Consciously choose to align with the sanest or smartest aspect of your mental repertoire in any moment, rather than venal or unconstructive thoughts, to boost your sanity quotient.
Actively choose to walk in the direction of the Brahma Viharas—loving-kindness, compassion, sympathetic joy, and equanimity—as these wholesome energies will inform and co-create the world you inhabit.
Use mindfulness to clearly see all the different parts of yourself, then wisely choose which direction to follow by asking if it is wise, kind, or generous, aligning with what is wise within you.
With mindfulness and practice, learn to decide what parts of your personality or thoughts to align with, instead of letting thoughts command and animate you, which can cause immense suffering.
Do not attempt self-improvement through anger, fear, or shame, as these are not transformative; instead, choose to approach change with love and care, which is far more effective.
Cultivate a daily habit or practice of carefully choosing what your mind dwells on, recognizing that this discipline is as essential as brushing your teeth.
Offer yourself a pardon by recognizing that your current state is a result of conditioning, and understand that this conditioning is not your true identity.
Continuously inquire into what you perceive as “I, me, or mine,” and through this process, identify what is not truly you, such as conditioning or fleeting thoughts.
When encountering painful experiences, use the heart qualities, especially compassion, as a reliable refuge to meet and receive them without pseudo-spiritual bypass.
Develop equanimity to maintain a balanced perspective, ensuring that qualities like loving-kindness and compassion remain authentic and not overly saccharine or sentimental.
Cultivate a deep remembrance of who you are to become unshakable and “unfuckable with,” thereby freeing yourself from the need to engage in every conflict or constantly defend your honor.
Actively remember and “flash” your basic goodness, recognizing that your inherent worth is untarnishable and that forgetting this goodness is a real danger.
Internalize the understanding that other people’s thoughts or opinions about you are none of your business, allowing you to remain rooted in your own sense of goodness.
Recognize that the four heart qualities (loving-kindness, compassion, sympathetic joy, equanimity) are always present within you, immeasurable and untarnishable, regardless of your past experiences or actions.
Make an effort to reflect value back to others, reminding them of their inherent worth, especially in dehumanizing situations, as this is a fundamental way to connect.
Adopt the mindset that every situation or interaction is an opportunity to connect with others, regardless of the stated premise or topic.