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How to Gracefully Handle Defeat I Former Congressman Tim Ryan

Aug 18, 2023 41m 18s 11 insights
<p>Ryan also talks about how meditation helped him ride out a brutal political campaign,  escaping the grind, and whether he'll run for office again.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Tim Ryan served for 20 years in the U.S. Congress. He is the author of a book on the power of mindfulness. He is the author of a book on the power of mindfulness, <a href="https://www.penguinrandomhouse.ca/books/599771/healing-america-by-congressman-tim-ryan/9781401955885" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Healing America: How a Simple Practice Can Help Us Recapture the American Spirit</em></a> and a book on reforming the broken food systems, <a href="https://www.penguinrandomhouse.ca/books/601507/the-real-food-revolution-by-congressman-tim-ryan/9781401946401" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>The Real Food Revolution: Healthy Eating, Green Groceries, and the Return of the American Family Farm</em></a>.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <p><br /></p> <ul> <li>How his practice helped him weather a brutal political campaign </li> <li>Why he's joined the ice bath craze</li> <li>The link between breathwork and meditation</li> <li>How he's adjusting to civilian life after 20 years in Washington</li> <li>How he handled things when he realized the race was not going his way</li> <li>What he was thinking and feeling when he made his concession speech</li> <li>What it's like to be outside of the DC fishbowl</li> <li>The freedom that comes with not living under a microscope</li> <li>The kids basketball game made him realize his life had changed </li> <li>Escaping the grind</li> <li>Whether he's considered running for office again</li> <li>And what the rough and tumble of politics has taught him about dealing with difficult people</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/tim-ryan" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/tim-ryan</a></p> <p><br /></p>
Actionable Insights

1. Embrace Impermanence & Surrender

When facing major life changes or transitions, actively let go of the life you had planned and surrender to the life that’s meant for you. Recognize that nothing lasts forever, viewing perceived endings as opportunities for new beginnings and freedom.

2. Focus on Controllables

Adopt a stoic mindset by concentrating solely on what you can control (your actions, effort, and presence in the moment) and releasing concern over external factors or outcomes. This practice helps maintain mental discipline and reduces stress.

3. Cultivate Compassion, Avoid Hate

Engage with difficult people or opponents by making strong, dispassionate arguments without personal animosity or rage. Understand that holding onto hate harms yourself, and compassion frees you from being burdened and blinded by it, even if you don’t condone their actions.

4. Change World by Coming Alive

To effect positive change, focus on your own vitality and ‘coming alive’ rather than solely trying to shift external circumstances. In a noisy and anxious world, choosing calmness and silence is a ‘radical act’ that adds sanity and compassion.

5. Use Deep Breathing for Quick Meditation

When time is limited, engage in 5-6 minutes of intense deep breathing techniques (e.g., Wim Hof style with 30-40 reps of deep inhales/exhales followed by an exhale hold, or 4-7-8 breathing) to quickly ‘drop in’ to a meditative state. This can be done almost daily and before bed to reconnect with your body.

6. Deep Breathing as Meditation Prep

Before traditional mindfulness meditation, perform 1-5 minutes of deep breathing (e.g., breathing deeply through the nose and exhaling slowly through the mouth as if through a straw) to help settle your mind and prepare to ‘drop in’ more quickly, potentially reducing the time needed to achieve stability.

7. Handle Defeat with Grace

When experiencing significant public or personal defeat, focus on ‘doing your duty’ and expressing gratitude. Model graceful behavior, especially for children, as it provides a crucial lesson in facing adversity with class.

8. Avoid Unnecessary Conflicts

Consciously avoid getting drawn into ego-driven ‘fights’ that escalate negativity and require you to ‘win.’ Instead, make your points and take your stand with calmness and less emotion.

9. Practice Media Detox

To manage stress and maintain mental calm in turbulent times, consider taking a ‘media detox’ by limiting social media and news consumption. This can help lower blood pressure and improve your overall well-being.

10. Accept Imperfection in Practice

Do not strive for perfection in practices like meditation or managing difficult emotions. Acknowledge that self-critical thoughts are normal, and the goal is to do your best and learn to let go of those thoughts rather than achieve flawless execution.

11. Deep Breathing for Trauma Healing

For individuals dealing with trauma, engage in structured deep breathing workshops (like the Art of Living Foundation’s Project Welcome Home Troops, involving series of 30 slow, medium, and fast breaths) as a primary method for processing and healing trauma, as it can be more accessible than immediate traditional sitting meditation.