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How to Keep Going When Things Get Hard | Bryan Stevenson

Jan 5, 2024 1h 3m 17 insights
<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p>---</p> <p>Have you already bailed on your resolutions? Where are you on your other life goals? This episode is a master class on sticking with it, no matter what.</p> <p>Bryan Stevenson is a public interest lawyer who has dedicated his career to helping the poor, the incarcerated, and the condemned. He is the founder and Executive Director of the Equal Justice Initiative, based in Montgomery, Alabama—an organization that has won major legal challenges eliminating excessive and unfair sentencing, as well as reversals, relief, or release from prison for over 140 wrongly condemned prisoners on death row. He is the author of the bestselling memoir <em>Just Mercy</em>, which was made into a feature film, and the subject of an HBO documentary, <em>True Justice.</em> He is also a MacArthur "Genius," a graduate of Harvard Law School, and a recipient of over 50 honorary doctoral degrees from institutions like Yale, Princeton, and Oxford University.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>Bryan's "non-negotiables," including exercise, music, and mindfulness</li> <li>The necessity of "proximity"</li> <li>How he manages fear, anger, and hatred</li> <li>How he cultivates hope and faith in the face of overwhelming odds</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Related Episodes:</strong></p> <ul> <li><a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/father-gregory-boyle-489" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Father Gregory Boyle on Conquering Hatred with Love</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-playlists/non-negotiables" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Other guests in our "Non-Negotiables" series, including Jon Kabat-Zinn, Esther Perel, and Bill Hader</a></li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/bryan-stevenson" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/bryan-stevenson</a></p>
Actionable Insights

1. Cultivate Proximity & Connection

Be proximate to the people, communities, and places where challenges manifest themselves to truly understand and make a difference. This means actively doing something that creates genuine connection, rather than just passive awareness.

2. Fuel Ideas with Heartfelt Conviction

Ensure that your ideas and strategic thinking are deeply fueled by conviction in your heart. Be mindful of your feelings and allow them to move you, especially when pursuing goals without clear precedents or formulas.

3. Cultivate Hope as Superpower

Embrace hope as a non-negotiable ‘superpower’ and believe in things you haven’t seen, as hopelessness is the enemy of justice and personal strength. Practice hopefulness and commitment as a form of therapy and resolve.

4. Challenge Fear and Anger

Actively challenge and push back against narratives and feelings of fear and anger, as they are essential ingredients of injustice and oppression and prevent good decision-making. Consciously practice overcoming hate, rage, and anger like a skill.

5. Practice Kindness and Compassion

Engage in acts of kindness, compassion, and generosity, understanding that these require a relationship with others and offer a powerful return, reorienting you and yielding hope. Wish safety even upon those you perceive as difficult.

6. Affirm Humanity & Dignity

Actively affirm the humanity and dignity of others, especially those who are struggling or have ‘fallen down,’ by wrapping your arms around them and expressing genuine connection, as this gesture has underestimated power.

7. Create Safe Environments

Create safe environments in interactions and communities, as this is crucial for enabling open communication, understanding, and collaborative problem-solving, especially when addressing difficult truths.

8. Express Love and Aspirations

Overcome resistance to expressing what you like, love, and appreciate, especially in conflict situations. Regularly articulate your highest aspirations and commitment to a better future for everyone, as this builds positive neural pathways.

9. Believe in More Than Worst

Adopt the belief that individuals are more than the worst thing they have ever done, extending this understanding to both those you support and those who oppose you, fostering a desire for their freedom from negativity.

10. Engage in Sustaining Creative Habits

Maintain consistent habits of exercise and creative expression, such as playing music, to find comfort, process emotions, and cultivate a sense of hope, possibility, and agency, especially when overwhelmed. If possible, create music yourself.

11. Seek and Create Beauty

Actively seek out and create beauty in your life, as it is affirming, inspiring, and energizing, helping to manage overwhelming emotions and provide a sense of completeness.

12. Cultivate a Spiritual Life

Cultivate a spiritual life to gain sustenance and transcend daily physical and empirical challenges, allowing for reflection on what is necessary even if not yet seen.

13. Embrace Service as Blessing

Reframe service to others not as a burden or obligation, but as a blessing and a source of profound personal reward and fulfillment, recognizing the power of helping others.

14. Commit to Beliefs & Get Close

Commit to something you believe in that has value, purpose, and meaning, then reinforce it by actively getting close to the people or entities central to those beliefs, as this commitment will lead to positive change for all involved.

15. Expand Worldview for Others

Encourage and facilitate engagement with ideas, books, and a ‘bigger world’ for those in confined or despairing situations, as this helps counter hopelessness and trauma.

16. Actively Learn and Educate

Actively engage in learning and educating yourself about important issues to empower yourself as a better citizen and participant in positive change.

17. Get Involved, Support Organizations

Get involved and support organizations doing work that resonates with you, either locally or nationally, to make a difference, as there are many opportunities to contribute.