When you feel fear about approaching someone or doing something important, use it as a prompt to act immediately, as this fear signals its significance.
Actively develop curiosity as a skill by viewing human beings as a ’textbook’ and engaging in expansive, interactive conversations to learn everything.
Make a conscious effort to engage in face-to-face interactions, as these human connections are incredibly valuable and often lead to significant opportunities.
Approach conversations with an authentic, present-time spirit, without the immediate ambition of asking for a job or favor, to foster genuine connection.
When an experience goes poorly, reframe it by stepping back, analyzing what made it bad, and studying it objectively to extract lessons and move past the pain.
Approach curiosity conversations with the intention of being fully present and making the interaction as engaging and memorable as a ‘best date’ to foster deep connection.
When you want someone to share deeply or talk for a long time, maintain direct eye contact with them without diffusing it by looking at other people.
Thoroughly research a person’s work or background before requesting their time to show respect, pique their interest, and ensure a valuable conversation.
Meditate before one-on-one concentrations or social events to calm your nervous system, disengage from pre-anticipatory anxiety, and enhance presence.
Dedicate a few minutes daily to formal seated or slow walking meditation, as this practice turbocharges your capacity for mindfulness and other positive qualities in everyday life.
Counter self-criticism and low self-esteem after failure by practicing self-compassion and appreciating your accomplishments, like ‘kissing the mirror’.
Employ Transcendental Meditation (TM) or similar practices as a tool to get unstuck from negative thought cycles and self-blame when experiencing failure.
When nervous about initiating a conversation, use simple ‘props’ like a wave or a direct ‘hi’ to break the ice and start the interaction.
Before attending social events, prepare three interesting stories or conversation starters to facilitate engagement and overcome social anxiety.
Stay alert to current events, new music, or interesting topics to have relevant and engaging material for conversations with others.
Consciously work to create respect and dignity in your presentation and interactions, as this helps you be taken more seriously regardless of background.
When seeking a raise or promotion, confidently articulate to your boss how your ‘reality has changed’ due to increased value and proven performance, backed by evidence.
Put your phone away when entering social events or meetings to appear more confident and present, avoiding the impression of insecurity.
Avoid being late without a valid reason, as showing up late can signal insecurity rather than busyness to smart people.
Begin each day by acknowledging gratitude for being alive and having good health, as this practice provides strength and power.
Identify and utilize small, consistent opportunities in your day, such as before bed or after exercise, to fit in formal meditation practice.
Replace time spent scrolling social media, which can lead to feelings of insufficiency, with more beneficial practices like meditation or genuine human connection.
When delivering something or seeking a meeting, insist on direct interaction with the intended recipient rather than assistants to gain valuable face time.
Practice taking immediate ‘microsteps’ towards your goals or desired actions without overthinking, to foster momentum and progress.
Before reaching out to someone, research their interests or find a ‘hooky phrase’ to pique their interest and demonstrate thoughtfulness to their assistant or themselves.
When interacting with people, ensure your spirit and intentions are good, as this fosters forgiveness for minor missteps or ‘dumb things’ you might say.