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The Buddha's Eight Part Recipe for Happiness | DaRa Williams

Apr 26, 2023 50m 13s 42 insights
<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p>This episode kicks off our series on the Eightfold Path which will continue on Wednesdays for the next two weeks with Eugene Cash and Joseph Goldstein.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>DaRa Williams is a trainer, meditation teacher and psychotherapist and has been a meditator for the past 25 years. She is a practitioner of both Vipassana and Ascension meditation and is a graduate of the Spirit Rock/Insight Meditation Society Teacher Training Program and is an IMS Emeritus Guiding Teacher. </p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <p><br /></p> <ul> <li>The first two components of the Eightfold Path: Right View and Right Thinking</li> <li>How the Eightfold Path has played out in DaRa's life </li> <li>The notions of Intuition, Clear Seeing, and Openness </li> <li>And the very tricky skills of renunciation and fostering non-attachment to outcomes</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/dara-williams-592" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/dara-williams-592</a></p>
Actionable Insights

1. Understand Inevitability of Suffering

Gain a visceral, experiential understanding that suffering (dukkha) is an inescapable part of the human condition and being embodied, as this is the first step towards the possibility of freedom.

2. Cultivate Wise Understanding, Thinking

Prioritize developing skillful or wise understanding and thinking, as these foundational steps set the tone and are the “soil” for everything that comes after on the Eightfold Path.

3. Develop Clear, Wise Understanding

Cultivate clear and wise understanding about what you’re learning, experiencing, and the conditions of mind and heart, because if your view is “off,” subsequent practices will also be off.

4. Train Mind for Skillful Thought

Condition your mind to think in skillful, non-harming ways with clarity, rather than trying to eliminate thinking, as the mind naturally thinks.

5. Cultivate Openness to Understanding

Be open and willing to engage with the possibility of alternative understandings or ways of thinking, as a closed mindset prevents engagement with any aspect of the Eightfold Path.

6. Utilize Body’s Intuition for Awareness

Lean into and trust the wisdom and understanding that comes from intuition and the felt sense in your body, as it provides pre-verbal, pre-cognitive information for greater awareness.

7. Practice Clear Seeing, Informed by Past

Strive for clear seeing, which means perceiving things without the lens of ego or past experience, allowing past experiences to inform but not determine current actions and choices.

8. Develop Intuition via Meditation

Engage in meditative practice to access intuition, as the silence and quiet allow you to become present to its felt experience in your body, which you can then cultivate.

9. Prioritize Basic Self-Care

Support your body’s well-being by ensuring you get enough sleep, drink enough water, and take care of your physical needs, as this is useful for supporting your system.

10. Cultivate Equanimity and Balance

Develop equanimity, the capacity to remain balanced and in the middle, equidistant from both suffering and joy, as it serves as a major organizing principle for practice.

11. Train Brahma Viharas via Meditation

Practice forms of meditation to train the four Brahma Viharas (friendliness, compassion, sympathetic joy, and equanimity) as useful mental skills.

12. Cultivate Loving Kindness

Develop your internal capacity for loving friendliness or loving kindness, a non-codependent feeling of wishing well-being for yourself and others, as an antidote to judgmental thoughts.

13. Cultivate Compassion for Suffering

Develop compassion by recognizing the widespread suffering in human beings and wishing for all beings to be free from suffering, using it as an antidote to unskillful thoughts like cruelty or ill will.

14. Practice Sympathetic Joy

Cultivate sympathetic joy by taking delight in others’ happiness and, if appropriate, sharing your own joy with those who may not be able to generate it themselves.

15. Cultivate Wise Thought: Renunciation

Cultivate wise thought by practicing renunciation, which involves understanding and touching into the experience of non-addiction to anything that causes suffering.

16. Practice Restraint, Say “No”

Begin the practice of renunciation by using restraint and practicing the wisdom of saying “no” to change habituated patterns that lead to suffering.

17. Practice Letting Go for Peace

Engage in the practice of letting go; even a little letting go brings some peace, and complete letting go can lead to complete peace and an end to struggles.

18. Practice Non-Attachment to Outcomes

Focus on practicing non-attachment to the outcomes of your actions and endeavors, rather than non-attachment to people, pets, or possessions.

19. Love Without Attachment to Permanence

Practice loving people and things deeply without attachment to their permanence, recognizing that everything is impermanent, which is a healthier way to relate to a chaotic world.

20. Investigate Renunciation Personally

Intimately investigate your personal understanding and felt experience of the word “renunciation” to become aware of your current relationship with it, determining what beliefs to let go of or deconstruct.

21. Cultivate Generosity, Appreciation

Practice generosity and appreciation for the goodness in life and in others as a way to skillfully cultivate goodness and counter the core of addiction.

22. Commit to Reducing Suffering

Actively commit to and practice methods that reduce suffering, driven by a personal interest in not suffering.

23. Practice Eightfold Path Guidelines

Engage with and practice the eight steps of the Eightfold Path to move towards liberation, an open heart, and to live with less suffering.

24. Continuously Assess, Balance Path

View the Eightfold Path as a living guideline, constantly assessing and paying attention to how you are living and incorporating ongoing self-investigation rather than a one-time checklist.

25. Apply Equanimity to Path

Use equanimity as an organizing principle, consistently catching yourself and observing how the Eightfold Path’s steps are playing out in any given moment.

26. Combine Mindfulness, Loving Kindness

Practice mindfulness to develop self-awareness of bodily sensations and combine it with loving kindness to improve intuition and recognize how feelings, not just thoughts, can guide you.

27. Cultivate Loving Kindness Thoughts

Develop loving kindness by cultivating thoughts that promote your own well-being and that of others, free from judgment, non-acceptance, or the desire for self or others to be different.

28. Relax, Be Kind to Others

Relax, be nice and kind to people, trying to help them and get along with them rather than hurting or falling out with them.

29. Practice Compassion, Counter Cruelty

Cultivate compassion by recognizing the widespread suffering in human beings and using it as an antidote to unskillful thoughts like cruelty, ill will, or wanting to cause harm.

30. Choose Skillful Thoughts

Consistently choosing skillful thoughts over unskillful ones builds your capacity and reduces suffering, creating a path towards greater peace.

31. Practice Present Moment Awareness

Focus on being present in the current moment, rather than dwelling on past actions or future tasks, as this is useful for engaging with the path.

32. Avoid Draining Emotional States

Understand that fear, anger, and similar states are draining and consume a lot of energy, motivating you to cultivate practices that reduce their hold.

33. Catch Unskillful Reactions Promptly

When unskillful thoughts or emotions arise, catch yourself and acknowledge them immediately, rather than letting them linger and consume your energy for extended periods.

34. Relate Differently to Thoughts

Instead of suppressing emotions or thought patterns, aim to cultivate a different relationship with them so you don’t constantly drown in them.

35. Practice Formal Loving Kindness Meditation

Engage in formal loving kindness meditation by envisioning yourself and others (easy, neutral, difficult, all beings) while sending wishes like “May you be happy, healthy, safe, live with ease,” and for compassion, wish for freedom from suffering.

36. Practice Seeing, Connecting with Strangers

Make a practice of truly seeing and connecting with people, even strangers you may never see again, by offering a moment of genuine engagement, which benefits both you and them.

37. Trust Outcomes, Cultivate Well-being

When engaging in actions that foster well-being and reduce suffering for yourself and others, trust that the outcomes of circumstances are often beyond your control and will unfold as they may.

38. Create Conditions for Well-being

Be thoughtful about creating conditions, habits, and routines that support well-being, rest, and reduce suffering in your life.

39. Lighten Up, Relax for Path

Cultivate conditions of lightening up and relaxing to support your well-being and provide the energy needed to engage with and work through the Eightfold Path.

40. Don’t Take Self Too Seriously

Cultivate a sense of humor and avoid taking yourself too seriously, as this is a common trait among experienced meditators and can arise from deep self-observation.

41. Study the Eightfold Path

To understand the Buddha’s core teachings and improve life, start by studying the Eightfold Path, which is an eight-part recipe for living better.

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