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Seth Meyers On: Handling Performance Anxiety, Managing the Inner Critic, Hacks for Better Conversation, and Staying Joyful in Dark Times

Jan 16, 2026 44m 27s 26 insights
<p dir="ltr">Plus, much more from the famed late-night TV show host.</p> <p dir="ltr">Seth Meyers is the host of <a href="https://www.nbc.com/late-night-with-seth-meyers">Late Night with Seth Meyers</a>. Before that, he was a cast member on Saturday Night Live for 13 seasons. In recent years he has released two standup specials: <a href="https://www.netflix.com/title/81058497">Lobby Baby</a>, on Netflix and <a href="https://www.hbomax.com/movies/seth-meyers-dad-man-walking/785e5ee6-cf73-4187-a0c8-afc3889437cd"> Dad Man Walking</a>, on HBO. He wrote a children's book called, <a href="https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/im-not-scared-youre-scared-seth-meyers/1140275874"> I'm Not Scared, You're Scared</a>. And he co-hosts two podcasts, <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/family-trips-with-the-meyers-brothers/id1693673771"> Family Trips with the Meyers Brothers</a> and T<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/th/podcast/the-lonely-island-and-seth-meyers-podcast/id1738121304">he Lonely Island and Seth Meyers Podcast</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr">How Seth maintains sanity while hosting a late-night show amid the firehose of news</li> <li dir="ltr">Joy and humor as resilience</li> <li dir="ltr">His early struggles with self-doubt </li> <li dir="ltr">How raising children is potentially harder than hosting a late night TV show</li> <li dir="ltr">The upside of anxiety</li> <li dir="ltr">The art of listening</li> <li dir="ltr">Friendship, loyalty, and the emotional sustenance of creative partnerships.<strong><br /></strong></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href="https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href="http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href="https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href="https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href="https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href="https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p> <p>Thanks to our
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1. Maintain Joy for Resilience

Actively maintain joy as a crucial source of strength, recognizing that losing joy signifies a loss in the face of adversity.

2. Engage Joyfully in World’s Sorrows

Approach difficult or sorrowful situations with a sense of joy to preserve your mental and emotional resources, enabling more effective engagement.

3. Practice Reflective Listening for Conflict

When receiving criticism or engaging in conflict, non-judgmentally summarize the other person’s points in your own words before responding. This can de-escalate tension and improve communication.

4. Cultivate Active Listening

Develop active listening skills by truly hearing what others say and reacting in real-time, rather than just waiting for your turn to speak. This is especially useful in collaborative or improvisational settings.

5. Delegate and Trust Your Team

As a leader, empower your team by delegating tasks and trusting them to perform their jobs without micromanagement. Reduce unnecessary meetings to allow focus on core responsibilities.

6. Foster Creative Freedom and Experimentation

Encourage ‘big swings’ and new ideas within your team, creating an environment where individuals are not blamed for trying and failing. This promotes innovation and creativity.

7. Avoid Immediate Post-Mortems

After a performance or event, resist the urge to conduct immediate debriefs. Instead, allow time to pass to gain perspective and determine if issues are still relevant or if it’s better to move on.

8. Focus on the Next Opportunity

After experiencing a setback or failure, quickly shift your focus to the next task or opportunity. Avoid dwelling on past mistakes.

9. Cultivate Strong Friendships

Be a good friend to others, as this approach is likely to result in a network of supportive, good friends. This also contributes to a positive self-perception.

10. Diversify Career Skills for Longevity

Actively develop and diversify your professional skills and projects to build career longevity and maintain control over your future. This is especially important in roles that are not permanent.

11. Embrace Mild Nerves for Performance

View mild stage fright or ‘butterflies’ before an important task or performance as a positive sign that you care deeply about the outcome. This indicates you are ready to engage.

12. Practice Digital Hygiene for Focus

Compartmentalize your news and digital consumption to specific times or work hours. Intentionally focus on personal and family life when outside of work.

13. Leader’s Behavior Sets the Tone

As a leader, be highly aware that your actions and demeanor directly influence the culture and behavior of your entire organization. It is crucial to model decency and respect.

14. Find Humor in Your Imperfections

Bring a sense of humor to your own foibles, frailties, and imperfections. This fosters self-compassion and a healthier internal atmosphere.

15. Avoid Sarcasm with Children

Recognize that sarcasm and ‘withering put-downs’ are ineffective and counterproductive communication tools when trying to guide or motivate children.

16. Make Yourself the Punchline

When creating content that draws from your family life, especially involving children, make yourself the subject of the humor. This acknowledges your own shortcomings and protects your children’s privacy and feelings.

17. Balance Fearlessness with Caution

Guide children to understand the balance between being fearless and being careful. Teach them what to be genuinely afraid of while also developing appropriate risk aversion.

18. Accumulate Experience to Reduce Anxiety

Gain sufficient ‘reps’ or experience in your field to build confidence. This helps to mitigate performance anxiety by knowing that, more often than not, things will work out well.

19. Adapt Interview Style to Guest

Adjust your interviewing approach to suit the specific needs and style of each guest. Avoid trying to force them to conform to your preferred interview format.

20. Research Thoroughly for Interviews

Conduct extensive research before interviews to avoid asking questions that the interviewee has already answered many times. Aim for fresh and engaging topics.

21. Discern Constructive vs. Bad-Faith Criticism

Learn to differentiate between constructive criticism, which offers valuable insights for improvement, and bad-faith criticism. Quickly identify and ignore the latter.

22. Embrace Challenging Interactions

View ‘all over the place’ or challenging interactions as opportunities to ‘juggle more balls.’ This makes the experience more dynamic and engaging.

23. Recognize Ineffective Temper

Understand that expressing anger or losing your temper, especially with children, is often ineffective. It can make you appear foolish and does not achieve desired outcomes.

24. Engage in Meditation (Any Dose)

Incorporate meditation into your routine, even if inconsistently. Any amount of practice is considered beneficial for mental well-being.

25. Maintain Friendships with Shared Activities

To combat the withering of adult friendships, initiate structured activities, such as starting a podcast or a regular gathering. This ensures consistent interaction with friends.

26. Be Aware of Scripted Responses

Recognize that some individuals, particularly politicians, may come to conversations with pre-scripted answers. Adjust your approach to avoid predictable and unengaging interactions.