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Robin Roberts on the Skill of Optimism

Oct 26, 2022 54m 14s 20 insights
<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>It is so easy to be pessimistic and, in fact, we are evolutionarily wired towards it with a built in negativity bias. This bias can be super useful, because it keeps us on guard for threats. But like all biases, it can warp the way we see the world. This is why optimism can be incredibly helpful. We're not talking about blind optimism here but more about grounded, realistic and reasonable optimism. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Our guest today, Robin Roberts, has come by this skill the hard way. Not only is she one of the boldest of the boldface names in the news business, where she is forced to confront crime, war, and natural disasters on the regular, but she's also come through two very serious bouts of cancer.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Roberts is the longtime co-anchor of <a href="https://www.goodmorningamerica.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Good Morning America</a>. She has a new book called, <a href="https://www.rocknrobin.tv/brighter-by-the-day" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Brighter by the Day: Waking Up to New Hopes and Dreams</em></a> in which she talks about how she has honed her optimism chops, and how you can, too. </p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>How to strengthen your optimism muscle</li> <li>Making "one day, day one"</li> <li>Operationalizing your goals</li> <li>Robin's meditation practice</li> <li>Napping during meditation</li> <li>How she gets enough sleep given her crazy schedule</li> <li>Envisioning the victory </li> <li>Flipping the script so that instead of thinking "what could go wrong?" we think, "what could go right?" </li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href="http://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/robin-roberts-516" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/robin-roberts-516</a></p> <p><br /></p>
Actionable Insights

1. Choose Optimism and Joy Daily

Make a conscious choice to find joy and happiness, even if you don’t wake up feeling great, and actively prevent stringing negative days together.

2. Flip Your Mental Script

Consciously shift your focus from defaulting to ‘what could go wrong’ to focusing on ‘what could go right’ to change your thoughts and feelings.

3. Transform ‘One Day’ into ‘Day One’

Stop wistfully wishing for future actions and instead commit to making tomorrow ‘day one’ by taking concrete steps to make your desires a reality.

4. Identify & Operationalize Childhood Joys

Reflect on activities that brought you pure, unadulterated joy as a child and then take intentional action to reincorporate them into your current life.

5. Make Your Well-being a Priority

Actively choose to prioritize your mental and physical well-being by making time for practices like quiet sitting and sufficient sleep, even amidst a busy schedule.

6. Practice Quiet Time (Meditation)

Engage in periods of stillness and quiet to listen to your inner self, understanding that meditation is about settling the mind, not stopping thoughts, and even shallow engagement provides benefits.

7. Prioritize Sufficient Sleep

Ensure you get adequate rest (e.g., minimum 6.5-7 hours) by making it a non-negotiable priority, accepting naps or meditation-turned-naps as your body’s signal for rest.

8. Acknowledge Negative Feelings, Then Shift

When negative feelings arise, acknowledge and honor them by asking ‘what do you want?’ but avoid wallowing; then consciously choose to shift your focus to a more positive thought or action.

9. Envision Your Victory

Before undertaking a task or facing a challenge, mentally visualize the successful outcome and all the positive things that could go right, rather than focusing on potential failures.

10. Train Optimism as a Muscle

Cultivate optimism as a skill that strengthens with consistent use, making it your default response to life’s challenges and preparing you to better tackle adversity.

11. Focus on Accumulating Small Wins

Understand that achieving big dreams requires consistent, step-by-step effort and daily work, rather than expecting instant results or a ‘microwave’ solution.

12. Don’t Worry Past Utility

While planning for potential problems is prudent, question if your worrying is still useful after a certain point, and avoid overthinking negative ramifications that may never materialize.

13. Choose Positivity On Purpose

Deliberately decide to adopt a positive outlook, especially when faced with a choice between negative and positive reactions, actively spotting and appreciating ‘rainbows’ throughout your day.

14. Challenge Self-Limiting Beliefs

Question long-held beliefs about your capabilities (e.g., ‘I’m not motivated’) and re-evaluate if they are still true, rather than assuming past feelings define your present potential.

15. Push Through Initial Negative Feelings

Sometimes, even if you don’t feel genuinely positive, pushing through (e.g., ‘faking the funk’ for a job) can lead to genuine positive feelings later in the day.

16. Find Silver Linings in Bad News

When presenting or consuming difficult information, actively seek out and emphasize glimmers of hope or positive aspects within the story to counteract feelings of hopelessness.

17. Report Useful, Timely Truth

When communicating difficult truths, consider not only its accuracy but also its usefulness and whether it’s delivered at the appropriate time.

18. Prioritize Staying Power

When presented with early opportunities, consider if you have the necessary foundation and experience to sustain success, sometimes opting to build more before taking a big leap.

19. Avoid Immediate Phone Checking

Make a conscious effort not to immediately reach for your phone first thing in the morning to avoid being overwhelmed by external information and to protect your inner calm.

20. Remind Yourself of Known Wisdom

Actively recall and apply valuable advice you’ve learned, especially during personal challenges, recognizing that much wisdom is about remembering what you already know.