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How to Understand Oneness | Roshi Norma Wong

Mar 17, 2021 57m 41s 12 insights
Today we're diving into a concept that is simultaneously one of the oldest contemplative cliches and one of the most profound head scratchers — oneness. Can *you* be one with everything if *you* don't really exist? And, even if we manage to grok this idea, what are the practical ramifications? Actually, this is just one of the many riddles and paradoxes we'll be exploring today.  My guest is Roshi Norma Wong. She was recommended to us by frequent guest and friend of TPH, The Reverend angel Kyodo Williams. Roshi Norma is a Zen Master, a life-long resident of Hawaii, a former State legislator, and abbot of a Zen temple called Anko-in. In this conversation, we talk about: • Understanding -- and experiencing -- oneness • Removing the binary between relaxation and focus • Why she thinks we need to cultivate pride and humility simultaneously • Why she thinks that before we try to solve the world's problems, we need to become better people • And why our current moment of compounding global catastrophes presents us with an unprecedented opportunity Speaking of transformation in the face of crisis, we've always done our best to use this podcast as a place to figure out how to navigate our ever-shifting world. Over the last year, for example, we've spoken with experts about how to cope with the coronavirus, from dealing with anxiety and grief to parenting in a pandemic to worries about money. The practice of meditation undergirds all of the practical takeaways you hear us discuss on this podcast–and many of our podcast guests have contributed to our companion meditation app. Our app helps you understand both how to practice meditation and how meditation can help you navigate our ever-changing world. We hope that you'll subscribe to our app to learn how to care for yourself and others during crises (which are, after all, inevitable).  To make it easier, we're offering 40% off the price of an annual subscription for our podcast listeners. We don't do discounts of this size all the time, and of course nothing is permanent—so get this deal before it ends on April 1st by going to www.tenpercent.com/march, for 40% off your subscription. Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/roshi-norma-wong-331
Actionable Insights

1. Practice Conscious Breath Protocol

Dedicate at least a third of your waking hours to conscious breathing: bring the breath low in your body (below the belly button), allow your body to rise with the inhale, ensure your exhale is slower than your inhale, and aim for under seven or eight breaths per minute. This discipline builds a physical and mental reserve, reduces irritation, and cultivates relaxed concentration, removing the binary between relaxation and focus.

2. Integrate Breath into Daily Life

Apply the conscious breath protocol during ordinary activities like washing dishes, attending meetings, or taking out the rubbish. This practice helps you build a reserve, become more generous, round off triggers, and cultivate a sense of relaxed concentration where all your senses are sharply aware without being on high alert.

3. Simple Breath Practice for Beginners

To start experiencing the benefits of conscious breathing, lie down, relax your chest, and allow your breath to come from lower in your body. Focus on breathing slower and making your exhale longer than your inhale for just 20 breaths, as this simple practice can make you feel different.

4. Engage All Senses for Presence

Open all your senses to your surroundings, noticing tastes, smells, sounds, and subtle physical sensations, even in non-pristine or ordinary environments. Settle into these sensory inputs, moving past initial annoyance or disgust, because the body is a much more accessible portal to reconnecting with your original self and experiencing oneness.

5. Cultivate Pride & Humility

Actively cultivate both immense pride (ha’aheo) and immense humility (ha’aha) simultaneously. This ‘sweet spot’ is essential for personal growth and for showing that positive change is possible on a larger scale.

6. Prioritize Self-Repair for World Problems

Before attempting to solve global problems or address injustice, engage in significant self-repair and internal work. Recognizing one’s own capacity for perpetrating injustice is crucial, as ‘better human beings can come up with better solutions’ than those operating from a binary of righteous versus unrighteous.

7. Avoid Over-Analysis of Experience

When having profound experiences, stay in the experience for as long as possible without immediately trying to analyze what it means. Your thoughts can take you farther away from the direct experience of beingness and oneness, which is best accessed through your senses.

8. Embrace ‘Empty Cup’ Mindset

Approach situations with an ’empty cup’ mindset, being open and receptive rather than full of preconceived notions. A cup is most useful when empty, as it can then be filled with many new things and experiences.

9. Slow Down Your Rhythm

Intentionally slow down your personal rhythm to be slower than whatever rhythm is going on in your surroundings, especially in new or ordinary places. This allows you to stop, savor, and pay more attention, leading to a different, richer experience of your surroundings and minute, useful shifts in decision-making.

10. Lean Into Crisis for Inquiry

When faced with worsening global conditions, recognize this as a ‘sweet spot’ for inquiry and lean into it. This collective state of ‘creative desperation’ presents an unprecedented opportunity for fundamental shifts and personal transformation, as awareness is the first opening for action.

11. Communicate Via Experience

When discussing profound concepts, aim to communicate through shared experience rather than through analytical explanation. This fosters deeper connection and understanding, bypassing the ’tangled aspects of an analytical mind’.

12. De-emphasize Reading for Understanding

When seeking to understand concepts like ‘beingness’ or ‘oneness,’ do not rely solely on reading or intellectual thought. Your thoughts can take you farther away from the direct experience, which is best accessed through your body and senses.