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Tara Brach Has A Counterintuitive Strategy For Navigating Tumultuous Times

Sep 18, 2024 1h 5m 32 insights
<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p>A (potentially challenging) Buddhist recipe handling anxious times.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Tara Brach, a legendary meditation teacher, psychologist, and frequent flier on this show. She is the founder of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington and has been active in bringing meditation into schools, prisons and underserved populations. She has also written several books including <em>Radical Acceptance, Radical Compassion</em> and <em>Trusting the Gold. </em></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <p><br /></p> <ul> <li>A Buddhist tradition known as the Bodhisattva teachings… which are quite radical… and which Tara thinks can vastly improve your life… and the health of democracy. </li> <li>We also talk about: why some people might think this stuff is too soft</li> <li>4 practices to develop compassion </li> <li>A mindfulness technique known as RAIN</li> <li>How mindfulness can help you see what is beneath your anger</li> <li>Letting distress be a portal—and the amazing phrase, "action absorbs anxiety"</li> <li>How to get active when you have limited time</li> <li>And how to counteract the tendency to numb out</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p>Tara also recorded a guided meditation based on this conversation, which you can find on <a href="http://www.DanHarris.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">www.DanHarris.com</a>.</p> <p><strong>Related Episodes:</strong></p> <ul> <li><a href="https://www.happierapp.com/podcast-playlists/the-dalai-lamas-guide-to-happiness" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Dalai Lama's Guide To Happiness</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/joan-halifax-294" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Vitamin E: How To Cultivate Equanimity Amidst Political Chaos | Election Sanity Series | Roshi Joan Halifax</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/sebene-selassie-338" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">A Counterintuitive Source of Hope | Sebene Selassie</a></li> <li><a href="https://happierapp.com/podcast/tph/tara-brach-repost" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Best of the Archives: Making it RAIN | Tara Brach</a></li> <li><a href="https://happierapp.com/podcast/tph/tara-brach-408" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Can You Handle This? | Tara Brach</a></li> <li><a href="https://happierapp.com/podcast/tph/tara-brach-534" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">How to Stop the War Against Yourself | Tara Brach</a></li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter</strong> <a href="https://bit.ly/3QtGRqJ" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>here</strong></a></p> <p><strong>Follow Dan on social:</strong> <a href="https://bit.ly/3tGigG5" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Instagram</strong></a><strong>,</strong> <a href="https://bit.ly/3FOA84J" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>TikTok</strong></a></p> <p><strong>Ten Percent Happier online</strong> <a href="https://bit.ly/46TZglY" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>bookstore</strong></a></p> <p><strong>Subscribe to our</strong> <a href="https://bit.ly/3FybRzD" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>YouTube Channel</strong></a></p> <p><strong>Our favorite playlists on:</strong> <a href="https://spoti.fi/3Qa8kMT" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Anxiety</strong></a><strong>,</strong> <a href="https://spoti.fi/3MjtMxF" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Sleep</strong></a><strong>,</strong> <a href="https://spoti.fi/3QvyA5J" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Relationships</strong></a><strong>,</strong> <a href="https://spoti.fi/3QxZASc" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Most Popular Episodes</strong></a></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href="https://happierapp.com/podcast/tph/tarabrach-833" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://happierapp.com/podcast/tph/tarabrach-833</a></p>
Actionable Insights

1. Examine Underneath Reactivity

When feeling reactive emotions like anger or blame, pause and take the time to investigate what lies beneath them, such as fear, grieving, and ultimately, a deeper sense of caring.

2. Practice RAIN for Compassion

Utilize the RAIN (Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture) mindfulness practice to awaken compassion by acknowledging difficult emotions, fully letting them be, exploring their underlying causes, and meeting them with kindness.

3. Cultivate Mindful Awareness

Develop the capacity to be present in the here and now, fully seeing and feeling what arises moment to moment, which reduces reactivity, increases equanimity, and allows you to tolerate difficult feelings.

4. Reflect on Deepest Aspiration

Make it a daily practice to quiet your mind and connect with your deepest longings and aspirations, asking ‘What most matters?’ to ensure your actions are guided by the compass of your heart.

5. Engage in Compassionate Activism

Actively participate in compassionate activism, as engaging in action absorbs anxiety and is the beginning of uprooting suffering, seeding the world you long for.

6. Bridge Divides in Communication

Actively work to communicate with those who hold different views, stretching beyond your comfortable silos to create quality relationships and foster peacebuilding, which is crucial for democracy.

7. Cultivate Metta (Friendliness)

Practice Metta (loving-kindness or friendliness) by reflecting on the inherent goodness in others and their universal desires for love, safety, and happiness, which warms the heart and keeps the flow of caring open.

8. Let Distress Be a Portal

When outcomes or situations continue to distress you, allow that distress to serve as a portal to reconnect with caring, rather than letting it lead to anger and blame.

9. Start Compassion with Yourself

Begin the practice of compassion by first arousing it towards whatever is happening within yourself, as this inner work enables you to see others with a wider and deeper perspective.

10. Ask ‘What is Love Asking?’

After cultivating inner compassion, consciously ask yourself, ‘What is love asking for me right now?’ to guide your actions from a place of genuine caring.

11. Focus on Action, Not Outcome

Recognize that you are not in control of external outcomes; instead, focus on what you can do, acting from a place of clean fuel, and then release attachment to specific results.

12. Ground Activism in Inner Practice

Integrate prayer and meditation into your activism and work, as leaders like Desmond Tutu and Gandhi demonstrated that this inner training provides the necessary soul force and alignment for powerful outer actions.

13. Cultivate Goodness in Others Daily

Practice daily meditation specifically dedicated to cultivating a sense of goodness in others, as exemplified by Nelson Mandela during his imprisonment.

14. Get Proximate with Suffering

Lean in and get more proximate with where suffering exists, whether by listening deeply to friends’ experiences or engaging with diverse groups, to allow yourself to be touched and motivated to act.

15. Use Words Responsibly

Especially in times of fear and animosity, use your words responsibly by avoiding dehumanization and asking if your language serves wisdom, love, and healing, rather than perpetuating violence.

16. Take Refuge in Community (Sangha)

Act together with others, taking refuge in interdependent, interrelated, loving connection (Sangha) to reduce anxiety, feel a larger sense of belonging, and experience shared caring.

17. Imagine Difficult People as Children

To cultivate Metta towards challenging individuals, imagine them as children, wounded, on their deathbed, or after they’ve passed away, to access a sense of their spirit and tenderness.

18. Go Through Anger to Grieving

When caught in blame and anger, recognize that under anger there is always something you care about; allow yourself to move through the anger into grieving to feel what you truly care about and begin the healing process.

19. Ask ‘Where Does It Hurt?’

When encountering someone who seems like ’the other side’ or is acting in harmful ways, ask yourself, ‘Where does it hurt?’ to cultivate compassion and understand their underlying pain and vulnerability.

20. Cultivate Felt Sense of Interdependence

Actively seek a lived, felt experience of interdependence with the living world—through meditation, nature, or relationships—as this direct experience motivates action and love for the earth and each other.

21. Trust Reality with Openness

Cultivate a quality of trust and openness to experience reality directly, drawing on the fullness of your wisdom and care, which acts as a defense against losing aliveness and immediacy.

22. Avoid Actions Rooted in Hatred

Do not act from hatred, anger, or blame, as these approaches will only perpetuate cycles of violence and suffering, remembering that ‘hatred never ceases by hatred, but by love alone is healed.’

23. Intentionally Evolve Consciousness

Actively work to evolve consciousness by acting based on compassion, moving from a perception of separation (‘us, them’) to a sense of belonging (‘we’) to address global crises.

24. Share Stories of Loss

To bridge divides and foster connection, share personal stories and photos of loved ones lost to shared challenges, allowing collective grief to reveal shared care and belonging.

25. Start Metta with Easy People

Begin Metta practice by sending good wishes (e.g., ‘May you be happy, healthy, live with ease’) to people with whom it’s easy to feel affection, gradually widening the circle to more difficult individuals as your capacity grows.

26. Forgive Self for Aversion

When it is difficult to feel Metta towards challenging individuals, forgive yourself for that natural aversion and armor, and build your capacity by starting where it is easier to feel affection.

27. Tolerate Difficult Feelings

Learn to feel and tolerate your feelings, as this ability is the ground of compassion, allowing you to touch and feel the suffering in your own body and in each other’s in order to care and want to extend yourself.

28. Be Inclusive in Compassion

Train in seeing the vulnerability and hurt in all beings, acting from care rather than anger, and strategically from care, not blame, recognizing sides but sensing what’s beyond them.

29. Start Compassion with Inner Trauma

When experiencing trauma, begin by bringing compassion to your own inner life and pain before attempting to extend compassion to others, as trauma can temporarily shut down relational networks.

30. Anchor Aspiration in Action

After reflecting on your deepest aspiration, consciously sense what specific actions will best serve this aspiration, which helps to anchor it in your day-to-day life and reduce anxiety.

31. Practice Daily Inner Silence

Dedicate regular time, such as a day a week like Gandhi, for total silence, prayer, and meditation to go inward and ensure your outer actions are aligned with your heart.

32. Don’t Numb Out from Fear

Acknowledge your nervous system’s sensitivity to suffering and global decline; instead of numbing out, engage with inner meditations to quiet your mind, down-regulate intensity, and connect with caring.