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Is It Still OK to Be Happy? | Sylvia Boorstein

Apr 8, 2020 1h 7m 24 insights
Even in the middle of a pandemic, it's still OK to experience delight. That's per legendary meditation teacher, Sylvia Boostein. In fact, she says, moments of happiness can fortify you to deal with the difficulties we are all facing. In other words, joy is a necessity, not a luxury right now. That is just one of many wisdom bombs Boorstein drops in this conversation. We also discuss how to cultivate "inner cordiality" and the quality of mind that has become her "savior" in these dark days. Boorstein is a genuine contemplative O.G., part of the vanguard of teachers who introduced mindfulness into the American mainstream. She is still going strong in her mid-eighties, after having lived a colorful life. Not only is she one of America's most respected teachers, but she is also a psychotherapist, peace activist, and grandmother. As you'll hear, when she is not meditating, she is a gifted storyteller. She self-deprecatingly refers to it as "boundless talk-aremia," but I suspect that, for you, listening to Sylvia will, in itself, be a source of delight. Where to find Sylvia Boorstein online: Website: http://www.sylviaboorstein.com/ Social Media: Twitter: @SylviaBoorstein https://twitter.com/sylviaboorstein Facebook: Sylvia Boorstein - https://www.facebook.com/sylviaboorstein/ Book Mentioned: Pay Attention, for Goodness' Sake by Sylvia Boorstein - http://www.sylviaboorstein.com/books Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/sylvia-boorstein-237 Additional Resources: Ten Percent Happier Live: https://tenpercent.com/live Coronavirus Sanity Guide: https://www.tenpercent.com/coronavirussanityguide Free App access for Health Care Workers: https://tenpercent.com/care
Actionable Insights

1. Cultivate World Compassion

In the face of universal suffering and vulnerability, cultivate compassion for the world, as it can displace personal fretting and is presented as the only possible response.

2. Integrate Loving-Kindness Practice

Integrate loving-kindness (Metta) practice with mindfulness, as Metta boosts focus, reduces remorse, and fosters kindness, mutually reinforcing mindfulness practice.

3. Pay Attention to Others

Pay attention to other people and their needs, as it serves as an immediate solution to being pulled under by your own preoccupations and needs, making the person next to you your ‘surest salvation’.

4. Cease Cherishing Old Opinions

Cease cherishing unnecessary old opinions, as they can ‘mess up part of the real estate of your mind and your heart’ and are not needed.

5. View Isolation as Retreat

Understand current isolation or difficult times as a personal retreat, offering an opportunity to identify and discard old, unnecessary negative opinions and unburden the mind.

6. Experience Moments of Delight

Actively experience moments of delight, as happiness can fortify you to deal with difficulties and is a necessity, not a luxury, during challenging times.

7. Practice ‘Meeting Moment as Friend’

Use the phrase ‘May I meet this moment fully, may I meet it as a friend’ as an intention, melding mindfulness and loving-kindness to foster alertness and hospitality towards present experience.

8. Direct Positive Energy Outwards

Consciously direct positive energy and affection outwards, as it acts as an ‘absolute dispeller of ill will’ and negativity in the mind, because you cannot drive forward and in reverse at the same time.

9. Practice Daily Gratitude & Connection

Practice daily gratitude and appreciation for each day, and connect with friends, to celebrate life and counteract radical uncertainty.

10. Respond to Situations with Calm

Manifest your response to situations in a way that is always based on calm, as this leads to feeling better and more effective outcomes.

11. Limit TV News Consumption

Limit consumption of television news, as reading news in a newspaper or online is less overwhelming than seeing it in real-time.

12. Observe Acts of Human Kindness

Actively observe demonstrations of human kindness and generosity, as witnessing courage and care for others can be uplifting and buoy the heart.

13. Appreciate Nature’s Continuity

Appreciate the continuity and enduring nature of the natural world (e.g., blooming flowers, moon cycles), as it provides a sense of things persisting beyond personal troubles.

14. Care for Another Living Thing

Care for another living thing, such as a potted plant, as taking responsibility for something beyond yourself can lead to feeling better and thriving more.

15. Share Useful Information Generously

Share useful information generously with others, as withholding it for personal gain is less kind than offering it as a gift.

16. Practice Patience & Pleasantness

Practice patience and pleasantness in interactions, as anger is ineffective and a pleasant demeanor is more likely to achieve desired outcomes.

17. Practice Deep Attention

Practice deep attention, as truly paying attention can convert your heart to goodness.

18. Recognize Universal Vulnerability

Recognize that everyone shares the same fundamental vulnerability to loss, aging, sickness, and death, fostering a deeper understanding and empathy.

19. Welcome All Experiences as Guests

Welcome all experiences, including difficult ones like grief, worry, or problems, as guests in a ‘guest house,’ as you can learn from all of them.

20. Recognize Catastrophe, Cease Fret

When a situation is already catastrophic, recognize this fact and cease excessive fretting, as there’s nothing additional to think about in terms of potential catastrophe.

21. Embrace ‘Cheesiness’ for Freedom

Embrace practices or ideas that might seem ‘cheesy’ or overly sentimental, as overcoming discomfort with such things is necessary for true freedom.

22. Frame Mindfulness as Loving Attention

Frame mindfulness as ’loving attention,’ emphasizing the inherent kindness and hospitality required for effective present-moment awareness.

23. Practice Relaxed Breathing

Practice relaxed breathing by allowing the breath to come naturally to your body without grabbing it, fostering ease and appreciation for natural processes.

24. Engage with Difficult Information Purposefully

Engage with difficult or sobering information purposefully, knowing why you are doing it, as it can be ‘sobering for the heart’ and provide a realistic understanding.