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The Psychology Of Success | Guy Raz

Jan 24, 2025 1h 5m 23 insights
<p>A podcast pioneer on failure, resilience, luck, work/life balance, and the power of questions.</p> <p> </p> <p><a href="https://www.guyraz.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Guy Raz</a> has been instrumental in creating some of the most iconic podcasts in the world, including Wondery's <em>How I Built This</em>, <em>Wow in the World</em> and <em>TED Radio Hour.</em> The New York Times has described him as "one of the most popular podcasters in history." </p> <p> </p> <p>This episode is part of our monthlong <a href="https://www.meditatehappier.com/podcast-playlists/new-years-2025-do-life-better" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Do Life Better</em></a> series. </p> <p> </p> <p><strong>We talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>The challenge–and gift–of failure</li> <li>Getting comfortable with discomfort and risk</li> <li>The notion of luck </li> <li>The balance between your relationships and your work </li> <li>Why scale isn't always the answer </li> <li>Success vs. happiness </li> <li>And much more</li> </ul> <p> </p> <p><strong>Related Episodes:</strong></p> <ul> <li><a href="https://www.meditatehappier.com/podcast-playlists/new-years-2025-do-life-better" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Do Life Better</em></a></li> <li><a href="https://www.meditatehappier.com/podcast-playlists/sanely-ambitious" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Sanely Ambitious</em></a><em> </em></li> <li><a href="https://www.meditatehappier.com/podcast/tph/adam-grant-321" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#321 The Joy of Being Wrong | Adam Grant</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.meditatehappier.com/podcast/tph/mia-birdsong" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Rethinking Success | Mia Birdsong</a></li> </ul> <p> </p> <p><strong>Sign up for Dan's newsletter</strong> <a href="http://www.danharris.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>here</strong></a></p> <p><strong>Follow Dan on social:</strong> <a href="https://bit.ly/3tGigG5" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Instagram</strong></a><strong>,</strong> <a href="https://bit.ly/3FOA84J" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>TikTok</strong></a></p> <p><strong>Ten Percent Happier online</strong> <a href="https://bit.ly/46TZglY" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>bookstore</strong></a></p> <p><strong>Subscribe to our</strong> <a href="https://bit.ly/3FybRzD" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>YouTube Channel</strong></a></p> <p><strong>Our favorite playlists on:</strong> <a href="https://spoti.fi/3Qa8kMT" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Anxiety</strong></a><strong>,</strong> <a href="https://spoti.fi/3MjtMxF" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Sleep</strong></a><strong>,</strong> <a href="https://spoti.fi/3QvyA5J" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Relationships</strong></a><strong>,</strong> <a href="https://spoti.fi/3QxZASc" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Most Popular Episodes</strong></a></p> <p> </p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href="https://meditatehappier.com/podcast/tph/guy-raz-896" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://meditatehappier.com/podcast/tph/guy-raz-896</a></p>
Actionable Insights

1. View Failure as a Gift

Instead of self-victimhood, use failure as a motivator because it can be an incredible gift that leads to growth and better paths.

2. Clarify Your “Why” or Purpose

Be keenly aware of your underlying “why” or purpose for what you do, as this serves as your North Star and provides direction, especially when facing challenges or discomfort.

3. Focus on Journey, Not Destination

Utilize practices like meditation and yoga to cultivate a mindset that views life and career as an ongoing journey rather than a fixed destination, fostering continuous engagement and growth.

4. Practice Meditation and Breathwork

Consistently practice meditation and breath work to improve brain function, increase resilience, and better respond to difficult situations and failures.

5. Cultivate Strong Relationships for Happiness

Actively nurture and prioritize relationships, as the quality and quantity of your connections are the best determinants of happiness and fulfillment as you age.

6. Prioritize Listening and Asking Questions

Cultivate deep listening and ask thoughtful questions in conversations, as this is more important than talking, builds strong connections, and allows for intimate understanding of others’ lives.

7. Take Calculated Risks for Growth

Actively seek out and take risks, even small ones, that might lead to failure, as stepping out of your comfort zone is a prerequisite for growth and expansion.

8. Prioritize Sustainability Over Scale

Recognize that pursuing massive scale is not always the best or healthiest path for a business or career; instead, focus on building a sustainable, successful venture that brings fulfillment and allows for a balanced life.

9. Forge Your Own Career Path

Disregard external cultural messages about needing to “go big” in your career; instead, choose a path that genuinely satisfies your personal ambitions and “scratches your particular itch.”

10. Practice Gratitude and Self-Reminders

Actively practice gratitude and consistently remind yourself of reasons to be happy, even when facing life’s difficulties and past traumas, to cultivate a more joyful and fulfilled existence.

11. Embrace Humility and Hard Work

When faced with a humbling or difficult situation, buckle down, do your best, and work hard at the task at hand, as this can lead to new opportunities and growth.

12. Re-evaluate Purpose After Setbacks

When a desired opportunity doesn’t materialize, use that failure as a prompt to deeply reconsider what you truly want to do and explore alternative paths.

13. Integrate Work and Personal Life

Instead of strictly separating work and family time, integrate them by allowing ideas to spark during personal moments and incorporating family into work-related travel, especially if you love what you do.

14. Expose Yourself to Discomfort

Be willing to expose yourself to potential ridicule or criticism when pursuing new ideas or ventures, as getting comfortable with discomfort is a prerequisite for growth and expansion.

15. Don’t Let Disadvantage Limit You

While acknowledging outward privilege, avoid letting a perceived lack of it become a self-fulfilling prophecy that prevents you from pursuing goals, as many successful people overcome significant internal and external difficulties.

16. Value Fulfillment Over Extreme Wealth

Prioritize doing something well and building a fulfilling life over relentlessly chasing extreme financial scale, as a moderate income with a good quality of life is often preferable to immense wealth coupled with a “nightmare” existence.

17. Simplify Life to Prioritize Values

Consider simplifying your life by minimizing endless financial obligations and material entanglements, allowing you to prioritize what truly matters, such as friendships, relationships, experiences, and family.

18. Find Purpose-Driven Role to Connect

If you’re socially awkward or introverted, find a role or mission that gives you “permission” to interact, as focusing on a purpose (like telling a story) shifts the focus away from yourself and allows for connection.

19. Experiment in Low-Stakes Environments

If you have a platform or project with a smaller audience or less executive oversight, use it as an opportunity to experiment and try new, unconventional things.

20. Ask Questions in Social Situations

If you feel awkward in social situations, default to asking people a lot of questions about their lives, as this is an effective way to build connections and make others interested in you.

21. Communicate Healthy Work Expectations

As a leader, clearly communicate that your personal work habits (e.g., working all the time) are not necessarily expected of your team, ensuring they feel empowered to maintain a healthy work-life balance.

22. Practice Slow, Controlled Weightlifting

For exercise, use light weights with very slow, controlled repetitions both up and down, as this method creates tension and small muscle tears necessary for health and fitness, especially as you age.

23. Acknowledge the Role of Luck

Recognize and appreciate the significant role that luck plays in life’s opportunities and successes, as it can lead to unexpected and profoundly positive outcomes.