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How To Handle Dread | Saleem Reshamwala

Nov 21, 2022 57m 3s 16 insights
<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>Today we explore the entire dread spectrum with Saleem Reshamwala, who took a deep dive on this very common, very uncomfortable emotion. What is dread, exactly? What evolutionary purpose does it serve? Most importantly, how do we deal with it? What are the antidotes?</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Reshamwala has worked for The New York Times, PBS, and also TED, where he hosts a podcast called <a href="https://www.ted.com/podcasts/far_flung_with_saleem_reshamwala" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Far Flung</em></a>. He is also the host of <a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/morethanafeeling" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>More Than A Feeling</em></a>, another podcast here at Ten Percent Happier. Saleem and his team recently launched something called The Dread Project - we shared their first episode kicking off the series last week. It's a five-day series that investigates dread. Each day of the challenge, listeners tackle dread in a different way. You can sign up for The Dread Project at <a href="http://dreadproject.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">dreadproject.com</a>.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>Dread-management techniques, including: journaling, drawing, and welcoming your dread to the party inside your head</li> <li>How to face dread when it comes to climate change </li> <li>And the biggest dread of all— death</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/saleem-reshamwala-527" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/saleem-reshamwala-527</a></p>
Actionable Insights

1. Welcome All Feelings as Guests

Welcome all feelings and thoughts, including dread, as if they are guests at a party in your mind, allowing them to be present without judgment or trying to control them, as fighting them only makes them stronger.

2. Reframe Dread’s Intention

Shift your cognitive approach to dread from aversion to seeing it as a protective mechanism, acknowledging its underlying positive intention (e.g., trying to protect you) to temporarily disarm its intensity.

3. Externalize Thoughts

Journal or draw your thoughts and feelings to get them out of your head, as this can stop looping anxieties, allow for objective analysis, and help you gain new perspectives.

4. Embrace Dread as Action Signal

View dread as useful information, alerting you to something important to wrestle with, deal with, think about, or prepare for, rather than trying to make it disappear, and use it as a signal to take immediate action.

5. Practice Exposure Therapy

Gradually approach and engage with the things you fear, including death, as this direct confrontation can normalize the experience and reduce the intensity of your fear over time.

6. Surround with Memento Mori

Actively surround yourself with memento mori (symbolic or visual reminders of death, like skulls or mirrors) to keep mortality at the forefront of your mind and motivate intentional living.

7. Connect Deeply with Dread

Seek deeper connection, beyond just information, with the things you dread, as this can lead to feeling more human, less scared, and help overcome paralysis.

8. Connect with Local Nature

Connect with and observe local nature, noticing details like hills, rocks, and trees, to counteract negative information, foster well-being, and move towards environmental action.

9. Practice Empathy in Conflict

Practice empathy by understanding and respecting the hurt experienced by all parties involved in a conflict or tragedy, as everyone feels hurt regardless of their role.

10. Journal Simply

Be lenient with your journaling practice, using any available materials like a scrap of paper and a pen, without needing fancy supplies or aiming for perfection.

11. Use Dangerous Writing Prompt

Try using a ‘most dangerous writing prompt’ app or website to force continuous writing for a set time (e.g., 15 minutes), helping you get thoughts out without self-censorship.

12. Observe Daily Sunsets

Observe sunsets daily to find natural beauty and re-center yourself, especially when feeling disconnected or fearful about nature, as beauty is almost always available.

13. Research Indigenous Land History

Research the Indigenous history of the land you live on to foster a deeper connection and understanding of your local environment and its past stewards.

14. Experiment with Self-Help Tools

Be open to experimenting with various tools and practices that have helped others manage emotions, even if you use them intermittently or imperfectly, as learning from others’ experiences can be beneficial.

15. Join Dread Project Challenge

Sign up for the 5-day Dread Project email challenge at dreadproject.com to receive daily prompts and activities for working with dread.

16. Utilize 10% Happier App

Download and use the ‘10% with Dan Harris’ app for a library of guided meditations to help with stress, anxiety, sleep, focus, and self-compassion, and access weekly live Zoom community sessions.