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Mingyur Rinpoche

Jul 27, 2016 1h 14 insights
Mingyur Rinpoche, the author of "The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness," is a study of contradictions. On one hand, he's been formally recognized as the reincarnation of two Tibetan meditation masters. On the other hand, he has been working with scientists to design research around the impact meditation can have on the brain. In fact, he and other practitioners had their brain activity measured while meditating on compassion and the researchers were stunned by the results. Mingyur also freely admits that he suffered from anxiety and panic attacks as a child, and talks about how he turned to meditation for help.
Actionable Insights

1. Accept and Befriend Panic

Instead of trying to get rid of panic, accept it and learn to live with it, facing it directly. This shift in mindset can lead to panic becoming a ‘friend’ and eventually dissipating.

2. Use Panic as Meditation Support

Once you have some experience, use panic as a support for meditation, just like you would your breath. By observing panic, you create space between yourself and the emotion, indicating freedom from its grip.

3. Shift Focus from Overwhelming Panic

If panic is too overwhelming to observe directly, try focusing on a different strong emotion (like anger) or sensory input (like sound) to build awareness, then gradually return to observing panic for short periods.

4. Step Back from Aversion to Panic

If direct observation of panic or shifting focus doesn’t work, ‘step back’ and observe the emotion behind the panic, such as resistance or aversion to the panic itself, as these can be stronger than the panic.

5. Take Breaks from Intense Practice

When meditation on strong emotions becomes too difficult, take a break by walking, reading a boring book, or doing physical exercise, then return to meditation later.

6. Seek Lasting Happiness Within

Do not look for peace in external reality; understand that lasting happiness is found within oneself, a fundamental shift in perspective for cultivating inner calm.

7. Practice Secular Awareness Meditation

Engage in ‘Joy of Living Level 1’ practices to introduce and connect with your own awareness, recognizing that it is always present. Use sensory objects, thoughts, and emotions as support for this awareness to live joyfully under any circumstances, meditating anywhere, anytime, even for a few seconds.

8. Cultivate Love and Compassion

Practice ‘Joy of Living Level 2’ by recognizing that the essence of love (wanting happiness) and compassion (wanting freedom from suffering) are innate. Nurture these qualities and expand them to all living beings.

9. Develop Innate Wisdom

Engage in ‘Joy of Living Level 3’ to recognize innate wisdom, understanding impermanence and interdependence. The goal is to go beyond concepts, liberating the unhealthy sense of self while manifesting a healthy one.

10. Examine Teachings, Don’t Blindly Believe

Adopt the Buddha’s advice: do not take words on faith just because they are spoken. Instead, examine, contemplate, and meditate on teachings before accepting them.

11. Practice Humility in Sharing Experiences

Moderate discussions about personal meditation experiences to avoid showing off, which can lead to ego and selfishness. Share only with your teacher or trusted spiritual peers who practice the same teachings.

12. Engage in Positive Prayer

Utilize prayer, believing that words have special power to create positive, interdependent connections. You can pray to a deity, for other sentient beings, or by connecting with your own true nature, without needing a supreme being to fulfill the prayer.

13. Prepare for Dying through Meditation

Practice ‘dying meditation’ by resting your mind in open awareness when facing extreme challenges or the prospect of death. This can lead to profound experiences of clarity, openness, and a reduced fear of death.

14. Embrace Life’s Challenges for Growth

Seek out difficult challenges in life, as they provide opportunities to develop meditation practice and learn about life beyond your usual circle, fostering personal growth and becoming ‘more human’.