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How to Use Social Media without Losing Your Mind | Randy Fernando

Nov 2, 2020 49m 44s 17 insights
<p>Given that social media has been blamed for rising levels of anxiety, depression, loneliness, and political polarization, is it possible to use this technology wisely? That's the question we dive into today with Randy Fernando, who is featured in a new Netflix documentary called The Social Dilemma, which is all about the many alleged pernicious impacts of Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, et al. Randy is the co-founder and Executive Director of the Center for Humane Technology, and a longtime meditator. We start by talking about what he sees as the dangers of social media, but then get into a fascinating discussion, where he ticks off a ton of techniques -- informed by his knowledge of Buddhism -- to use social media that won't cause you to lose your mind. Where to find Randy Fernando online: Website: http://www.randima.com Other Resources Mentioned: •   Center for Humane Technology - https://www.humanetech.com/ •   The Ledger of Harms: The Facts about Social Media's Harms - https://ledger.humanetech.com/ •   AllSides - https://www.allsides.com/unbiased-balanced-news •   Your Undivided Attention Podcast - https://www.humanetech.com/podcast •   Tips for Taking Control of Your Tech - https://www.humanetech.com/take-control •   Resources for Families & Educators - https://www.humanetech.com/families-educators Additional Resources: •   Ten Percent Happier Live: https://tenpercent.com/live •   Coronavirus Sanity Guide: https://www.tenpercent.com/coronavirussanityguide •   Free App access for Frontline Workers: https://tenpercent.com/care Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/randy-fernando-296</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Address Underlying Instability

Address internal instability by cultivating practices like the Brahma Viharas (loving kindness, compassion, sympathetic joy, and equanimity) to become more stable and less vulnerable to external influences.

2. Create Device Distance

Wisely create distance between yourself and your devices, recognizing it’s a spectrum and that the right amount of distance for you is likely more than you initially think.

3. Prioritize In-Person Connection

Foster deep connections with others primarily through in-person interactions, video calls, or phone calls, as these methods provide stronger protection and are more effective than online chat or texting.

4. Increase Reactionary Space

Cultivate mindfulness by increasing the space between an impulse and a reaction, allowing for a more thoughtful and wise response, especially before engaging with online content.

5. State Your Posting Intention

Before posting on social media, write down your intention for the post; this practice can reveal underlying motivations (like seeking validation due to negative feelings) and may lead you to post less.

6. Clarify Social Media Intent

Before engaging with social media, ask yourself why you are going there and what you are seeking from the platform to foster intentional use.

7. Use Platforms Intentionally, Then Exit

If using a platform for a specific purpose (e.g., learning a skill), go directly to what you need, watch the video, and then immediately close the application to avoid getting sucked into recommendations.

8. Targeted Friend Check-Ins

When using a platform like Facebook to check on a specific friend, search for their profile directly and view their feed, rather than browsing the general timeline, to avoid unintended engagement.

9. Avoid Default Social Media Feeds

Do not let the default feed be your primary social media experience, as it can replace your intended actions with an algorithm-driven sequence that manipulates your attention.

10. Verify Before Sharing Content

Before sharing content, diligently read or skim the actual story to ensure it seems credible and has reliable sources, as even well-meaning individuals can be manipulated.

11. Share Sources for Infographics

When sharing infographics, always include the source so others can verify the information or engage in intelligent discussion about its credibility.

12. Avoid Interruptive Online Chat

Minimize online chatting and texting, as these highly interruptive forms of communication fragment attention and hinder the cultivation of sustained mindfulness.

13. Restrict Youth Social Media

For children, especially at a young age, restrict their use of social media platforms due to the exceptional dangers they pose to development and well-being.

14. Consult AllSides.com for News

Use allsides.com to view news articles from left, center, and right perspectives, helping to understand different viewpoints and avoid echo chambers.

15. Understand Diverse Viewpoints

Actively seek to understand different viewpoints, even by reading comments on articles, to bridge political divides and foster empathy.

16. Discuss “The Social Dilemma”

Watch “The Social Dilemma” with others and engage in conversations about its content to foster shared understanding and awareness of social media’s impact.

17. Support Humane Technology Movement

Sign up at humanetech.com to support the movement for humane technology and contribute to larger systemic changes in how technology is designed and used.