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Life, Interrupted | Suleika Jaouad

Sep 13, 2021 1h 14 insights
Here's a thought experiment: how would you handle it if you got a terrible diagnosis? Of course, many of us have no choice but to find out. This is the situation Suleika Jaouad faced when she got gravely ill at a very young age. She had to figure out how to have a sense of agency when so much was out of her control, and how to stay awake and present when her life was hanging in the balance.  Suleika Jaouad is a journalist, author, speaker, cancer survivor, and the author of a book called Between Two Kingdoms: A Memoir of a Life Interrupted. She is also the creator of "Life, Interrupted," the Emmy award-winning New York Times column and video series that she created from her hospital bed.  In this conversation, we talk about: Suleika's journey from being diagnosed with leukemia as a young adult to her recovery today; managing your emotions in excruciating situations; handling an ocean of uncertainty; feeding your need for creativity and productivity when your body is in mutiny mode; and the immense value of strategically going easy on yourself, especially when you're an ambitious person.  Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/suleika-jaouad-378
Actionable Insights

1. Journal for Narrative Control

Keep a daily journal to jot down observations, feelings, and taboo topics. This practice provides a sense of narrative control during times when much of your life feels out of your hands, allowing you to process difficult experiences.

2. Embrace Vulnerable Sharing

Dare to share what’s truly going on for you in a real way, as vulnerability begets vulnerability. This encourages others to reciprocate, fostering deeper connections by dropping masks and curated personas.

3. Advocate for Your Health

Approach your health like a journalist: do thorough research, get second and third opinions, and speak to fellow patients. Arm yourself with information and due diligence to be an effective advocate for your own medical care.

4. Prioritize with ‘Three Things’

Start your day by asking yourself: ‘If I could only do three things today, what would feel most important, rewarding, and nourishing?’ This thought exercise helps clarify priorities and focus energy, especially when feeling overwhelmed.

5. Stay Present Amidst Uncertainty

Learn to ‘swim in an ocean of uncertainty’ by staying present in whatever ’trip’ you’re on, without allowing your thoughts to ’time travel’ to the past or a scary future. This helps manage anxiety when life is upended and the ground feels unstable.

6. Find Creative Outlets

Make friends with yourself through some kind of creative outlet, whether writing, art, or another mode of expression. This allows you to ‘give ink’ to indescribable or uncontainable feelings, serving as a form of healing and self-examination.

7. Be Bold, Don’t Wait

When facing significant life challenges or opportunities, adopt a ’no time to waste’ mindset and be bold in asserting yourself or pursuing ambitions. This encourages you to ‘go for it’ rather than waiting, especially if you tend to be sheepish.

8. Challenge Constant Striving

Resist the culture of constant hustling, striving, and comparison to others or past versions of yourself. Instead, cultivate more ease in your days and take a ‘pulse check’ to understand not just where you’re going, but more importantly, why.

9. Create Personal Healing Rituals

When formal rites of passage are absent for significant life transitions (like surviving trauma), create your own ritualized healing ceremonies. This can help bridge the distance between ’no longer’ and ’not yet,’ aiding in recovery and re-entry.

10. Accept the ‘Messy Middle’ of Health

Release expectations of achieving a perfect state of wellness and avoid constantly striving for an ideal, mirage-like health. Instead, learn to accept yourself as you are and exist somewhere in the ‘messy middle’ of feeling well or unwell.

11. Utilize Workarounds for Limited Energy

When energy is limited, break down tasks into short, staggered bursts (e.g., 10-minute writing sessions). This allows you to maintain productivity and a sense of agency even from confined or challenging circumstances.

Be critical of the wellness industrial complex and unsolicited medical advice, especially when vulnerable. Do your research and think carefully before diving into anything sold as miraculous, to avoid misinformation and being taken advantage of.

13. Explore The Isolation Journals

Explore ‘The Isolation Journals,’ a free creative community that sends weekly journaling prompts from artists and writers. This resource offers a structured way to practice creative expression for healing, connection, and self-examination.

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