Prioritize developing good financial behaviors (e.g., saving, long-term investing) over relying solely on intelligence or education, as behavior is more critical for financial success than intellect.
Develop a mindset of “enoughness” where your expectations grow slower than your income aspirations, rather than defining “enough” as a specific, fixed monetary number.
Cultivate control over greed and fear in financial decisions by consistently saving and investing for the long term (e.g., 30-50 years) without panicking during market fluctuations. This approach can lead to significant wealth and financial independence.
Prioritize spending time with family and friends, adding value to your community, and maintaining personal connections, as these are the things people on their deathbeds universally regret not doing more of, not accumulating more money.
Suppress your ego and the desire to flaunt wealth (e.g., fancy cars, jewelry) to increase your savings rate, as savings represent the gap between your ego and your income.
Integrate “room for error” into all financial plans and budgets, anticipating that unforeseen events will disrupt original plans, and build in buffers to absorb unexpected risks and damages.
Save money not just for foreseeable expenses (car, house, college) but specifically for unforeseeable risks and emergencies (e.g., job loss, divorce, medical emergency), as these are the biggest threats.
Leverage wealth to gain control and autonomy over your time and life choices (e.g., where to live, work, retire) rather than solely for acquiring material possessions, as this significantly enhances life quality.
Differentiate between “rich” (having money to spend on things) and “wealthy” (having unspent money saved and invested), and prioritize building wealth for the control and autonomy it provides.
Accept that financial decisions are often made with emotions and conflicting goals, so aim for “reasonable” choices that align with your well-being (e.g., sleeping better at night) rather than strictly “rational” ones that might only look good on a spreadsheet.
Invest consistently every month in low-cost index funds for 30-50 years, avoiding panic or frequent account checking during market downturns, as this hands-off approach often outperforms active management.
Reframe stock market volatility not as a “fine” for making a mistake, but as a “fee” or cost of admission necessary to achieve good long-term returns over 10-20 years.
Focus on using money to reduce stress and anxiety by removing financial worries (e.g., mortgage payments, feeding children), which can lead to fewer bad days, even if it doesn’t guarantee more happy ones.
Understand that money is more likely to buy contentment (a sense of being okay with your life and accomplishments) rather than fleeting happiness, and adjust your expectations accordingly.
Realize that others do not admire your possessions (e.g., nice cars, homes) as much as you think; they are more likely imagining themselves with those items, which should decrease your desire for “stuff” for social validation.
Actively work to keep your financial expectations growing slower than your income aspirations to create a gap that accrues to your well-being and helps you feel more content.
Aim for a level of savings that feels “a little bit too much” and is not earmarked for specific, foreseeable expenses, as this unallocated capital provides a crucial buffer against unforeseen life surprises.
Understand that every dollar saved grants you ownership over a piece of your future, while every dollar of debt means a piece of your future is owned by someone else, motivating you to save more.
Shift your mindset from trying to avoid all risk to building the capacity to absorb manageable damage and risk, as this is a more realistic and effective approach to life’s uncertainties.
Allow motivation to stem from the desire not to disappoint loved ones (e.g., children, spouse, parents, coworkers), fostering a good, enjoyable career that sets a positive example.
Cultivate a high level of empathy and open-mindedness towards the financial views and life experiences of others, especially those vastly different from your own, to broaden your perspective.
Educate yourself on the historical commonality of major stock market volatility (e.g., 25% declines every 3-4 years) to better prepare for and manage reactions to future market pullbacks.
Minimize buying, selling, and trading activity in your investments, as higher activity is correlated with worse average returns.
Recognize that the fundamental solutions to most financial problems involve consistently saving more money and exercising patience, rather than seeking quick fixes or “magic pills.”
Ensure there’s a wide gap between what might happen and what needs to happen for you to be okay, as this “room for error” is crucial for navigating life’s unpredictable challenges.
Recognize that people’s financial decisions, even if they seem “crazy” to you, make sense from their perspective, as they are anchored in their unique life experiences; cultivate empathy for these differing views.
Cultivate a deep appreciation for history and the living conditions of most people globally, both past and present, to keep your expectations in check and remain amazed by your current circumstances.
Be mindful of the human tendency to constantly move financial goalposts and compare yourself to others, especially on social media, as this can prevent you from feeling better off even with progress.
Distinguish between true life problems (e.g., serious health crises) and issues that money can solve, using this perspective to reduce anxiety about financial setbacks.
Set a realistic expectation for work-life balance by aiming to enjoy at least half of your work, recognizing that this level of enjoyment is considered amazing and achievable for few.
As financial motivation decreases, prioritize career projects and creative endeavors (e.g., writing, speaking) that genuinely interest you, rather than solely pursuing those that offer the highest pay.
Make an effort to call parents more often and be less dismissive of their views, as these are common regrets later in life.
Set realistic investment expectations, understanding that earning 8-10% per year is an amazing return, rather than expecting to double your money quickly.
Recognize that your worldview is a tiny fraction of global experience, and strive to understand how others think without feeling guilty about your own circumstances, fostering open-mindedness.
Engage in world travel, particularly to poorer nations, to gain eye-opening perspective on how the majority of the world lives, fostering gratitude and challenging your own assumptions.