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The Buddha's Four-Part Strategy for "Ultimate Happiness" | Sally Armstrong

Jun 26, 2023 1h 6m 27 insights
<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p>---</p> <p>"Mindfulness" has become a buzz phrase. There are books on mindful parenting, mindful lawyering, even mindful sex. But what does the word even mean? And how do you actually do it? In one of his most famous and foundational discourses, the Buddha was said to have laid out, in great detail, four ways to establish mindfulness. In today's episode we're going to walk through these four "foundations" of mindfulness with Sally Armstrong, who started practicing in 1981, began teaching 15 years later, and now leads retreats all over the world.</p> <p>We posted this episode a few years ago, but thought it might be a good time to drop a good, old-fashioned, meat and potatoes, stick to your ribs dharma episode to help us get back to basics. Because, like Sally says, Guru Google can only get us so far…</p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <p><br /></p> <ul> <li>How Sally got started in meditation – including sitting and in person retreat with SN Goenka and living near the Dalai Lama</li> <li>Using our meditation to align on intentions and values and seeing that we have a choice once we wake up. </li> <li>Where she encounters challenges in her practice today</li> <li>The importance of Beginner's mind </li> <li>Sally's clear breakdown of the Buddha's <strong>Four Foundations of Mindfulness</strong> (the first time we've really gone into detail on the show)</li> <li><br /></li> </ul> <p><strong>For tickets to TPH's live event in Boston on September 7:</strong></p> <p>https://thewilbur.com/armory/artist/dan-harris/</p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/sally-armstrong-232" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/sally-armstrong-232-rerun</a></p>
Actionable Insights

1. Cultivate Choice Through Mindfulness

Practice mindfulness to create a space between urges or lines of thinking and your reaction, allowing wisdom to emerge and enable choices aligned with your values and higher intentions.

2. Observe Urges, Don’t React

When experiencing urges or discomfort, recognize that you don’t need to automatically act on them or push them away. This creates a crucial choice point to respond more wisely.

3. Make Choices From Your Values

Engage directly with your moment-to-moment experience to understand it, enabling you to make choices that are aligned with your personal values and higher intentions.

4. Practice Body Mindfulness

Begin your meditation practice with mindfulness of the body and breath, as this fundamental training helps you to work more effectively with the mind.

5. Deconstruct Body Concepts

Instead of thinking about or conceptualizing your body, feel and know it from the inside to deconstruct solidified views and understand its impermanent, unsatisfactory nature.

6. Notice Pleasant, Unpleasant, Neutral

Observe every conditioned experience for its feeling tone: pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral. Recognizing this universal law helps in understanding reactions.

7. Stop Chasing and Averting

Become aware of the habitual tendency to chase pleasant experiences, push away unpleasant ones, and space out during neutral ones, as these reactions are a root cause of suffering.

8. Observe Mind States Non-Judgmentally

Practice observing your mind states, including emotions and meditative qualities like concentration or restlessness, simply noting their presence or absence without judgment.

9. Witness Unwholesome States Clearly

Clearly recognize the presence of unwholesome mind states like greed or aversion without judgment. This opens a choice point to not automatically act on them.

10. Appreciate Absence of Negativity

Make an effort to notice and appreciate moments when unwholesome states like greed or aversion are not present in the mind, counteracting the tendency to only focus on what’s wrong.

11. Decouple Suffering from Pain

Cultivate mindfulness to observe pain or unpleasantness without resistance, allowing you to decouple the suffering (your reaction) from the inherent pain itself.

12. Skillfully Engage with Difficulties

Use the fourth foundation of mindfulness (dhammas) as a map to skillfully engage with difficult experiences in your meditation practice and daily life, understanding their construction and how to respond wisely.

13. Understand Hindrance Conditions

Identify the conditions that cause hindrances like sleepiness or restlessness to arise or dissipate. Skillfully avoid encouraging conditions that foster unhelpful states.

14. Develop Awakening Factors

Recognize whether positive qualities like joy (awakening factors) are present. If not, explore what skillful actions or conditions could help you access and cultivate them.

15. Maintain Daily Meditation Practice

Establish a consistent daily meditation practice, supported by resources like meditation apps, to integrate teachings and develop mindfulness over time.

16. Attend Meditation Retreats

Commit to attending meditation retreats, as the extended time and immersive environment are crucial for absorbing and integrating the teachings and practices into your being.

17. Cultivate a Beginner’s Mind

Approach your practice and learning with a ‘beginner’s mind,’ maintaining openness to always growing and learning rather than assuming you know everything.

18. Ground Yourself During Conflict

When faced with challenging interactions or internal reactions, become aware of them, breathe, and ground yourself to prevent unskillful responses and maintain a choice point.

19. Recall Impermanence of Challenges

When encountering challenging behaviors or difficult emotions in yourself or others, remember their impermanent nature to create space for holding the experience without buying into reactive thoughts.

20. Use Teaching to Deepen Practice

Engage in teaching as a way to both support and challenge your own practice, fostering growth through inquiry and engagement with the material and students’ experiences.

21. Prepare Thoughtfully for Teaching

When preparing to teach, consider what would be helpful and interesting for students, looking up resources and structuring the material to benefit diverse audiences at their current level of understanding.

22. Dynamic, Empathetic Student Support

When meeting with students, engage in a dynamic, moment-to-moment mindfulness practice, drawing on your own experience and understanding to respond with empathy and provide helpful support.

23. Learn From Every Conversation

Approach conversations with an open mind, recognizing each interaction as an opportunity to learn about yourself, your limits, and how to be more skillful in supporting others.

24. Develop Skillful Diverse Communication

Learn how to speak skillfully and empathetically to diverse communities, understanding and addressing suffering, pain, or confusion related to their unique backgrounds and experiences.

25. Understand Experience Through Dharma

Frame and understand your experiences, including modern-day challenges, through the lens of Dharma language and practice terms to cultivate a wise view and integrate them into your practice.

26. Study Mindfulness Teachings

Read books, such as Joseph Goldstein’s ‘Mindfulness,’ to deepen your understanding of the four foundations of mindfulness and related practices.

27. Access Dharma Talks Online

Utilize dharmaseed.org to access hundreds of free talks from meditation teachers, including Sally Armstrong, to deepen your understanding of Buddhist teachings and practices.