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How To Keep Your Sh*t Together No Matter What | Kamala Masters

Sep 26, 2025 19m 57s 15 insights
<p dir="ltr">Because even doing the dishes can be an opportunity to wake up.</p> <p dir="ltr">We're bringing you some of our favorite gems from the archives, as chosen by our staff. This week, we're hearing from dharma teacher Kamala Masters as chosen by our executive producer DJ Cashmere. Kamala reflects on the practice of equanimity, and how to be mindful even in the "hell realm" of raising young children. </p> <p dir="ltr">Full Episode: </p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.danharris.com/p/how-to-be-okay-no-matter-what-kamala-3a8?r=4o5o&amp;utm_campaign=post&amp;utm_medium=web&amp;showWelcomeOnShare=false"> How To Be Okay No Matter What | Kamala Masters</a></p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan's online community <a href="http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href="https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href="https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href="https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel<br /> <br /></a>Get ready for another Meditation Party at Omega Institute! This in-person workshop brings together Dan with his friends and meditation teachers, Sebene Selassie, Jeff Warren, and for the first time, Ofosu Jones-Quartey. The event runs October 24th-26th. Sign up and learn more at <a href="http://eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-2025">eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-2025</a>.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href="https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p> <p dir="ltr"> </p> <p dir="ltr">
Actionable Insights

1. Integrate Meditation into Chores

Turn repetitive daily tasks like washing dishes into meditation practice by mindfully noticing sensations (e.g., water on hands) and arising thoughts, making practice accessible even in busy lives.

2. Practice Mindful Walking

Transform everyday movements, such as walking through hallways, into walking meditation by consciously observing each step, fostering continuity of practice throughout your day.

3. Take Responsibility for Your Mind

Focus on managing your own internal state and thoughts, recognizing that this is your primary area of control and where the greatest potential for personal change and positive impact lies.

4. Cultivate Equanimity Formally

Engage in formal equanimity practice by first developing a heart of meta (loving-kindness), then focusing on individuals (starting with a neutral person) and using wisdom-oriented statements of understanding rather than offerings.

5. Begin with Meta (Loving-Kindness)

Start your meditation practice by cultivating loving-kindness for yourself, then extending it to others (benefactor, dear friend, neutral, difficult, all beings) using phrases like “may you be happy, safe, healthy, live with ease” to tenderize the mind.

6. Use Equanimity Wisdom Phrases

In equanimity practice, employ phrases like “pleasure and pain arise and pass away; this is how it is” or “birth and death are part of life” to align with the truth of life’s unfolding and reduce reactivity.

7. Acknowledge Others’ Journeys

Understand that “all beings are owners of their karma” and “have their own journey,” meaning their happiness or unhappiness depends on their actions, not solely on your wishes, fostering a deeper, non-controlling wisdom.

8. Maintain Composure Amid Suffering

Develop equanimity to stay balanced and calm when encountering others’ suffering, allowing you to remain useful and supportive without becoming overwhelmed or reactive.

9. Combine Metta with Equanimity

When sending goodwill (metta) to a difficult person, add an equanimity phrase like “things are just as they are right now” to acknowledge the current reality and support your efforts without attachment.

10. Discern Beneficial Actions

Cultivate awareness to identify what actions or thoughts are beneficial and actively nurture them, while recognizing what is not beneficial and consciously refraining from it, to act with greater intention.

11. Strive for Purity of Mind

Work towards lessening hatred, greed, and delusion in your mind, as a pure and balanced mental state is powerful and can significantly impact your surroundings and interactions positively.

12. Practice Self-Compassion

When you make mistakes or lose your temper, remember that “we’re all just human” to foster self-forgiveness and understanding, rather than succumbing to harsh self-criticism.

13. Subscribe for Guided Meditations

Become a paid subscriber at danharris.com to receive custom guided meditations that accompany Monday and Wednesday podcast episodes, designed to help integrate learnings more deeply.

14. Join Live Meditation & Q&A

As a paid subscriber to danharris.com, participate in weekly live guided meditation and Q&A sessions every Tuesday at 4 PM Eastern to deepen your practice and engage with teachers.

15. Attend In-Person Retreats

Consider attending in-person meditation events, such as the Meditation Party at the Omega Institute (October 24-26), to practice with experienced teachers like Dan Harris and Seb N. A. Selassie.