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Mallika Chopra, Introducing Middle Schoolers to Meditation

Aug 29, 2018 55m 22s 22 insights
Mallika Chopra calls meditation "a great gift" to her life, not only because she said it causes a dramatically positive change in her father, Deepak Chopra, but also because it has helped her through her own parenting journey of raising two daughters with her husband. - Nightline debate, "Does God Have a Future?" https://abcn.ws/2Nv5OPw - Twitter, Facebook, Instagram: @mallikachopra - Website: http://www.mallikachopra.com/ - Books: http://www.mallikachopra.com/books-2/
Actionable Insights

1. Boost Focus with Daily Meditation

Engage in daily meditation by trying to focus on one thing at a time, and then gently restarting when distracted. This exercise has been shown to rewire brain parts related to attention regulation, thereby boosting focus.

2. Reduce Emotional Reactivity

Practice mindfulness to feel less owned by your emotions, which enables you to make better decisions and respond wisely instead of reacting blindly to provocations, offering strategic value in various situations.

3. Foster Kindness Through Self-Awareness

Use meditation to cultivate self-awareness, which helps you avoid being controlled by your emotions and boosts your ability to be kind to yourself and others. This leads to being healthier, happier, more popular, and more successful.

4. Reflect on Core Life Questions

Regularly ask yourself four fundamental questions: ‘Who am I?’, ‘What do I want?’, ‘How can I serve?’, and ‘What am I grateful for?’ to gain clarity, purpose, and a deeper understanding of yourself.

5. Re-establish Meditation During Stress

When feeling stressed and overwhelmed, re-engage with a regular meditation practice, even for just 5-10 minutes daily. This can help you find grounding, process thoughts, prioritize, and let go of stress, leading to more rest and peace.

6. Model Mindfulness for Children

Instead of forcing children to meditate or telling them they should be mindful, practice mindfulness yourself as a parent. This modeling is more likely to have a longer-lasting positive mental and psychological impact on your child.

7. Cultivate Inner Silence

Practice meditation to find an inner silence, which provides a grounding in self-knowledge and helps navigate conflicting external messages, especially during formative years when identity is being found.

8. Experiment with Meditation Techniques

Be a skeptic and try various meditation techniques, such as breath-focused, mantra-based, or body awareness exercises, to discover what works best for you personally.

9. Practice Everyday Mindfulness

Extend mindfulness beyond formal meditation by being aware of your internal dialogue, how you walk, speak, eat, and mindfully listen and interact with others in daily life.

10. Incorporate Feedback with Mindfulness

When receiving tough feedback, use mindfulness to incorporate it wisely and avoid lapsing into defensiveness, allowing for more effective personal growth and learning.

11. Use Yoga for Energy Release

Practice basic yoga, especially if you find it hard to sit still, as it is a great way to become more aware of your body, move, and let out energy, which can be particularly beneficial for kids.

12. Practice Gratitude and Intentions

Boost motivation by regularly engaging in gratitude exercises and setting positive intentions, which helps in creating a constructive internal dialogue for both kids and adults.

13. Cultivate Curiosity & Open-Mindedness

Approach life with curiosity and an open mind, being fascinated by what others do and interacting with different people without judgment. This can make life more joyful and help deflect negativity.

14. Affirm Personal Responsibility

Regularly affirm the mantra: ‘I am responsible for what I see. I choose the feelings I experience and set the goals I will achieve. And everything that seems to happen to me, I ask for and receive as I have asked.’

15. Prioritize Non-Material Desires

When considering what you want in life, focus on asking for non-material things like love, connection, peace, and a sense of purpose, in addition to any material goals.

16. Don’t Take Life Seriously

Adopt a mindset of not taking life too seriously, as this can help you avoid getting offended easily and deflect negativity, contributing to a more joyful and resilient approach to life.

17. Proactively Explore Opportunities

When an opportunity arises, even if you don’t have the immediate answer, commit to finding out and connecting with relevant people to make things happen, rather than dismissing it.

18. Empower Kids with “Just Breathe”

Provide middle schoolers (ages 8-12) with the book ‘Just Breathe’ to empower them to discover and practice meditation and mindfulness techniques independently, without requiring parental assembly.

19. Introduce Simple Mindfulness to Kids

Introduce children to mindfulness through simple, non-dogmatic exercises like taking mindful walks (e.g., 10 steps noticing feelings), eating meals quietly with family, or practicing gratitude before bed.

20. Use Simple Mantras

When starting meditation, especially for kids or beginners, try using simple words like ‘I am’ or ‘Aham’ silently to yourself as a mantra, as they can be soothing and healing sounds.

21. Avoid Meditation Guilt

If you miss a meditation session or don’t practice regularly, avoid feeling guilty or stressed about it, as the goal is to find a beneficial practice, not to add another source of stress.

22. Introduce Kids to Meditation

For parents looking to introduce meditation to younger children, consider using the book ‘Mindful Games’ by Susan Kaiser Greenland with Annika Harris.