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Paula Faris, Journey of Faith

Dec 19, 2018 1h 13m 30 insights
You may know Paula Faris as the former co-host of ABC's The View or Dan's former co-anchor on ABC's Good Morning America weekend edition. What you don't know is why she decided to leave these TWO dream jobs, and the role that meditation and her faith played in that life-altering decision. Have a question for Dan? Leave us a voicemail at 646-883-8326. The Plug Zone Check out Paula's podcast: Journeys of Faith http://abcn.ws/journeys
Actionable Insights

1. Prioritize Work-Life Balance

Evaluate your work-life balance and be willing to make significant changes, even stepping back from demanding roles, if your job has become an addiction or is causing your family and personal sanity to receive ’leftovers'.

2. Cultivate Identity Beyond Work

Reflect on whether your identity is overly tied to your professional role and actively cultivate a sense of self that is separate from your job, recognizing that losing a job can lead to a profound loss of identity if not balanced.

3. Heed Life’s Warning Signs

Pay attention to a series of negative events or health issues as potential ‘screams’ or warning signs that you need to slow down, re-evaluate your life choices, and prioritize self-care or significant change.

4. Separate Pain from Suffering

Recognize that physical pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional and arises from the mental narratives and reactions we add to the pain; use moments of discomfort to disambiguate the two.

5. Avoid Meditation Expectations

Do not go into meditation expecting to feel a certain way, as desire for a specific outcome can hinder the practice and shut down the system.

6. Focus on Meditation Training

View meditation as a training exercise for your mind and compassion muscle, rather than focusing on the specific feelings or experiences you have during the session.

7. Assess Meditation by Life Changes

To measure the true impact of meditation, practice it consistently for a while and then observe the overall changes in your life, rather than evaluating its effectiveness based on how you feel during each individual session.

8. Engage Opposing Views Respectfully

Seek out and engage in respectful conversations with people holding different views, focusing on listening and understanding their perspectives rather than debating or trying to win an argument.

9. Question and Understand Your Faith

Actively question your faith and beliefs to understand not just what you believe, but why you believe it, ensuring your faith is personal and deeply rooted, not merely inherited.

10. Practice Self-Compassion in Habits

Give yourself grace and be kind to yourself when building new habits like meditation; don’t strive for perfection, and if you miss a day or several, simply start over without self-criticism.

11. Push Meditation Discomfort Edge

While it’s acceptable to shift or get up when discomfort becomes overwhelming or you’ve reached your limit, actively strive to push and explore your edge with physical and mental discomfort during meditation, similar to physical training.

12. Explore Non-Injurious Discomfort

When experiencing discomfort that is not physically harmful, sit with it during meditation to observe the nature of the pain, the thoughts it generates, and how it shifts and changes, learning about impermanence.

13. Manage Distractions with Meditation

Recognize that distractions (like ‘whack-a-moles’) will always arise, but meditation helps you choose how and when to react to them, fostering intentionality rather than frantic responses.

14. Reduce Emotional Reactivity

Practice meditation to become less emotionally reactive and more focused, allowing you to respond to life’s challenges with greater intention rather than blindly reacting.

15. Be Calm Amidst Life’s Mess

Embrace the understanding that while life will always be messy, meditation can help you maintain inner calm and prevent you from becoming a ‘hot mess’ yourself.

16. Learn Love Languages

Read ‘The Five Love Languages’ by Gary Chapman to understand that individuals communicate and receive love through primary love languages (words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, quality time, physical touch).

17. Identify Your Unique “Lane”

Reflect on what truly defines you and what you can’t see yourself without (your ‘glue and foundation’) to identify your unique ’lane’ or passion, which can guide your professional or personal endeavors.

18. Discover Your Love Language

Reflect on what actions or expressions from others make you feel most loved to identify your primary love language, which is how you best receive love.

19. Express Your Love Language

Clearly communicate your primary love language to your partner or loved ones so they can express affection in ways that make you feel truly loved.

20. Practice Metta Meditation Sequence

Systematically envision people (starting with an easy person, then yourself, a benefactor, a neutral person, a difficult person, and everybody) and silently repeat phrases like ‘may you be happy, may you be healthy’ to cultivate compassion.

21. Christian-Adapted Meditation Practice

Christians can adapt meditation by using Bible verses as mantras (e.g., ‘be still’), focusing on drawing nearer to God, and incorporating affirmations from scripture (e.g., ‘I’m fearfully and wonderfully made’) into a personalized practice.

22. Three-Minute Meditation Routine

Implement a three-minute meditation routine: one minute focusing on breath, one minute visualizing a happy place with sensory details, and one minute repeating a personal affirmation.

23. Meditation as Brain Bicep Curl

Understand meditation as a ‘bicep curl for your brain,’ a mental exercise that strengthens focus and attention, rather than an attempt to empty your mind.

24. Meditate Before Answering

Practice meditating or pausing before responding to situations, allowing for a more thoughtful and wise answer rather than a frantic or reactive one, as suggested by Proverbs 15:28.

25. Prioritize Safety in Meditation

If experiencing incredible pain during meditation that suggests potential physical harm (e.g., hurting a knee or spraining an ankle), move to a more comfortable position to avoid injury.

26. Practice Meditation Daily-ish

Instead of striving for perfect daily meditation, aim for a ‘daily-ish’ practice, meaning you try to meditate most days, giving yourself grace if you miss a day.

27. Try 10% with Dan Harris App

Explore the new ‘10% with Dan Harris’ meditation app, which offers guided meditations, live Zoom community sessions, and ad-free podcast episodes, by signing up for a 14-day trial at danharris.com.

28. Listen to Journeys of Faith

Tune into Paula Faris’s ‘Journeys of Faith’ podcast, where she interviews well-known individuals about the role of faith in their lives, offering a platform for respectful dialogue on profound beliefs.

29. Gift Sanity with 10% Happier App

Consider sending the 10% Happier app as a gift for the holiday season to provide ‘sanity.’ Visit gift.10percenthappier.com to send it.

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