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The Science of Joy: Why You Need It and How to Get It | Ingrid Fetell Lee

Aug 2, 2023 1h 1m 14 insights
<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>The hidden influence that your surroundings can have on your happiness. And how to tweak things in subtle but powerful ways.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Today's guest is Ingrid Fetell Lee, the author of <a href="https://aestheticsofjoy.com/the-book/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Joyful: The Surprising Power of Ordinary Things to Create Extraordinary Happiness</em></a>. She is the former design director at IDEO and the founder of the website <a href="http://aestheticsofjoy.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>The Aesthetics of Joy</em></a>. She holds a Master's in Industrial Design from Pratt Institute and a Bachelor's in English and Creative Writing from Princeton University. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>This is the second installment in a three part series we're running called, Mundane Glory about learning not to overlook the little things in your daily life that can be powerful and evidence-based levers for increased happiness. </p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>For tickets to TPH's live event in Boston on September 7:</strong></p> <p><a href="https://thewilbur.com/armory/artist/dan-harris/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>https://thewilbur.com/armory/artist/dan-harris/</strong></a></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>The physiological and psychological benefits of joy </li> <li>How to find joy in tangible objects and sensorial experiences</li> <li>What Ingrid means by "faux joy"</li> <li>How joy can intersect with many emotions including sadness and awe</li> <li>How to change your environment, at work and at home, to infuse it with joy</li> <li>A practice she calls, "Joy spotting" </li> <li>Her list of, "The 50 Ways to Find More Joy Everyday" </li> <li>The importance of noticing your killjoys </li> <li>The risks of being visibly joyful </li> <li>And how even on your worst day, joy can be accessible </li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/ingrid-fetell-lee" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/ingrid-fetell-lee</a></p>
Actionable Insights

1. Prioritize Small Moments of Joy

Actively seek and integrate small moments of joy into your daily life, as they are non-negotiable for human thriving, helping to reset stress responses, increase productivity, enhance cognitive flexibility, and improve relationships.

2. Embrace Joy as Human Entitlement

Recognize that joy is not a luxury or something to be earned through productivity, but a fundamental signal of thriving that you are entitled to simply by being human, allowing yourself to integrate it into your life without guilt.

3. Shift Focus to Experiencing Joy

Instead of broadly asking “Am I happy?”, shift your focus to actively questioning “Am I experiencing joy?” and “How do I create more joy for myself and others?”, fostering a more active and agency-driven engagement with your emotional well-being.

4. Practice “Joy Spotting” Daily

Engage in “joy spotting,” a mindfulness practice focused on tuning your attention to the sensory qualities of your environment that bring joy, helping you discover and notice things that might spark happiness.

5. Identify Your “Killjoys”

Actively notice and understand the forces, both external and internal (like perfectionism, fear of loss, or cultural judgment), that hold you back from experiencing joy, as this awareness is key to unwinding those patterns and allowing more joy into your life.

6. Infuse Environments with Joyful Aesthetics

Reintroduce “aesthetics of joy” (like bright colors, round shapes, abundance, symmetry, and elevation) into your home and work environments, as your unconscious brain processes these elements and influences your mood, making you feel safer, more energized, and more productive.

7. Embrace Joy Even Amidst Sorrow

Always remain open to the possibility of experiencing moments of joy, even on your worst days or during times of sorrow, understanding that joy comes in moments and waves and can coexist with other emotions, enriching your emotional life.

8. Engage All Your Senses

Actively engage with the sensory details of your surroundings (what you see, touch, smell, hear, feel) to deepen your experience of the moment and extract more joy from everyday interactions and memories.

9. Embrace Impermanence for Present Joy

Enjoy objects and experiences fully in the present moment, recognizing their impermanence without attachment, which allows for deeper appreciation and joy while they are still here.

10. Seek Conflicting Emotions for Creativity

Allow yourself to experience conflicting emotions simultaneously (e.g., joy and sadness, awe and darkness), as this state tells the brain something unusual is happening, stimulating creativity and priming you to look for novel solutions.

11. Implement Daily Joy Practices

Incorporate simple actions like jumping (to “drop the mask”), bringing plants or nature sounds indoors, moving art around your space, letting a child decorate, wearing bright clothes on a tough day, and sitting in the sunshine to consistently spark joy.

12. Use Joyful Conversation Starters

Keep a list of joyful conversation starters (e.g., “What’s a simple pleasure you never grow tired of?”) to deepen bonds with others, shift conversations away from dire topics, and use them as journal prompts for self-reflection on joy.

13. Maintain a Joy Journal

Use a joy journal to reflect on questions that connect you to joy, understand where it went, and how to get it back, while also identifying your “killjoys” to understand what holds you back.

14. Notice the Invisible

Tune your senses to notice invisible forces like wind, temperature, and magnetism (e.g., a pinwheel spinning or wind chimes), as these aesthetic traces of natural laws can be sources of wonder and joy in your midst.