Actively open up about feeling lonely, as vulnerability is the antidote. Pushing through the lies that keep you isolated will demystify the fear and allow others to connect with empathy and understanding.
Fall deeply in love with yourself and become whole before actively seeking a romantic partner. Approach relationships from a place of abundance and having something to offer, rather than from a sense of lack.
Regularly ask yourself, “What do I need right now?” and then actively listen to the answer. Follow through on those needs and wants, as this is self-love in action and can be life-changing.
Realize you are worthy of time, attention, and care, and prioritize your needs. Acknowledge your value and worth, understanding that taking time to rest and seeking help does not signify weakness.
Become a boundaried individual by articulating your needs and protecting your energy. A key tactic is to say “no” as a complete sentence, without offering consolation prizes, and only say “yes” to things that genuinely excite you.
Accept that your mind and emotional health are just as important as your physical health. Let go of the notion that you should be strong enough to fix anxiety or depression on your own, and seek professional help for these needs.
Actively use therapy to unpack fears like rejection as they arise in daily life. This provides a safe, unbiased environment to explore motivations and overcome emotional hurdles.
Dedicate at least one hour of uninterrupted alone time each day to reconnect with yourself, listen to your inner thoughts, and find stillness. This is crucial for self-recharge, especially when your day demands much from you.
Trust that what is meant for you will come, shifting away from a scarcity mindset that compels you to say “yes” to everything out of fear of missing out. This allows you to be more selective with opportunities.
Ground your faith in the universe with belief in yourself, your talents, and your hard work. This calculated risk involves being prepared for opportunities and selectively saying “no” to lukewarm options, trusting the right things will come.
Define success not by external metrics like awards or money, but by working with people who sharpen you (“iron sharpens iron”) and being able to help others through your work.
Don’t wait for an external “white knight” or partner to save you; decide to save yourself. This involves activating change in your life, making mistakes, and learning as you go.
Be aware if you are merely “sleepwalking” through life, going through the motions without truly living or making the most of your experiences. Decide to start living so that when your life flashes before your eyes, you “want to see something.”
Disabuse yourself of the notion that only romantic partnership can solve loneliness. Recognize and take advantage of the platonic love from friends and family that is already present in your life.
Speak your needs and engage in reciprocal relationships where you feel comfortable saying you’re not okay without feeling like a burden. This allows for genuine connection and support.
Practice self-love by “reparenting” yourself, looking at your younger self (e.g., a four or five-year-old girl) who felt she wasn’t enough, and affirming to her, “You are enough.”
Express self-love through consistency and by keeping promises you make to yourself. This builds trust and shows up for yourself in the same way you would for others you love.
Understand that envy often stems from the false assumption that what someone else has was meant for you and was intercepted. Instead, recognize that what they have was meant for them, and your opportunities are still en route.
Approach meditation with grace and flexibility, rather than a perfectionist or “all or nothing” mindset. Allow for missed days or shorter sessions without judgment, as this teaches you grace and draws you back to the practice.
When struggling with a beneficial practice like meditation, “wrestle with it” rather than shelving it and walking away. Persistence through difficulty is key to long-term benefits.
Instead of seeing struggle in your practice as failure, view it as useful feedback. Get curious about what’s happening in those moments, as this curiosity is where benefits will come over time.
Investigate your resistance to quiet and stillness, as constant busyness or “turning the volume up on everything” can be an unconscious escape from truly listening to yourself.
Periodically throughout the day, remind yourself, “Oh, that’s a thought.” This practice helps you get into the driver’s seat of your mind and prevents thoughts from running away with you.
Integrate small moments of mindful breathing and gratitude into your daily life, even during busy or challenging times. This can be a consistent expression of meditation when traditional sits are difficult.