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Modern Life Is Making You Sick, but It Doesn't Have To | Dr. Gabor Maté

Apr 12, 2023 57m 10s 22 insights
<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>There's so much to be grateful for in modern medicine. We can all agree that we would not do as well in a world with no Advil or dentistry. And yet, our guest today, who is a renowned doctor, says modern medicine is overlooking something crucial: the pernicious impact that modern living has on our minds and bodies. In other words, we are surrounded by these hidden societal and structural sources of stress and we aren't thinking about how to treat and prevent these factors that are degrading our happiness and our immune systems. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Dr. Gabor Maté is a bestselling author with an expertise on everything from stress to addiction to ADHD. His latest book is called, <a href="https://drgabormate.com/book/the-myth-of-normal/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture</a></p> <p><br /></p> <p><em>Content Warning: This episode has mentions of child abuse, sexual trauma, suicide and addiction</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>What he means by "the myth of normal"</li> <li>How diseases, such as autoimmune conditions, are an "artifact of civilization"</li> <li>How to begin to tackle what Dr. Maté calls, "the social sources of illness" </li> <li>His definition of trauma and the difference between "big T traumatic events" and the trauma of "wounding"</li> <li>How trauma in society is so normalized that we don't even recognize it</li> <li>Whether the term trauma is overused</li> <li>Why comparing suffering is a fruitless endeavor </li> <li>What he means by "the necessity to be disillusioned" </li> <li>The power and possibility of psychedelics </li> <li>Why he thinks we should incorporate shamanic medicine into our western medical framework</li> <li>And what he means by "undoing self-limiting beliefs" and how these beliefs show up in our everyday lives</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/gabor-mate-586" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/gabor-mate-586</a></p>
Actionable Insights

1. Reconnect with Authentic Self

Actively work to reconnect with the self that trauma disconnected from you, recognizing that early adaptations for survival can later undermine your health and lead to pathology.

2. Practice Self-Compassion

Cultivate self-compassion and avoid comparing your own suffering to others, as this lack of self-compassion is a typical marker of trauma that needs healing.

3. Gain Personal Agency

Take charge of yourself and your health by recognizing aspects of your life you can change, rather than assuming illness is just misfortune or genetic bad luck.

4. Cultivate Authenticity

Reconnect with your authentic self by learning to say “no” when you want to, as not being authentic and suppressing your true feelings will cost your body and mind.

5. Express Healthy Anger

Utilize healthy anger as a boundary defense to maintain your limits, understanding that suppressing it can suppress your immune system and make you prone to illness.

6. Develop Awareness

Cultivate awareness, as it is a necessary foundation for gaining agency, practicing acceptance, being authentic, and expressing healthy anger in your life.

7. Identify Limiting Beliefs

Begin to undo self-limiting beliefs by identifying situations where you have difficulty saying “no,” analyzing the impact of not saying no, and uncovering the underlying belief driving this behavior.

8. Practice Acceptance

Recognize and accept how things truly are in your life, without necessarily tolerating them, as expressing emotions related to reality can lead to better health outcomes.

9. Engage in Emotional Work

Undertake emotional work, which may include therapy or rigorous self-examination, to liberate yourself from the strings of traumatic imprints and become more fully yourself.

10. Prioritize Relational Work

Focus on improving significant relationships, such as marriage, by seeking truth within yourself and your partner, choosing to grow and take responsibility over being ‘right’ or a ‘victim’.

11. Embrace Disillusionment

Be willing to be disillusioned about your own life and society, choosing to look at how things really are rather than believing false views of reality.

12. Understand Trauma as Wounding

Define trauma not as the bad event itself, but as the psychological wound (e.g., feeling unworthy) that happens inside you as a result of what happened, including essential needs not being met in childhood.

13. Recognize Mind-Body Unity

Understand that your mind and body are inseparable, and emotional stress is a significant physiological factor affecting your immune system, hormonal apparatus, nervous system, and organs.

14. View Illness as Environmental Response

Shift your perspective to see illness and pathology as normal responses to abnormal circumstances or the environment, rather than solely individual misfortune.

15. Engage in Spiritual Work

Incorporate spiritual practices into your life, recognizing the importance of connecting the mental, emotional, social, physical, and spiritual quadrants for holistic health.

16. Explore Psychedelics (Guided)

Consider the potential of psychedelics, used in the right setting and with proper guidance, as a tool to remove the membrane between the conscious and unconscious, allowing for powerful healing and connection to your true nature.

17. Integrate Shamanic Medicine

Advocate for incorporating shamanic medicine into Western medical frameworks, especially for chronic mental and physical health issues where Western medicine often only mitigates symptoms.

18. Practice Compassion of Understanding

Extend compassion by seeking to understand the underlying reasons for others’ suffering, recognizing that behaviors like addiction often stem from significant trauma.

19. Practice Compassion of Recognition

Cultivate compassion by recognizing your own shared humanity and struggles with others, acknowledging that you are capable of similar patterns despite different circumstances.

20. Practice Compassion of Possibility

Look beyond people’s current behaviors or appearances to see their essential humanity, goodness, and inherent capacity for healing and transformation, mirroring this back to them.

21. Tackle Social Sources of Illness

Address systemic issues like inequality, racism, and false beliefs about human nature (e.g., inherently competitive) that are documented social sources of widespread illness.

22. Advocate for Trauma Education

Push for the integration of trauma education into medical, educational, and legal systems to foster a deeper understanding of its impact on health and behavior, leading to more compassionate and effective interventions.