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Michael Imperioli (From The Sopranos and White Lotus) Knows a Shitload About Buddhist Meditation

Apr 24, 2023 58m 24s 19 insights
<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p>--------</p> <p>Actor Michael Imperioli is best known for a string of memorable onscreen performances that include <em>Goodfellas</em>, <em>The Sopranos</em>, and most recently on <em>The White Lotus</em>. What you may not know is that he has a deep Buddhist practice and has actually grown into something of a meditation teacher. </p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>The classic celebrity life crisis that brought Imperioli to Buddhism </li> <li>The importance of consistent practice as a way to get familiar with your mind so that your thoughts and emotions and urges don't own you</li> <li>The specific Tibetan Buddhist tradition Imperioli practices and what his daily practice looks like</li> <li>Whether meditation helps him be more creative</li> <li>How acting and meditation are similar</li> <li>Whether getting older affects our ability to grok impermanence</li> <li>Why Imperioli started teaching meditation online</li> <li>How to meditate off the cushion in daily life</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/michael-imperioli-590" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"></a><a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/michael-imperioli-591" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/michael-imperioli-591</a><a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/michael-imperioli-590" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> </a></p> <p><br /></p>
Actionable Insights

1. Consistent Daily Meditation

Engage in consistent meditation practice, even if it’s just 20 minutes daily, to get familiar with your mind and prevent thoughts and emotions from controlling you.

2. Examine Your Mind’s State

Regularly examine the state of your mind by asking ‘What’s the attitude in the mind right now?’ to honestly observe its workings and prevent selfish impulses from dictating actions.

3. Practice Mindfulness Off-Cushion

Extend mindfulness beyond formal meditation sessions into daily life, aiming to improve overall well-being and how you navigate the world, not just to be a good meditator.

4. Cultivate Patience as Obligation

Develop patience not merely as a virtue, but as an obligation for a practitioner; in frustrating situations, open to the moment and release judgment to transform the experience.

5. Set Altruistic Practice Intention

Begin your meditation with an altruistic intention, using aspirations like the ‘four measurables,’ and conclude by dedicating any merit gained to the benefit of all beings.

6. Utilize Mindfulness for Response Delay

Use mindfulness to create a ‘seven-second delay’ between an emotion or impulse and your reaction, allowing you to choose a constructive response rather than acting impulsively.

7. Dispel Meditation Misconceptions

Understand that meditation is not about having a quiet mind or stopping thoughts; busy minds are normal, and the practice involves working with thoughts, not eliminating them.

8. Seek Authentic Spiritual Teacher

If interested in Buddhist practice, find a teacher from an authentic lineage to avoid ‘watered-down versions’ and access genuine, living traditions for deeper progress.

9. Apply Basic Ethical Sanity

Use your basic sanity and ethical discipline to guide your actions, determining if they harm yourself or others, rather than relying on dogmatic rules.

10. Acknowledge Innate Buddha Nature

Understand that ‘prayer’ in Buddhism is about acknowledging and honoring the innate enlightened nature within all sentient beings, which is uncovered, not acquired externally.

11. Embrace Impermanence & Unpredictability

Cultivate mental space to acknowledge the truth of impermanence and life’s unpredictability, which can lead to a more meaningful existence and shift motivations.

12. Learn from Life’s Upheavals

Be open to lessons from great upheaval, tragedy, or significant change, as these experiences can reveal the nature of reality and impermanence, fostering wisdom.

13. Align Actions with Understanding

Strive to align your actions (body, speech, and mind) with your theoretical understanding of ethical and spiritual principles to bridge the gap between knowledge and practice.

14. Patience Isn’t Passive Acceptance

Recognize that cultivating patience does not imply being a doormat; intervene in situations where abuse or harm is occurring to protect yourself or others.

15. Choose Freedom Over Being Right

Prioritize freedom from reactivity and attachment over being ‘right’ or justifying impatience, as rushing diminishes your capacity for love and compassion.

16. Teach to Deepen Your Practice

Consider teaching or explaining your spiritual practice to others, as articulating and breaking it down can reinforce your own stability and understanding.

17. Live a Useful, Engaged Life

Strive to live a useful and engaged life, rather than merely consuming, especially when considering a potentially long lifespan, to find deeper meaning.

18. Habituate to Your Mind

View meditation as ‘gom’ (to habituate), a process of getting intimately familiar with your mind’s patterns and workings.

19. Practice Quiet Mind Stillness

Incorporate quiet mind meditation into your practice, focusing on stillness and allowing thoughts to arise and dissolve without engagement.