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The Case for "Doing Nothing" in a Time of Crisis | Sebene Selassie & Jeff Warren

Jul 20, 2020 43m 44s 29 insights
At a time of multiple, mutually-reinforcing dumpster fires, meditation can seem counterintuitive. Instinctively, many of us might prefer to rush to the barricades, or Twitter, or the fetal position. But there is immense value in "doing nothing," and we are going to explore that theme in this special episode. We're bringing on two amazing meditation teachers, Jeff Warren and Sebene Selassie, to take your questions about the value of meditation in this difficult time. We discuss: how to work with a wandering mind; how to navigate the social anxiety many of us feel as we start to reopen; whether it's possible to be mindfully depressed; and we explore the potential for gratitude at a time when it seems like everything sucks. The reason for this special edition of the show is that we at the Ten Percent Happier company are about to launch the Summer Sanity Challenge. It's a free 21 day meditation challenge, starting July 27. Every day you'll get a short video followed by a free guided meditation to help you establish -- or reboot, or reinvigorate -- your meditation habit. You can do it solo, or you can invite your friends and family and see one another's progress. To receive updates on the challenge, visit tenpercent.com/challenge   Where to find Sebene Selassie online:  Website: https://www.sebeneselassie.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/sebeneselassie Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sebeneselassie Book Mentioned: You Belong by Sebene Selassie: https://www.sebeneselassie.com/youbelong Where to find Jeff Warren online:  Website: https://jeffwarren.org/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_jeffwarren_/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeffwarren.org/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/jeffwarren1001 Summer Sanity Challenge On July 27, we're launching the Summer Sanity Challenge: a free 21 day meditation challenge. The goal here is to help you build resilience so that you are less buffeted by circumstances you can't control -- and are therefore calmer, happier, and better prepared to show up the way you want to for your family and your communities. To receive updates on the challenge, visit tenpercent.com/challenge   Additional Resources: Ten Percent Happier Live: https://tenpercent.com/live Coronavirus Sanity Guide: https://www.tenpercent.com/coronavirussanityguide Free App access for Frontline Workers: https://tenpercent.com/care Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/summer-challenge-266
Actionable Insights

1. Join Summer Sanity Challenge

Sign up for the free 21-day Summer Sanity Challenge, starting July 27th, to establish, reboot, or reinvigorate your meditation habit through daily guided meditations and videos, either solo or with friends and family.

2. Embrace “Doing Nothing”

Engage in meditation, even when it feels counterintuitive, as there is immense value in “doing nothing” to create space, reset, and return to actions with more clarity, presence, and appropriate responses.

3. Dedicate 10 Minutes Daily

Dedicate 10 minutes a day to sit still, relax the body, and ease the mind, as this structured practice can lead to transformation.

4. View Meditation as Skill-Building

Adopt a skills-based approach to meditation, recognizing that every session, regardless of length or comfort, builds equanimity, clarity, and concentration, making every meditation a form of progress.

5. Balance Effort and Relaxation

Continuously find ways to release, relax, and let go during practice, balancing effort like tuning a stringed instrument—not too tight to snap, nor too loose to be ineffective.

6. Meet Emotions with Kindness

When strong emotions arise, use mindfulness to be with the experience, paying attention and meeting it with kindness or non-judgment, allowing the emotion to release and resolve.

7. Acknowledge All Emotions

Acknowledge that emotions are non-negotiable and ever-present; pretending they don’t exist will lead to them controlling your behavior blindly.

8. Naturalize Depression Symptoms

When experiencing depression or feeling down, naturalize the physical sensations (e.g., achiness, low energy) as your body’s attempt to rest, separating them from mental storylines of suffering to make the experience more manageable.

9. Reframe “Downs” as Care

Reframe periods of feeling down as beautiful, healthy, and caring actions by your body, which can change the entire experience of those moments.

10. Assess Mood Triggers

Use your mindfulness practice to become aware of what affects your mood (e.g., news intake, social media, types of conversations) and consider mitigating or eliminating those factors to support your well-being.

11. Observe Unconscious Bias

Use meditation to see unconscious biases and cultural conditioning clearly, understanding they are patterns, not your inherent self, which allows you to release their hold rather than be owned by them.

12. Mindfully Accept Anxiety

When experiencing anxiety, bring awareness to what’s happening with a quality of allowing and acceptance, avoiding judgment or tension, and instead, bring kindness to yourself.

13. Clarify Specific Anxieties

When feeling anxious, use mindfulness to clarify the specific worry, then take concrete action to address it, such as communicating boundaries or protocols with others.

14. Ask “Is This Useful?”

When caught in repetitive rumination or worrying, ask yourself “Is this useful?” to jar your mind out of the loop.

15. Practice Deep Belly Breathing

To ease anxiety, practice deep belly breathing with long inhales and long exhales, or even sigh, to bring calm and ease to the body.

16. Relax into Mind Wandering

When your mind wanders during meditation, relax and recognize that your awareness of the wandering means you are not lost in it; allow it to be there without judgment.

17. Meditate on Thoughts

When the mind wanders, try meditating on the thoughts themselves by noticing their auditory or visual aspects and observing them with curiosity, which can sometimes cause them to subside.

18. Notice Gaps Between Thoughts

During meditation, notice the gaps or pauses between thoughts, as this practice can reveal more mental space and expand your awareness of these spaces in other contexts.

19. Allow Grief in Practice

Use your meditation practice as a space to allow strong emotions of grief to arise, recognizing and allowing them, and exploring what’s going on underneath.

20. Seek Professional Mental Health Support

If you find yourself in a deep, chronic mental health loop and feel unresourced, seek extra support from specialists like trauma therapists who can provide frameworks for working through it.

21. Seek External Grief Support

Recognize that grief is complex and may require more than just formal meditation; seek therapeutic processes or community rituals for processing it.

22. Practice Both Guided & Unguided Meditation

Practice both guided and unguided meditations to develop a versatile skill set; guided practices offer structure and new techniques, while unguided practice builds self-reliance in applying meditative skills to daily life.

23. Approach Challenges with Balance

When undertaking a challenge, use its structure and impetus for motivation, but maintain a relaxed attitude and perspective, allowing for missed days without getting discouraged.

24. Choose Alternative Meditation Objects

If focusing on the breath is triggering or challenging, choose an alternative meditation object such as sound, sensations in the hands, or the overall posture of sitting.

25. Observe Breath Control Without Judgment

If you find yourself controlling your breath during meditation, don’t make it a problem; simply observe both the breath and your act of controlling it without judgment.

26. Deliberately Breathe into Belly

To address anxiety and open up breath capacity, deliberately practice breathing more into the belly.

27. Try Lying Down for Meditation

To promote greater body and breath relaxation, try meditating while lying down, as this posture can reduce physical constriction often held when sitting upright.

28. Cultivate Compassion Through Learning

Cultivate compassion and self-compassion not only through meditation but also by reading narratives, learning, and hearing people’s stories, which expands insight and understanding.

29. Remember Inherent Human Dignity

When encountering biases, remember the core understanding that every human possesses an indelible, dignified, and beautiful essence, obscured by ignorance, and hold this compassionate view alongside clarity.