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Living on Overtime, David C. Fajgenbaum

Sep 18, 2019 1h 10m 15 insights
David Fajgenbaum, a young, promising medical student, could not have imagined he would become a patient in the same hospital he was serving his residency. After being diagnosed with a very rare illness, he came close to death on multiple occasions. In the throes of one encounter, he promised himself that if he survived, he would make a difference in the fight against this disease. Through his research, he found a drug that he believes has helped him into remission. In the wake of his bouts, he has chosen to live his life "on overtime," time that he is extremely lucky to have, gifting him a unique perspective on living we can all learn from. Fajgenbaum is the Co-Founder and Executive Director of the Castleman Disease Collaborative Network and leads the Castleman Research Program at Penn Medicine. He is the author of Chasing My Cure which details his journey of going from a college athlete, living a healthy life to being diagnosed, and the hurdles he had overcome with love, determination and faith. Plug Zone Actively Moving Forward (AMF): https://healgrief.org/ The Castleman Disease Collaborative Network (CDCN): https://cdcn.org/ Book: https://chasingmycure.com/ Twitter: @DavidFajgenbaum Facebook: @davidfajgenbaum, https://www.facebook.com/davidfajgenbaum/ ***VOICEMAILS*** Have a question for Dan? Leave us a voicemail: 646-883-8326
Actionable Insights

1. Think It, Do It

If you think about something important you want to do or say, act on it immediately. Do not talk yourself out of it or wait for a perfect future moment, as life’s uncertainty means every second counts.

2. Turn Hope Into Action

Do not merely hope, pray, or wish for things to happen; if something is important enough to hope for, let that desire drive you to take concrete actions to make it a reality.

3. Live Life On Overtime

Recognize that none of us know how much time we have, so live every second with clarity and purpose, as if you are in ‘overtime’ where every moment is critical and must be made the most of.

4. Focus on Purpose & People

When facing life’s challenges, prioritize your core purpose (e.g., meaningful work) and the people you love, as these provide essential strength, motivation, and are the most important things in the world.

5. Create Silver Linings

Instead of passively looking for positive outcomes from tough times, actively create positive opportunities or movements from difficult experiences. This transforms challenges into something meaningful and impactful.

6. Transcending Self-Focus

Shift your focus outwards, beyond personal desires, to causes or people bigger than yourself. This outward orientation can be liberating, adding power and energy to your life and reducing suffering.

7. Never Decline Family Time

Make it a priority to spend time with your family whenever possible. These moments are precious, and you may regret not having taken those opportunities later in life.

8. Ask ‘What Matters Most?’

When contemplating your life or making decisions, use the phrase ‘what matters most’ to guide your thoughts. This helps to focus on core priorities like family and love, cutting through less significant worries.

9. Embrace Humor in Adversity

Utilize humor as a critical and powerful tool to navigate extremely tough times, even when facing death. It can provide essential relief and help both you and your loved ones cope with difficult situations.

10. Ritualize Commute for Transition

Use your commute, such as a walk, as a ritualistic ‘reset’ period to mentally transition between different modes of life (e.g., professional to personal). This helps you prepare for the next phase with greater presence and intention.

11. Practice the ‘Middle Way’

Avoid extreme or hyper-focused approaches in life, such as overly strict diets, and instead embrace a ‘gray area’ of flexibility and balance. Recognize that you don’t control everything and that life isn’t always black or white.

12. Confront Difficult Emotions in Meditation

It is beneficial to deal forthrightly with and clearly observe difficult thoughts and emotions within the structured ‘container’ of meditation. This approach is better than allowing them to stew unconsciously and drive your actions blindly.

13. Start Meditation Slowly

If you are new to meditation or experiencing distress, approach the practice slowly and with self-care. Begin with short periods, such as five minutes a day, to gradually build confidence and interest.

14. Try Walking Meditation for Distress

When feeling distressed, consider practicing walking meditation as an alternative to sitting. Directing attention externally during a walk can make it easier to manage difficult internal thoughts and emotions.

15. Meditate While Lying Down

It is perfectly acceptable to meditate while lying down, especially if it’s the only time or way you can practice effectively without falling asleep. The key is to sustain attention, and lying down is a traditional posture.