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How to Get the Wisdom of Old Age Now | Dilip Jeste

Sep 15, 2021 1h 2m 15 insights
Happiness levels are really high when we're young. They then steadily dip through our 20s, 30s, and 40s, and bottom out in our early 50s–at which point, they make a sharp and sudden rise. Then, through our 60s, 70s, and 80s, they are way above where we were in our youth.  Why is this? Why do we get happier even as our bodies are falling apart? Here's another question: Why, from the standpoint of evolution, do humans stick around way past the point of reproductive age? The answer to all of these questions, per our guest today, is: wisdom.  Dr. Dilip Jeste is a Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of California, San Diego, and the author of Wiser: The Scientific Roots of Wisdom, Compassion, and What Makes Us Good. In this conversation, we talk about how exactly he defines wisdom, what people of all ages can do to become wiser now, and the relationship between wisdom and loneliness. A quick content warning: this conversation includes references to sensitive topics, including suicide, substance abuse, and depression. Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/dilip-jeste-379
Actionable Insights

1. Cultivate Wisdom Through Discipline

Understand that wisdom is a skill that can be developed by anyone, provided they have the motivation and discipline to practice its components regularly.

2. Prioritize Mental Well-being and Happiness

Make mental well-being and happiness the ultimate goals in all your endeavors, as they correlate strongly with overall life satisfaction, regardless of physical health or disability.

3. Practice Meditation Regularly

Engage in regular meditation, as scientific studies indicate it can lead to beneficial changes in brain function and structure, including improved white matter integrity and increased volume in certain brain parts.

4. Practice Regular Self-Reflection

Dedicate a specific time, such as half an hour several times a week, to sit alone and reflect on recent events that caused happiness or distress, helping to identify patterns and understand your own behavior.

5. Engage in Shared Self-Reflection

If writing is difficult, engage in self-reflection by sharing your thoughts with a trusted and respected individual, such as a spouse, therapist, or close friend, ensuring comfort and honesty.

6. Maintain a Gratitude Journal

Before bed each night, write down a few things you are grateful for, and eventually include actions you took that made others happy, to cultivate compassion and make gratitude a second nature.

7. Practice Self-Compassion

When you make a mistake or feel distressed, treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a close friend, recognizing common humanity and allowing yourself to move on.

8. Reframe Others’ Motivations

To improve emotional regulation, challenge the assumption that others have bad intentions; instead, reimagine alternative, less hostile motivations for their actions to reduce anger and emotional extremes.

9. Employ Emotional Regulation Techniques

When faced with frustrating situations, use strategies like rationalizing others’ behavior, distracting yourself (e.g., with music), or recalling past similar events that ultimately had no negative impact, to manage your emotions.

10. Seek New Experiences

Actively engage with people different from yourself, visit new places, or try new activities to challenge yourself, learn, and foster neuroplasticity in your brain.

11. Stay Physically, Cognitively, Socially Active

Ensure continuous brain development and neuroplasticity throughout life by remaining active physically, cognitively (e.g., learning new things), and socially (e.g., interacting with diverse people).

12. Volunteer to Combat Loneliness

Combat loneliness and foster social support by volunteering, especially in intergenerational activities, as it connects you with others and enhances your own well-being and biology.

13. Assess Your Wisdom Profile

Take a wisdom scale test, such as the San Diego Wisdom Scale, to identify your personal strengths and limitations across the different components of wisdom, guiding your development efforts.

14. Advocate for Wisdom Education

Support and advocate for educational systems, from kindergarten through higher education, to prioritize teaching and rewarding ‘soft skills’ like empathy, compassion, and emotional regulation, rather than just hard skills, to foster societal wisdom and happiness.

15. Listen to Podcasts Ad-Free

Download the 10% Happier app (available on iOS and Android) and subscribe to listen to podcast episodes without ads, allowing for uninterrupted focus on the content.