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Jon Kabat-Zinn | Meditation as a Love Affair

Jan 22, 2020 1h 38m 25 insights
Jon Kabat-Zinn has been a key player bringing mindfulness meditation to the mainstream. In 1979, he introduced the now world-renowned Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction program, a meditation therapy used to treat a variety of illnesses. In this episode, Kabat-Zinn talks about the importance of awareness and why now, more than ever, having awareness and being present in each moment is vital. He says meditation doesn't end when you get off the cushion. Rather, we should view every moment in life as a meditative practice. Plug Zone Jon Kabat-Zinn's Website: https://www.mindfulnesscds.com/ Books: https://www.mindfulnesscds.com/pages/books-by-jon-kabat-zinn Previous podcast: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/jon-kabat-zinn-75 Podcast References Spaceship Earth by Buckminster-Fuller: https://www.amazon.com/Operating-Manual-Spaceship-Buckminster-Fuller/dp/3037781262 Calmer Choice on Cape Cod: https://calmerchoice.org/ MIT Study of mindfulness with middle school children: http://news.mit.edu/2019/mindfulness-mental-health-benefits-students-0826 Jon Kabat-Zinn Forward for "Current Opinion in Psychology": https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352250X19300211?via%3Dihub Ram Dass: https://www.ramdass.org/ Ten Percent Happier Podcast Insiders Feedback Group: https://10percenthappier.typeform.com/to/vHz4q4 Have a question for Dan? Leave us a voicemail: 646-883-8326
Actionable Insights

1. Recognize Innate Wholeness

Inhabit the sense of being “okay enough as I am” and recognize your inherent wholeness, even for a single breath. This shift in self-perception fundamentally alters your relationship with subsequent moments and fosters healing.

2. Let Doing Emerge from Awareness

Allow your actions (“doing”) to emerge from a place of awareness and being, rather than being solely driven by external pressures. This approach integrates mindfulness into daily life, making actions more intentional and aligned.

3. Life as the Meditation Practice

Intentionally experiment with viewing every moment of life, regardless of your to-do agenda, as the meditation practice itself. This shifts meditation from a separate activity to an integrated way of being, allowing you to carry awareness into all daily activities.

4. Drop Underneath Thinking Mind

Practice dropping underneath your incessant thinking mind to access direct perceptual knowing and wisdom. This capacity is instantly available and offers a missing piece of human education, which typically only teaches how to think.

5. Cultivate Silent Wakefulness

Regularly set aside time to sit on a cushion or chair, or even just be still, and drop into the feeling of your breath moving in and out of your body. This practice fosters a profound “love affair” with the beauty and miracle of life.

6. Morning Wakefulness Practice

Upon waking, before getting out of bed, lie on your back and consciously “finish the job” of waking up by bringing awareness to your body (feet, hands, skin, breath) and dropping into wakeful silence for a few breaths. This cultivates presence before the day’s autopilot takes over.

7. Leverage the Present Moment

Focus on the present moment as the sole point of leverage for influencing the future. By inhabiting this larger dimension of the present, you naturally alter the trajectory of subsequent moments, making the future different.

8. Recognize Awareness as a Dimension

Recognize awareness as a hidden dimension of being human, a profound capacity we possess but rarely acknowledge. Availing yourself of this dimension can transform your experience of life without needing external changes.

9. Live Fully Now

Exercise the “muscle” of direct perceptual knowing to drop into the present moment and live fully now. This counters the tendency to constantly strive for an idealized future moment, allowing for immediate engagement with life.

10. Question ‘My’ and ‘Self’

Continuously question the nature of “my” and “self” beyond conventional labels like name, age, or gender, rather than seeking definitive answers. This ongoing inquiry helps uncover deeper truths about identity and fosters wiser relationships.

11. Shift Default Mode Network

Through regular meditation practice, aim to shift your brain’s default mode from mindless reactivity and self-preoccupation to a broader, interconnected perspective. This fosters compassion and a sense of “we” rather than “me.”

12. Embrace Imperfection in Practice

Accept failure and imperfection in your practice, recognizing that “it’s okay to fail miserably over and over again.” The practice is not about perfection, but about cultivating awareness of your actions and reactions, even when they fall short.

13. View Suffering as Feedback

View suffering as a feedback mechanism indicating a lack of mindfulness, prompting you to identify underlying hindrances like aversion or doubt. This perspective allows you to address these issues with awareness and transform the experience.

14. Surrender to Meditation Process

Surrender to the meditation process by accepting your role to simply sit, walk, and be mindful throughout the day, rather than fighting or resisting. This reduces the desire for the experience to be different or to end, fostering deeper engagement and acceptance.

15. Embrace Discomfort as Growth

Embrace discomfort, especially when confronting blind spots related to social and racial justice, as “growing pains.” This allows for learning and growth, leading to deeper human freedom by challenging conditioned narratives.

16. Driving Meditation (Eyes Open)

Practice “looking out the windshield meditation” by being aware of your breath and surroundings while driving, keeping eyes open and attention on the road. This integrates mindfulness into daily activities without compromising safety.

17. Befriend Yourself with Awareness

Cultivate a relationship of friendship with yourself through awareness. This practice fosters a “love affair with the beauty of life” and the miracle of your own body.

18. Wake Up to True Nature

Recognize and wake up to your “true nature” or “Buddha nature” as a miraculous being. Failing to do so is described as a “prescription for suffering,” while recognizing it can lead to healing and different ways of dealing with stress and pain.

19. Attend a Silent Retreat

Consider attending a silent meditation retreat, as it offers a dedicated environment for deep practice and can be a transformative experience for developing mindfulness.

20. Give Yourself a Break on Retreat

On retreat, give yourself a break, avoid striving to “win” or be the “best” meditator, and be okay with initial difficulties like sleepiness or frustration. This compassionate approach prevents self-judgment and allows for a more open experience.

21. Meditation is About Feeling Clearly

Understand that meditation’s purpose is to feel whatever you are feeling clearly, rather than to achieve a specific emotional state like bliss. This perspective helps to avoid self-judgment and frustration when practice doesn’t align with expectations.

22. Use Mental Notes for Hindrances

Employ gentle mental notes (e.g., “doubt,” “judgment”) to catch hindrances like self-judgment or doubt as they arise during meditation. This practice helps to identify and disarm insidious mental patterns, preventing them from overwhelming your awareness.

23. Continuity of Mindfulness on Retreat

Practice continuity of mindfulness throughout all daily activities, even private ones like eating or cleaning your room, especially on retreat. This consistent application of awareness helps to deepen your practice and integrate mindfulness more fully.

24. Neutral Mental Note for Distractions

When a distracting song or thought arises during meditation, use a neutral mental note like “hearing” or “aversion” instead of notes that imply resistance or judgment. This reduces fighting the distraction and transforms it into an object of meditation.

25. Try the 10% Happier App

Check out the 10% Happier app for an extended free trial period by visiting 10percent.com/30days. This can support your meditation resolution and provide access to guided meditations.