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How To Stay Politically Engaged Without Losing Your Mind | Sharon Salzberg

Sep 2, 2020 1h 5m 56 insights
In the heat of an election that is both incredibly nasty and hugely consequential, it might be tempting to try to shut out all the feelings of anger, frustration, and powerlessness. But my guest today makes a compelling argument for engagement -- and for the notion that nothing should be excluded from your meditation practice, not even politics. Sharon Salzberg has a new book, called Real Change, which is about how to stay socially, civically, and politically engaged without losing your mind. We talk about how to develop patience when it seems there's no light at the end of the tunnel; why it's wise to cultivate compassion, even for people you find deeply objectionable; and ways to limit our Twitter doomscrolling, something Sharon struggles with herself. Loyal listeners will know Sharon well. She's a towering figure on the American meditation scene, the cofounder of the Insight Meditation Society, the author of several books, including Real Love, Real Happiness and Real Happiness at Work, and a founding teacher on the Ten Percent Happier app. Where to find Sharon Salzberg online:  Website: https://www.sharonsalzberg.com/  Podcast: https://www.sharonsalzberg.com/metta-hour-podcast/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/sharonsalzberg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SharonSalzberg/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharonsalzberg/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/SharonSalzbergVideo Book Mentioned: Real Change by Sharon Salzberg: https://www.sharonsalzberg.com/realchange/ To find meditations and courses guided by Sharon Salzberg in the Ten Percent Happier app, visit https://10percenthappier.app.link/SharonSalzberg  Other Resources Mentioned: Jay Michaelson / https://www.jaymichaelson.net/ Real Change: Sharon Salzberg in conversation with Anu Gupta / https://asiasociety.org/new-york/events/real-change-sharon-salzberg-conversation-anu-gupta Oren Jay Sofer / https://www.orenjaysofer.com/ Mudita Nisker and Dan Clurman / http://www.comoptions.com/  Bell Hooks / http://www.bellhooksinstitute.com/ Maillka Dutt / https://mallikadutt.com/about/ Additional Resources: Ten Percent Happier Live: https://tenpercent.com/live Coronavirus Sanity Guide: https://www.tenpercent.com/coronavirussanityguide Free App access for Frontline Workers: https://tenpercent.com/care Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/sharon-salzberg-279
Actionable Insights

1. Cultivate Compassion for All

It is wise to cultivate compassion even for people you find deeply objectionable, as this helps in engagement and maintaining mental well-being.

2. Practice Self-Loving Kindness

Cultivate loving kindness for yourself, as it forms the foundation for self-forgiveness, the ability to begin again, and understanding the causes and conditions of your actions.

3. Recognize Interconnectedness

Get quieter and pay more attention to see the reality of how interconnected our lives are, and how individual actions have consequences for others.

4. Examine Your Intentions

Recognize that the intention or motivation behind your actions is a significant part of their energy, so understand where you are coming from and what is guiding you.

5. Align Actions with Values

Employ mindfulness to understand your motivations, identify your core values (‘North Star’), and strengthen them through your interactions.

6. Include All Feelings in Practice

Do not shut down or shut out feelings like anger, frustration, or powerlessness; instead, engage with them and include them in your meditation practice, even political feelings.

7. Mindfully Investigate Feelings

Use mindfulness to switch your meditation object to a difficult thought pattern or attitude, observing it with tenderness and asking ‘What is this?’ without condemnation or prolongation.

8. Sit with Your Own Pain

To truly resonate with someone else’s situation and feel empathy, cultivate the ability to be present with your own pain and recollections of similar experiences.

9. Compassion Stronger Than Anger

Understand that compassion is a stronger force than anger for sustained, intense, and effective work in the world.

10. Fight with Compassion, Not Hate

Engage in struggles with compassion as your motivation, which means you can fight for what’s right without resorting to hatred.

11. Prioritize Personal Transformation

Consider that the greatness of your actions, including social engagement, can be measured by your own transformation in the act of doing them.

12. Effort with Acceptance

Cultivate an ’exquisite balance’ by putting tremendous effort into helping, while simultaneously accepting that you cannot control the outcomes.

13. Take the First Step

Realize that nothing happens without taking that initial step, so move forward and take a shot, even when the path ahead seems unclear.

14. Do the Good at Hand

Engage in the good that is directly in front of you, no matter how small or meager it may seem, as this is the only way for change to occur.

15. Measure Success by Love

Reframe your measure of success by focusing on bringing sincere and powerful love into every situation, rather than solely on immediate, tangible outcomes.

16. Act Based on Values

Move beyond mere reaction and choose to act based on your deeply held values and what you deem important.

17. Inner Work for Skillful Action

Engage in inner work and cultivate the ability to be with uncomfortable feelings, as this process propels you into more skillful and effective external action.

18. Embrace Possibility, Take Chances

Practice ‘faith’ by moving off the sidelines and into the center of possibility, taking a chance and showing up for what needs to be done.

19. Analyze Causes and Conditions

Instead of just punishing or reacting to problems, look deeply at their underlying causes and conditions to find more appropriate and effective solutions.

20. Dispassionate Truth Discernment

Employ a steady, dispassionate way of looking to discern the truth of things and see more clearly what is actually happening.

21. Cultivate Inner Wherewithal

Develop inner resources and resilience to sustain your engagement with suffering without crumbling, feeling overwhelmed, shattered, or ineffectual.

22. Actively Embrace Joy

Consciously take in and admit joy, allowing yourself to feel it, as this restorative practice replenishes your energy and enables you to face painful things without being lost in them.

23. Practice Gratitude, Enjoy Good

Identify what you are grateful for and what is good in your life, then allow yourself to truly enjoy these sources of joy.

24. Hold Joy and Suffering

Cultivate the ability to hold both joy and suffering simultaneously, recognizing that life can be a grind but also contains moments of happiness.

25. Avoid Despair and Overwhelm

Do not allow yourself to hate what you’re going through, despair, or feel overcome by difficulties, as these states serve nobody.

26. Acknowledge Anger with Dignity

Allow yourself to feel anger without fighting, resenting, or resisting it, recognizing that there is dignity and integrity in acknowledging your feelings.

27. Avoid Anger Overwhelm

Be mindful not to get lost in, overwhelmed by, or overtaken by anger, as allowing it to determine all your actions can be devastating to yourself.

28. Honor Truth-Telling Voices

Collectively honor the voice, even if it comes from anger, that insists on looking at unpleasant truths or issues that have been studiously avoided.

29. Channel Helplessness to Action

When you encounter feelings of helplessness, use it as a reminder to do one small, wholesome thing, like helping a neighbor, to channel that energy into action.

30. Meditate for Greater Engagement

Utilize meditation to enhance self-awareness, compassion, and a sense of connection, which can make you more effective and engaged in the world.

31. Foster Interconnection

Establish a profound sense of connection to others, as this naturally moves you to look for causes and conditions, look more deeply, and try to ease pain in the world.

32. Consciously Apply Meditative Wisdom

Consciously apply the wisdom gained from meditation to address feelings of a lack of agency, such as ‘I could never do enough’ or ‘I could never be enough.’

33. Draw Strength from Others

Recognize that you can draw significant strength from your relationships with fellow travelers or colleagues, especially in challenging endeavors.

34. Practice Compassion and Equanimity

Apply compassion and equanimity in your relationships, especially when people are annoying or frustrating, by not trying to control what you cannot.

35. Clarify Interaction Goals

Before engaging in an encounter or relationship, mindfully examine your true motivations and goals, such as seeking resolution versus proving yourself right.

36. Balance Content and Relationship Goals

During conversations, be aware of two tracks: your content goals (what you want to say) and your relationship goals (how you want to maintain the connection).

37. Challenge Conditioned Patterns

Understand that even strongly conditioned patterns, like individualism or selfishness, do not have to be permanent and can be changed.

38. Recognize Identity Complexity

Understand that everyone embodies a bundle of different identities that can elicit various reactions from others, contributing to their unique experiences.

39. Integrate Identity & Universal Vision

Balance the recognition of individual identities and their unique struggles with a vision of a beloved community where diversity is simply accepted without distinction.

40. Challenge Assumed Centrality

Actively work to loosen the grip of assumed centrality, recognizing that there isn’t one normative type of family or societal structure.

41. Normalize Diverse Realities

Cultivate a mindset that normalizes diverse family structures, hospital staffs, and other societal compositions, rather than viewing them as exceptions needing special mention.

42. Skillful Intention Expression

Cultivate skills to effectively and appropriately express your intentions, beyond just having good motives.

43. Sustain Engagement Strategies

Identify and actively pursue strategies and ways of being that help you sustain engagement in a confusing, misleading, and traumatizing world.

44. Aim for Daily Small Wins

In long-term campaigns for change, set a goal to achieve small ‘wins’ every day, such as writing an editorial or engaging new people, to maintain momentum.

45. Don’t Shrink Back, Vote

Do not shrink back from engagement, no matter how scared you may be; at the very least, exercise your right to vote.

46. Vote to Affirm Dignity

Participate in voting, as it reflects the innate dignity and rightful voice of every individual.

47. Seek Respite from Difficult Content

Acknowledge and honor your need for respite and relief from constantly witnessing difficult or overwhelming current events.

48. Limit Doom Scrolling

Actively work to limit your Twitter doom scrolling to avoid being overwhelmed by negative information.

49. Moderate Social Media Use

Be much more moderate in your social media consumption to avoid being overwhelmed by negative influences.

50. Recognize and Stop Doom Scrolling

When you realize you are doom scrolling, consciously decide that it’s enough and actively stop, letting go of the need to consume more information on the same issue.

51. Structure Time for Practice

Create a structure by committing to replace time spent consuming news or social media with practices like loving kindness, especially when you already know the information.

52. Regular Loving Kindness Practice

Engage in a significant amount of loving kindness practice, as it helps you stay engaged with difficult realities without becoming overwrought or flailing.

53. Shift Focus from Overwhelm

When overcome by painful emotions, recognize that your own feelings are taking center stage and shift your focus back to the situation of others, which is the actual point of engagement.

54. Release Rigid Expectations

Do not hold rigidly to expectations for immediate results, as the dynamic of change is constantly shifting and outcomes are not always immediate.

55. Engage with Cruelty Mindfully

When confronted with cruelty, it’s important not to turn away, but to find ways to stay engaged without being overwhelmed.

56. Connect to Something Bigger

To avoid turning away from difficult realities and stay engaged, connect to something bigger than yourself, such as through loving kindness practice.