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Mirabai Bush, Conversations on Loving and Dying

Mar 6, 2019 1h 6m 13 insights
This week's guest, Mirabai Bush, has co-written a book with spiritual teacher Ram Dass entitled "Walking Each Other Home: Conversations on Loving and Dying. In the book, and in our conversation, Bush explores how death can help us cultivate gratitude, compassion, mindfulness, and an abiding joy in the simple beauty of living. The Plug Zone Website: http://www.mirabaibush.com/ Website: https://www.ramdass.org/
Actionable Insights

1. Embrace Death Awareness

Bring death into your everyday awareness, perhaps by using an app like We Croak or dedicating a minute daily to reflect on it, to become more present and less fearful in your current life.

When thoughts of death arise, sit with them and observe your fears, which can reveal attachments in this life; then, practice letting go of that clinging to relax into the reality of impermanence.

3. Let Go of Regrets

Accept past actions and, if necessary, make apologies or seek forgiveness, then consciously let go of deep regrets, as this practice makes the end of life less difficult.

4. Plan End-of-Life Details

Engage in practical discussions about your wishes for dying, such as where ashes go or if you want music, as this is beneficial for people of all ages to consider.

5. Support Dying Loved Ones

Be a ’loving rock’ for people who are dying by simply being present, loving, and non-judgmental, offering comfort without trying to fix or advise them, which helps the dying person feel held by love.

6. Talk Openly About Death

Engage in conversations about death to reduce your own fear and increase comfort with the topic, and be open about it with children in a natural and appropriate way (e.g., ‘got sick and didn’t get better’).

7. Consistent Daily Meditation

Practice meditation for 5-10 minutes daily, or even 1 minute, as this consistent habit is highly effective for deriving benefits and is a great way to start a new routine.

8. Return to Breath Mindfully

During meditation, when you realize your mind has wandered into thinking, compassionately and gently return your focus to your breath or chosen object of concentration.

9. Investigate The Thinker

When distracted by thoughts during meditation, instead of analyzing the thought, investigate ‘who is thinking’ or ‘who is hearing’ to explore the fundamental mystery of consciousness.

10. Cultivate Self & Other Awareness

Practice self-awareness and awareness of others, including compassion, loving kindness, and mindful listening, especially if you are highly analytical or work in teams, to improve social skills.

11. Bring Wisdom to Midlife

Strive to integrate the wisdom typically associated with old age, such as comfort with impermanence, into the middle of your life.

12. Seek Insights Through Conversation

Engage in conversations with close friends to gain new insights and express thoughts, especially if you experience communication challenges like aphasia.

13. Start Lifelong Practice Now

Begin meditation and self-awareness practices now, understanding that ‘waking up’ is a gradual, lifelong unfolding process, not an overnight transformation.