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Jordan Harbinger On: How To Succeed at Work; How to Network Without Being Gross; And How Not To Succumb To Hustle Culture

Mar 19, 2025 1h 17m 19 insights
<p dir="ltr">Career advice from a man who has walked the walk. </p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.jordanharbinger.com/">Jordan Harbinger</a> is a Wall Street lawyer turned podcast interviewer with an approachable style and knack for securing high-profile guests. His podcast, <a href="https://www.jordanharbinger.com/podcasts/">The Jordan Harbinger Show</a>, was selected as part of Apple's "Best of 2018."</p> <p dir="ltr">This episode is part of our ongoing <a href="https://www.danharris.com/t/sanely-ambitious">Sanely Ambitious</a> series.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr">How to engage in networking without being gross. He has lots of interesting techniques here, including something called Gmail roulette</li> <li dir="ltr">He also has a cardinal rule that I found compelling</li> <li dir="ltr">We also talk about: The ripple effect of generosity</li> <li dir="ltr">How to ask for a raise</li> <li dir="ltr">The strategic value of asking for advice</li> <li dir="ltr">How to deal with a bad boss</li> <li dir="ltr">How to persuade and negotiate</li> <li dir="ltr">And the many problems with hustle culture</li> </ul> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's newsletter <a href="http://www.danharris.com">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href="https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href="https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Ten Percent Happier online <a href="https://bit.ly/46TZglY">bookstore</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href="https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Our favorite playlists on: <a href="https://spoti.fi/3Qa8kMT">Anxiety</a>, <a href="https://spoti.fi/3MjtMxF">Sleep</a>, <a href="https://spoti.fi/3QvyA5J">Relationships</a>, <a href="https://spoti.fi/3QxZASc">Most Popular Episodes</a></p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Additional Resources: </p> <ul> <li dir="ltr"> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.danharris.com/t/sanely-ambitious">Sanely Ambitious</a></p> </li> </ul>
Actionable Insights

1. Dig the Well Before Thirsty

Proactively build and nurture relationships before you need them, creating a robust network that can serve as an invaluable ‘insurance policy’ during times of career or personal need, rather than trying to build connections in a crisis.

2. Generosity in Networking

Approach networking with a mindset of helping others as much as possible, without being attached to getting anything in return, as this builds a strong, reciprocal foundation and a positive reputation.

3. Never Keep Score in Relationships

Avoid keeping score in relationships, as it poisons the well and leads to feeling resentful; only consider it if you genuinely feel you are being taken advantage of.

4. Prioritize Rest for Productivity

Recognize that work and rest are two sides of the same coin; prioritize adequate rest, including engaging in hobbies that refresh your mind, to avoid burnout and bring fresh ideas and sustained productivity to your work.

5. Reject Hustle Culture

Insulate yourself from ‘hustle culture’ content and its deceptive, disingenuous message that you are never enough, as it relies on temporary, ineffective motivation and is inherently bad for your well-being.

6. Embrace Career Pivots

View your career path as a meandering hike rather than a rigid railroad track, allowing yourself to pivot and explore different interests without the pressure of making a lifelong decision, which prevents burnout and opens new opportunities.

7. Earn a Raise by Adding Value

To earn a raise, proactively seek out projects or tasks in other departments, even after hours with your boss’s permission, that add significant, quantifiable value (e.g., automating tasks to save hours), then present the value you’ve created when asking for compensation.

8. Strategic Value of Asking Advice

Asking someone for advice not only provides you with guidance but also leverages the ‘Benjamin Franklin effect,’ making them psychologically invested in your success because they’ve helped you.

9. Consistent Networking Outperforms Privilege

Consistently nurture and expand your network over decades, as sustained effort in relationship building can ultimately create a wider and deeper network than inherited privilege alone.

10. Prioritize Intimate Communication

When engaging with people, especially friends, always choose the most intimate method of communication available (e.g., text, phone call, in-person visit) over public social media interactions like likes or comments, to foster deeper and more memorable connections.

11. Utilize the Dossier Technique

Before meeting someone you want to connect with, create a ‘dossier’ by researching their work, recent activities, and personal interests (e.g., hobbies like squash) to find common ground and initiate a more personal, memorable interaction.

12. Daily ‘Connect Four’ Text Routine

Every weekday, send a personalized text message to four people you haven’t connected with in a while, including your name, a brief update about yourself (e.g., kids, location), and an open-ended question about what they’re up to, without pressuring for an immediate reply.

13. Daily ‘Gmail Roulette’ Check-in

Once or twice a day, open your email, type a random combination of letters, and if an interesting contact autocompletes, send them a quick check-in note to stay top-of-mind and foster connections.

14. Bring Passion, Don’t Just Follow It

Instead of strictly ‘following your passion,’ bring your passion and full focus to whatever work you are doing, even if it’s not your ideal job, to excel and gain valuable experience without committing to it long-term.

15. Embrace Vulnerability for Connection

Put down your emotional shield and be vulnerable by sharing your struggles and past mistakes, as this fosters deeper connections, helps others feel understood, and encourages them to open up to you.

16. Filter Relationships Wisely

Learn to filter people into different buckets, especially those who know, like, and trust you, to ensure they have your best interests in mind and avoid negative influences.

17. Seek Advice from Precedents

When navigating complex systems like creating a custom degree, seek out and ask for introductions to people who have successfully done it before, then learn from their presentation strategies and insights.

18. Design Your Own Path

When possible, design your own academic or career path by selecting courses or projects you are genuinely interested in, then create a coherent narrative and a compelling name for it to stand out.

19. Help Others Without Self-Derailment

Be generous in helping others, but ensure the assistance you provide does not derail your own ability to do your work, as this approach offers doses of joy and positive reinforcement without personal cost.