pet, avoiding complicated relationships initially.

4. Expand Light to More Loved Ones

Gradually expand the circle of warm light to include one, two, or three other people or beings in your life for whom you can easily extend loving kindness.

5. Extend Light to Benefactors

Further expand the warm light to include teachers, mentors, parents, or anyone who has been a benefactor or helped you in your life, with gratitude.

6. Extend Light to Neutral People

Include “neutral people” – those you encounter daily but don’t have strong feelings for, like a store clerk or colleague – in your expanding field of warm light.

7. Extend Light to Difficult Relationships

Gradually extend the warm light to people with whom you have “a little friction” in your life, avoiding the most challenging relationships or public figures initially.

8. Expand Light to Local Environment

Imagine the light radiating out to encompass all people and beings in your immediate physical environment, such as your town, city, or building.

9. Expand Light to All Beings Universally

Conclude the practice by expanding the light universally to include all beings – people you’ll never meet, animals you’ll never see – making it a general wish of loving kindness for everyone.

10. Conclude by Receiving the Light

Close the meditation by imagining yourself within the universal field of light, receiving it as you have created it, feeling contained and supported by it.

11. Fake It ‘Til You Make It

If you find a practice like loving kindness meditation challenging or “barf-tastic” at first, just “fake it until you make it” because the practice can still work even if you’re skeptical.

12. Grounding Before Meditation

Before starting a meditation practice, close your eyes and ground yourself by feeling your body in stillness, noticing its weight and the sensation of your breath.

13. Release Visualization Thoughts

If thoughts arise about the visualization itself during practice, acknowledge them and then let them go, focusing instead on experiencing the warm glow.

14. Understand Light’s Abundance

Recognize that the loving kindness light is abundant; it doesn’t diminish but rather increases and strengthens the more you spread it.

15. Separate Light from Judgment

When extending loving kindness to difficult relationships, understand that the light is not about judgment, forgiveness, or condoning actions, but simply wishing well-being.

16. Maintain Boundaries While Wishing Well

Recognize that you can wish happiness and safety for others, even those with whom you have difficult relationships, while still maintaining protective boundaries.

17. Re-center and Re-expand Light

Periodically re-center your attention on the heart’s light source before expanding it outward again to new groups or areas.

18. Perceive Universal Loving Kindness Field

Shift your perception from actively generating the light to existing within a widely available field of loving kindness, where you are no longer the sole center.

19. Meditate Without Verbal Phrases

If traditional loving kindness meditation with verbal phrases feels “heady” or leads to overthinking, try a version with fewer words or a somatic element for a quieter experience.

20. Smile During Practice

Allow yourself to smile during the meditation if it feels natural, as it can enhance the feeling of well-being and contentment.

21. Allow Time to Rest Post-Meditation

After the guided meditation concludes, you are welcome to stay in the meditative state for a while before opening your eyes, if you wish.