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Jonathan Haidt on: The Upside of Striving, How to Build a Stronger Mind, And What to Do with Ideas You Hate

Feb 27, 2023 53m 26s 19 insights
<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p>---</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Usually episodes of this show are organized around one big question, but today's guest, Jonathan Haidt, is just too interesting for one clear focus. In this episode, we dig into a ton of fascinating topics, including: why it can make you happier to see your own irrationality and hypocrisy, the value of interacting with ideas you do not like, how to navigate social media sanely, how to get ahead at work (and stay happy in the process), the upside of striving, the wisdom of the Stoics, and more. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Jonathan Haidt is a renowned social psychologist from New York University's Stern school of business and the author of many books, including: <a href="http://www.happinesshypothesis.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom</em></a>, <a href="https://righteousmind.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>The Righteous Mind: Why Good People are Divided by Politics and Religion</em></a>, and <a href="https://www.thecoddling.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas are Setting Up a Generation for Failure</em></a>. Since 2018, he's been studying the contributions of social media to the decline of teen mental health and the rise of political dysfunction. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>One other note: heads up that this conversation includes mentions of self-harm and suicide.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>Haidt's elephant and rider metaphor that explains how our minds' operate</li> <li>How to use different techniques from hypnosis to Buddhist and Stoic practices to tame our unconscious</li> <li>Why we've evolved to be hypocrites and how admitting our flaws can help us come out ahead</li> <li>Buddhism as a counterpoint to our success oriented culture</li> <li>The deleterious effects of social media on democracy and young people's mental health </li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/jonathan-haidt-567</a></p>
Actionable Insights

1. Cultivate Internal Harmony

Strive for a better harmony between your rational mind (the ‘rider’) and your intuitive, emotional processes (the ’elephant’), rather than viewing your rational mind as solely in control or trying to force the ’elephant’ to obey. The goal is for these parts to work together effectively.

2. Recognize Your Own Hypocrisy

Cultivate humility by understanding that all humans, including yourself, are prone to hypocrisy and struggle to discern truth. Admitting your flaws and being honest about them can paradoxically lead to long-term benefits and personal growth.

3. Embrace Anti-Fragility for Growth

Understand that you are anti-fragile, meaning you grow stronger through exposure to stress and challenges. Intentionally take risks and put yourself out there, as this is how you learn, grow, and become more resilient.

4. Train Your Elephant Mind

Utilize practices like meditation, self-hypnosis, and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to gradually train your intuitive and emotional ’elephant’ mind. These methods help you catch and correct automatic, erroneous thoughts and gain control over your internal responses.

5. Adopt Stoic Mental Practices

Implement Stoic principles to prevent external events from triggering negative emotions and to gain control over your perceptions. Practice reappraising situations to redirect your mental course positively, rather than reacting with immediate negativity.

6. Establish Stoic Routines

Create consistent morning and evening routines that involve reading great thinkers and meditations. This practice helps to set and maintain a proper mental frame, preparing you for the day and allowing for reflective closure.

7. Protect Your Mind from Online Criticism

Be highly selective about the content you consume on social media and protect your mind from the influence of anonymous or unimportant critics. Prevent their comments from causing confusion or upset, or significantly reduce time on platforms that expose you to such negativity.

8. Use Social Media as a Tool

Approach social media as a tool to achieve specific goals, rather than allowing it to control your attention or emotional state. Be wary of platforms designed to hook users for advertising, as these models can be detrimental to well-being.

9. Seek Out Contrary Viewpoints

Actively expose yourself to ideas and writings from opposing viewpoints, especially in politics or complex issues. This practice broadens your understanding, improves your reasoning, and helps you become smarter faster.

10. Understand Moral Foundations

Learn about Moral Foundations Theory to understand how different political temperaments and upbringings lead to varying moral intuitions. This knowledge fosters empathy across tribal divides by explaining why others see things differently.

11. Find Strengths-Aligned Work

Seek out work that aligns with and utilizes your natural strengths, as this significantly increases job satisfaction and overall happiness. Strive to arrange your life so you have a sense of control and efficacy over what you do in your career.

12. Cultivate Work Relationships

Build and maintain friendships at work, as having good relationships with colleagues is a significant contributor to happiness in the workplace. Being embedded in a community, including your work community, is crucial for well-being.

13. Practice the Five-Minute Journal

Incorporate a structured journal, such as the Five-Minute Journal, into your daily routine. This guides your morning and evening reflections, helping to foster a positive mental frame and consistent self-awareness.

14. Apply Atomic Habits for Change

Apply principles from ‘Atomic Habits’ by identifying desired personal changes and breaking them into small, manageable steps. Set up reinforcements to support these small steps, making it easier to build new habits and achieve self-change.

15. Utilize an Accountability Partner

Partner with an accountability partner and establish regular check-ins, such as midweek, to discuss your progress on committed goals. This external accountability helps overcome excuses and accelerates progress toward desired changes.

16. Welcome Adversity for Development

Recognize that appropriate adversity is necessary for personal growth and strengthening. Avoid overprotecting yourself or others from normal challenges, as this can hinder the development of resilience and mental fortitude.

17. Participate Joyfully in Sorrows

Adopt a mindset of joyful participation in the world’s sorrows, choosing to embrace life fully and maintain joy despite challenges. This ‘warrior’s approach’ offers guidance for living engaged and reasonably happy lives during tumultuous times.

18. Avoid Overprotection of Children

Avoid vastly overprotecting children from normal adversity, as this can deprive them of experiences necessary for developing resilience and social skills. Exposure to minor challenges helps them learn how to deal with people and the world.

19. Limit Social Media for Under 16s

Prevent individuals under 16 from using any social media platforms where they post and await comments. This is crucial due to the significant negative impact such platforms have on teen mental health, particularly for girls.