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Scott Rogers, Embracing Your Adversary

Sep 12, 2018 59m 37s 8 insights
While working on a difficult case with some particularly difficult opposing council, Scott Rogers said he had a moment during a mindfulness sitting when he realized the way he was dealing with the matter of litigation wasn't reducing that quality of dissatisfaction with that experience, it was contributing to it. Rogers, who has written several books, now serves as the director of the Mindfulness in Law program at the University of Miami School of Law, working with law students and faculty to embrace mindfulness as a way to be less stressed, but still competitive in the field.
Actionable Insights

1. Compete Without Cruelty

In competitive or adversarial contexts, practice mindfulness to discern between actual events and your internal narrative, listen attentively to others, and respond appropriately without overreacting. This approach enables effective competition while maintaining a connection to shared humanity, even with adversaries.

2. Cultivate Mindful Parenting

Create a “spacious resonant environment” for your child by being present and validating their emotions without judgment. Skillfully manage your own internal reactions to their emotional displays, allowing them to express themselves freely, and embrace opportunities to repair relational ruptures.

3. Practice “So Be Mindful” Method

Use natural elements as cues for mindfulness: adjust posture with a tree, take three slow breaths with the wind, acknowledge thoughts and feelings with clouds, and practice loving-kindness with the sun. This method can be integrated as a formal practice or as “punctuated practices” throughout your day to cultivate continuous awareness.

4. Modulate Professional Drive

If you are in a demanding profession, consciously modulate your problem-solving, competitiveness, and perfectionism outside of work. Failing to do so can lead to constant stress, an overestimation of threats, and an inability to relax, contributing to anxiety and depression.

5. Secularize Meditation for Children

When introducing meditation to children from a faith-based background, frame it in secular terms as brain training that enhances productivity, focus, and emotional regulation. Emphasize its benefits for admired professionals and its potential to improve existing spiritual practices like prayer.

6. Embrace Repetitive Mindfulness Practice

Consistently engage with mindfulness teachings and practices, even if they seem repetitive, because the human tendency to operate mindlessly requires frequent reminders to “wake up” from autopilot and remember fundamental truths.

7. Train as a Meditation Teacher

To become an effective meditation teacher, gain extensive personal experience on retreat and consider formal training programs, such as those offered by the Insight Meditation Society or Spirit Rock. This deep personal practice is crucial for guiding others responsibly.

8. Be Fully Present with Others

Make a conscious effort to be entirely present and attentive during interactions with others. This deep engagement, though often challenging, is a powerful way to foster connection and understanding.