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Meditation Party with Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren: Psychedelics, ADHD, Waking Up From Distraction, and Singing Without Being Self-Conscious

May 17, 2023 1h 7m 42 insights
<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p>---</p> <p>Welcome to Round II of the Meditation Party. The feedback we got from our first episode was overwhelmingly positive, so we're going for it again. Meditation Party is an experiment we're running with a chattier format – more of a morning zoo vibe, but way deeper, of course. The real agenda here is to show that meditation doesn't have to be a solo death march; it is vastly enhanced by having friends. </p> <p>Dan's co-hosts in this episode are his two close friends: the great meditation teachers Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren. Sebene Selassie is based in Brooklyn and describes herself as a "writer, teacher, and immigrant-weirdo." She teaches meditation on the Ten Percent Happier app and is the author of a great book called, <em>You Belong</em>. Jeff Warren is based in Toronto and is also a writer and meditation teacher who co-wrote the book, <em>Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics</em> with Dan Harris. Jeff also hosts the Consciousness Explorers podcast.</p> <p>In this episode, we talk to Jeff about what it's like to be a meditation teacher who has ADHD. And even if you don't have ADHD, there's a lot of practical value to this conversation, because we all have unruly minds, and Jeff has found some great ways to work with this condition. </p> <p>We also take listener questions, discussing topics like drugs. Specifically, psychedelics — and whether you're violating Buddhist precepts if you take them. We also talk about how frustrating it can be to repeatedly wake up from distraction in meditation. </p> <p>And finally, we have a segment talking about the stuff we're psyched about right now… in which Sebene sings for us. </p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/sebene-selassie-jeff-warren-601" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/sebene-selassie-jeff-warren-601</a></p>
Actionable Insights

1. Prioritize Regular Social Contact

Systematize regular social contact with invigorating people you enjoy, as this has been shown to be a massive boost to mental health.

2. Cultivate Inner Sense of Belonging

Cultivate a sense of belonging and fittedness from within by engaging in practices that connect you to yourself, strangers, and the world, rather than solely seeking external validation.

3. Embrace Authenticity, Reduce Masking

Practice authenticity and self-expression by avoiding censoring yourself to align with perceived audience expectations or others’ opinions, which is a big part of the meditation party.

4. Overcome Self-Consciousness

Actively work on overcoming self-consciousness, as it limits what you feel capable of doing in all aspects of life, not just dancing.

5. Articulate Challenges for Perspective

Verbally articulate exactly how you are being challenged in the moment, as this is healing and takes you out of the experience to give you more perspective and agency.

6. Use Mindfulness for Self-Regulation

Bring mindfulness to support conditions like ADHD by pausing, observing what is actually happening, and returning to your breath to develop self-regulation.

7. Integrate Meditation into Daily Life

Thread meditative principles like ‘wandering and coming back’ or self-compassion into your daily activities without stopping, making meditation a continuous flow rather than a strict, separate practice.

8. Shake and Move to Release Restlessness

To manage restlessness or hyperactive energy, start by shaking your body, then progress to more fluid movement, dancing, animated yoga, tai chi, or walking.

9. Freestyle Focus Meditation for ADHD

For ADHD meditation, allow your mind to wander with a ‘freestyle focus,’ then gently bring it back, practicing this ‘wandering and coming back’ as a flexible, on-the-fly meditation habit.

10. Slow Dance with Restlessness

Engage in a ‘slow motion dance party’ by locating feelings of self-consciousness or restlessness and moving with them, as if slow dancing, to process and integrate them.

11. Return to Focus in Meditation

In meditation, accept that thoughts will arise; the practice is not about stopping them but about repeatedly noticing distraction and gently returning your attention, viewing it as a continuous process of ‘coming home.’

12. Allow Thoughts, Gently Return

Allow thoughts to be present without interference during meditation, and consistently return your focus, as this is the core training that everyone is in.

13. Observe Sensations During Panic

When experiencing intense emotions like panic, become aware of the physical sensations, rate their intensity (e.g., on a scale of 1-10), and observe them as they change, shifting into the ‘watcher’ mode to reduce feeling stuck.

14. Name Your Experience for Relief

Simply naming and acknowledging your current experience can provide immediate relief and perspective, especially when dealing with intense mental states.

15. Broaden Mindfulness to Whole Being

Broaden your mindfulness practice beyond just the mind to include your whole being; lean back and feel what’s happening in the moment to create a wider, less overwhelming perspective.

16. Return to Felt Sense Experience

When feeling overwhelmed or experiencing a ‘violent awakening’ from distraction, return to your felt sense experience by focusing on your body and remembering your presence, rather than trying to track every thought or emotion.

17. Track Experiences to Prevent Overwhelm

To prevent emotional overwhelm, especially when working with trauma, practice tracking experiences in your body and mind consistently.

18. Grounding Techniques for Overwhelm

When experiencing overwhelming ‘violent awakening’ during meditation, use grounding techniques such as opening your eyes, placing a hand on your body, deep breathing, lying down, or touching the ground to self-regulate.

19. Dance Soberly for Joy, No Self-Consciousness

Engage in sober dance parties or personal dancing without concern for how you look, embracing physical expression for joy and self-liberation.

20. Incorporate Spontaneous Daily Dance

Incorporate spontaneous dancing into your daily life, even in mundane settings like your living room or a subway platform, to express joy and liberate yourself.

21. Sing as Morning Contemplation

Re-engage with singing, using chants or songs as a morning meditation and contemplation to remember your true nature, purpose, and community.

22. Express Internally for Healing

Recognize that certain healing or awakening processes require external expression through singing and dancing, as some things cannot be resolved purely internally.

23. Cultivate Meaning with Diverse Practices

To cultivate a sense of meaning and wisdom, engage in an ’ecology of practices’ – a diverse set of activities and approaches that support your relationship with yourself and the world.

24. Seek Diagnosis for Neurodiversity Support

If you suspect a neurodiverse condition, seek a diagnosis to connect with best practices and supportive communities, which can be a significant step in understanding and managing your condition.

25. Enhance Meditation with Friends

Meditate with friends to enhance the experience and avoid it feeling like a solo struggle or ‘death march.’

26. Solicit Critical Feedback

Actively solicit critical and constructive feedback after offering anything, and pay attention to it, even if it feels outsized, to identify areas for improvement.

27. Balance Feedback Integration

Be aware that constantly adjusting to every criticism to include one person might alienate another group, suggesting a balance is needed to maintain integrity.

28. Don’t Dilute Your Message

Avoid over-integrating all feedback, especially outlier criticisms, to prevent diluting the core message or purpose of your work.

29. Avoid Epiphany Expectations

Avoid setting expectations or goals for ’epiphanies’ in meditation, as this can lead to frustration and hinder the practice.

30. Evaluate Substances for Heedlessness

When considering substances, evaluate whether they lead to ‘heedlessness’ (lack of mindfulness or care), as this is the key criterion from a Buddhist perspective.

31. Psychedelics Not Always Necessary

Understand that psychedelics are not necessary for healing or spiritual insight, as different approaches work for different individuals.

32. Healing Not Dependent on Psychedelics

Recognize that while psychedelics can offer benefits, they are not a mandatory path for healing, especially given current trends.

33. Integrate Psychedelic Insights with Meditation

If using psychedelics, ensure you have an integration plan or a meditation practice to help sustain and apply any insights gained, as breakthroughs without integration are less effective.

34. Approach Psychedelics with Caution

Approach psychedelics with caution and intelligence, recognizing the complexities and potential risks associated with their use, as many people are not doing it intelligently.

35. Plant Medicine for Life Transitions

Consider plant medicine ceremonies as potential ‘initiation experiences’ that can reveal new perspectives and facilitate significant life changes, such as career shifts.

36. Integrate Indigenous Healing Knowledge

Acknowledge the indigenous origins of plant medicines and consider how to respectfully and effectively integrate this ancient knowledge into contemporary healing practices.

37. Connect Beyond Self in Psychedelics

When engaging with psychedelics or similar practices, aim to connect with the larger world and external forces, rather than solely focusing on personal issues, to align with indigenous wisdom.

38. Dance as Meditation for Insights

Explore dancing as a form of meditation to achieve deep insights and connect with mind, body, and world, similar to insights gained on the cushion.

39. Watch Podcast Videos on YouTube

To access video content of the podcast, visit the 10% Happier YouTube channel, where a link will be provided in the show notes.

40. Attend Meditation Party Retreat

Attend the Meditation Party Retreat (in-person or via Zoom) in October at Omega to engage with the teachers and community; a link to sign up is in the show notes.

41. Try the 10% Happier App

Download the ‘10% with Dan Harris’ app for guided meditations, weekly live Zoom community sessions, and ad-free podcast episodes, with a 14-day free trial available at danharris.com.

42. Get Licensed for Nature Meditations

If you love leading meditations in nature, consider getting the necessary licenses or certifications (e.g., hiking guide) to do so legally and safely.