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Robert Thurman, Renowned Buddhist Scholar

Dec 7, 2016 1h 12m 17 insights
Bob Thurman, the father of actress Uma Thurman, was one of the first Americans to be ordained as a Tibetan Buddhist monk. He later gave up his robes and is now one of the most famous Buddhist scholars around, having worked with the Dalai Lama for over 50 years and traveled the world lecturing on Buddhist teachings.
Actionable Insights

1. Cultivate Altruistic Motivation

When taking action, especially in ambition or business, cultivate a motivation for the well-being of others and society. This approach provides more energy and leads to greater satisfaction than purely self-serving goals.

2. Practice Self-Conquest

Instead of seeking to conquer others or external circumstances, focus on inner transformation and self-conquest. This path fosters a happier and more peaceful internal and external life.

3. Recognize Intrinsic Freedom

Understand that you are intrinsically free and ‘blown away’ (in nirvana) right now. Suffering arises from the ignorance of thinking you are separate from the benevolent universe and constantly lacking.

4. Prioritize Self-Awareness & Restraint

Engage in practices that increase self-awareness, help you understand your mind’s workings, and develop restraint over powerful emotions. This prevents trouble and leads to greater well-being.

5. Commit to Daily Meditation

Practice meditation every day, specifically before sleep, briefly between tasks, and in the early morning. This consistent practice deepens your spiritual path and aids in realizing nirvana.

6. Embrace “Remembering” (Sati)

Practice ‘remembering’ (Sati), which means staying present and aware of your current state and surroundings. This prevents your mind from wandering vaguely and increases presence.

7. Seek Joy in Giving

Find true and lasting joy in giving things away and witnessing the happiness of others. Accumulating possessions for personal gratification leads to immediate and endless dissatisfaction.

8. Adopt Positive Default Mindset

Believe that the default situation in life is inherently good, a fundamental ‘good news’ discovery of Buddhism. This mindset can significantly alleviate suffering.

9. Avoid “Me Versus Universe”

Overcome the ignorance of perceiving yourself as separate from the universe. This ‘me versus the universe’ mindset inevitably leads to suffering and loss.

10. Act on Impermanence Shock

When faced with a profound realization of impermanence, such as a significant loss or change, use it as a catalyst to act on your deeper spiritual or life goals. This prevents passively floating through life and encourages meaningful action.

11. Integrate Spiritual Practices

Integrate spiritual or self-awareness practices within your existing cultural or religious context rather than abandoning it. This approach fosters broader acceptance and avoids upsetting family members.

12. Start Where You Are

Begin spiritual or self-improvement practices at your current level of understanding and comfort. Getting started, even with small steps (e.g., 1% or 10% happier), is crucial for deeper engagement and progress.

13. Explore “Inner Science”

Investigate Indian ‘inner science,’ which includes the science of emotions, the body (through yoga), and natural medicine (Ayurveda). This can provide knowledge not typically found in Western thought.

14. Approach Conflict with Negotiation

When faced with conflict, advocate for negotiation, understanding the problem, and direct communication. This is a more effective and peaceful approach than resorting to violence or aggressive reactions.

15. Treat Family with Respect

Avoid internal nastiness towards women and children, as this fosters a miserable life and culture. Instead, treat them with respect to cultivate a happier social life.

16. Cultivate Contentment & Non-Harm

Practice contentment with what you have and avoid the urge to constantly acquire more or harm others. Recognizing that you likely have enough leads to greater peace.

17. Apply Altruism to Business

Conduct business with an altruistic mindset, focusing on satisfying clients and customers. Consider dedicating a portion of profits or equity to charitable causes, as exemplified by successful models.