<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p>---</p> <p>One's a legend, the other's a phenom. Together, they offer practical wisdom for maintaining your daily meditation practice, handling conflict, connecting with community, and understanding the limits of the mind.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Jack Kornfield trained as a Buddhist monk in Thailand, India, and Burma. He holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is a founding teacher of the Insight Meditation Society in Massachusetts and Spirit Rock Meditation Center in California. He is the author of 16 books which have sold 2 million copies, and the co-founder of Cloud Sangha.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Diego Perez is a #1 <em>New York Times</em> bestselling author who is widely known on Instagram and various social media networks through his pen name, Yung Pueblo. Online he has an audience of over 3 million people. 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Actionable Insights
1. Commit to Daily Meditation
Commit to a daily meditation practice, even for a few minutes, to stay grounded, burn away ego, and allow your best self to emerge, leading to increased peace, awareness, and productivity.
2. Cultivate Observational Awareness
Develop your capacity to observe and feel without getting lost in endless thought, as this ability to simply “be with what is” is the path to greater freedom and healing.
3. Heal Past Pain for Love
Recognize that unhealed past pain and unaware patterns interrupt love. Engage in practices that decondition and unbind these burdens to foster clearer, more harmonious relationships.
4. Pause for Best Intention
Before reacting in conflict or difficult situations, pause, take a few breaths, and consciously ask yourself, “What’s my best intention?” This practice shifts your tone from defensive to caring, leading to better outcomes.
5. Trust Intuition & Values
Cultivate your intuition through deconditioning the mind, trusting its calm, challenge-oriented guidance that never asks you to hurt yourself. Ground your actions in universal values like kindness and harmlessness to navigate life ethically.
6. Cultivate Conscious Livelihood
Engage in your work and make a living in a way that is as harmless as possible, fosters mindfulness, and benefits both yourself and others, leading to inner well-being and freedom.
7. Balance Self-Interest & Others
Actively balance your desire for self-gratification with compassion for others, recognizing that true well-being includes both personal nourishment and care for the community.
Seek out and engage with a meditation community (Sangha) to support your practice, as collective meditation offers unique benefits and provides encouragement when maintaining a habit is challenging.
9. Meditate as Self-Care
View meditation not as a duty, but as an essential act of self-care, allowing you to quiet the mind, listen deeply to your inner wisdom, and connect with what truly matters.
10. Embrace Joy & Love
Actively choose to live in joy and love, even amidst negativity, by tuning into the positive aspects of human interaction and recognizing that happiness empowers you to care for others.
11. Live to Learn to Die
Recognize impermanence and use your life, especially through practices like meditation, to cultivate awareness and acceptance, preparing you for the inevitable process of dying.
12. Confront Fear, Not Blame
Acknowledge that hate and prejudice often stem from an unwillingness to confront personal and collective fear and pain. Instead of projecting blame, cultivate the capacity to tolerate uncertainty and respond with love.
13. Practice Selfless Listening
Improve communication by knowing yourself and practicing selfless listening, which involves taking in another’s perspective without judgment to truly understand their point of view.
14. Communicate Emotional State
Maintain constant communication about your emotional state with those close to you. Naming and sharing how you feel helps prevent misunderstandings, fosters support, and avoids falling into reactive patterns.
15. Love with Non-Attachment
Love others by supporting their well-being and growth without attachment to how they “should” be. Hold love with an open hand, fostering profound care without grasping or manipulation, which reduces suffering.
16. Commit Voluntarily, Not Attach
In adult relationships, replace attachment (which implies constraint and control) with voluntary commitments. Be honest and open about your desires, and commit to actions you genuinely feel capable of, fostering mutual safety and understanding.
17. Reduce Ego, Grow Love
Engage in deconditioning the mind through meditation to build awareness and wisdom, which naturally thins the ego and inversely increases the presence of selfless love in your mind.
18. Act from Love, Not Guilt
When addressing global or personal challenges, act from a place of love and care rather than guilt, blame, or anger, as love is the powerful force capable of creating positive change.