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How To Find Calm in a World on Fire | Pico Iyer

Oct 8, 2025 1h 9m 40 insights
<p dir="ltr">The antidote to a noisy, chaotic world.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://picoiyer.com/">Pico Iyer</a> is the acclaimed and bestselling author of more than a dozen books translated into twenty-three languages, most recently the nationally bestselling <a href="https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/678663/aflame-by-pico-iyer/"> Aflame: Learning from Silence</a>. </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr">Why and how Pico found himself spending a lot of time at a silent monastery</li> <li dir="ltr">What he's learned about the power and potency of silence </li> <li dir="ltr">Why so many of us fear silence</li> <li dir="ltr">When silence is a tonic, and when it's a weapon or shield </li> <li dir="ltr">Why taking time out of your life is deeply beneficial — both for you and the people around you </li> <li dir="ltr">How Pico takes what he learns at the monastery into his daily life </li> <li dir="ltr">A wise approach to the news </li> <li dir="ltr">Travel as a tool for transformation</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan's online community <a href="http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href="https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href="https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href="https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr"> </p> <p dir="ltr">Additional Resources: </p> <ul> <li dir="ltr"> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://picoiyerjourneys.com/">Pico Iyer Journeys</a></p> </li> <li dir="ltr"> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.ted.com/speakers/pico_iyer">Pico Iyer TED Talks</a></p> </li> </ul> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Get ready for another Meditation Party at Omega Institute! This in-person workshop brings together Dan with his friends and meditation teachers, Sebene Selassie, Jeff Warren, and for the first time, Ofosu Jones-Quartey. The event runs October 24th-26th. Sign up and learn more <a href="http://eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-2025">here</a>!</p> <p> </p> <p dir="ltr">Tickets are now on sale for a special live taping of the 10% Happier Podcast with guest Pete Holmes! Join us on November 18th in NYC for this benefit show, with all proceeds supporting the New York Insight Meditation Center. Grab your tickets <a href="https://www.nyimc.org/event/great-cosmic-joke/">here</a>! </p> <p dir="ltr"> </p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href="https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p> <p> </p>
Actionable Insights

1. Do Nothing to Do Anything

To stoke energy, maximize fun, or be effective, prioritize rest and intentional periods of ‘doing nothing,’ as this is the foundational step to accomplishing anything meaningful.

2. Gather Inner Resources

Cultivate an ‘inner savings account’ by regularly gathering your inner resources through quiet time, as this is essential for having fresh, creative, and joyful contributions to share with the world, rather than just exhaustion or distractedness.

3. Nurture Inner Landscape

Focus on strengthening your inner work and mental well-being, understanding that a robust inner landscape will naturally improve your relationships, career, and self-understanding.

4. Mind Care for World Care

Prioritize taking care of your mind, as this Japanese saying suggests, because a well-tended mind enables you to effectively engage with and positively impact the world around you.

5. 20-Minute Morning Quiet

Start your day by sitting quietly for 20 minutes without devices to establish a positive tone, recognizing this small investment (3% of waking time) can profoundly improve the other 97% of your day.

6. Limit News to 5 Minutes

Restrict daily news consumption to a maximum of five minutes to avoid excessive opinion, speculation, and tragic material that can lead to feelings of hopelessness and powerlessness, and instead focus on what you can affect.

7. 2-Hour Pre-Sleep Offline

Implement a ’two-hour rule’ by avoiding online activity for two hours before bedtime to significantly improve sleep quality, which in turn positively impacts your entire next day.

8. Delay Morning Online Access

Extend the time between waking up and going online as much as possible to maintain a calmer, more receptive state before entering the ‘Maelstrom’ of digital information and external demands.

9. 3% Retreat Rule

Aim for regular, short retreats (e.g., three days every season) as a small investment (3% of your life) that can profoundly transform the quality of the other 97% of your days.

10. 20-Foot Perspective Rule

Apply the ‘20-foot rule’ by regularly stepping back from your immediate life and concerns to gain perspective, discern what truly matters, and see the larger picture of your life and its proportions.

11. Choose Your Response

Recognize that your life is defined not by what happens to you, but by your chosen response to those events, and cultivate the ability to consciously choose how you react.

12. Redefine Luxury as Contentment

Shift your understanding of luxury from accumulating possessions to being content with what you have and needing less, finding satisfaction in sufficiency.

13. Embrace Sufficiency Mindset

Cultivate the belief that ‘what I have is all I need’ to free yourself from constant desire for more, thereby alleviating many daily problems and anxieties.

14. Create Mental Clearings

Actively seek to create mental clearings by intentionally ‘doing nothing’ during quiet times, allowing your mind to empty and become receptive to new insights, rather than constantly filling it with activity.

15. Restore Time, Don’t Kill It

When faced with moments of waiting or downtime, consciously choose to ‘restore time’ by engaging in quiet, reflective activities like listening to music, rather than ‘killing time’ with passive consumption or distractions.

16. Walks for Creative Clarity

Incorporate regular walks into your daily routine to empty your mind of agendas and notes, allowing for fresh ideas and reconceptualizations of projects to emerge more naturally.

17. Monastic Silence for Calm

Consider seeking out or creating a ‘monastic silence’ – a particular kind of quiet cultivated by generations of contemplation – to experience a profound sense of calm, liberation, and connection.

18. Unstructured Quiet Time

When seeking quiet time, allow for unstructured, intuitive periods without a fixed plan, rules, or a guiding teacher, enabling you to discover what you truly need.

19. Confront Fears in Quiet

Address your inner fears, doubts, and anxieties within a supportive and benign quiet environment, such as a retreat or daily meditation, where you can come to peace with them more easily than amidst daily distractions.

20. Use Rushing as Mindfulness Bell

When you feel the physical sensation of rushing in your body, use it as a mindfulness bell to wake up, become aware of the habit energy, and intentionally slow down.

21. Declutter Space, Declutter Mind

Simplify your physical environment by decluttering your space, as this can create mental clarity and reduce the number of things to think about or worry about.

22. Simplify Life for Freedom

Consider simplifying your life by reducing possessions and external dependencies (e.g., cell phone, car, excessive media) to create more freedom, time, and mental space.

23. Dose Up on Nature

Actively seek out and engage with nature, even in small doses, to benefit from its restorative qualities and rhythms that are more aligned with the human pace of life than technology.

24. Seek Daily Calm Spaces

Identify and utilize quiet, calming spaces (like a park, cathedral, or library) in your daily life, even for short periods, to serve as a quick ‘medicine’ to calm your mind and regain composure.

25. Unplan and Unwatch Time

During periods of intentional quiet or retreat, remove your watch and release yourself from rigid plans, allowing the day to unfold more naturally and at a human pace.

26. Solitude for Community

View solitude not as an end in itself, but as a strategic practice to gather personal resources and insights, enabling you to contribute more richly to your community and relationships, as exemplified by Thoreau.

27. Travel for Transformation

Use travel intentionally as a tool for transformation, simplifying your life, shedding self-definitions, becoming more open-hearted, and cultivating humility by being at the mercy of the world.

28. Travel Without Rigid Plans

When traveling or in moments of leisure, intentionally release rigid plans to foster greater openness and presence with people and unexpected experiences.

29. Travel to Cultivate Humility

Embrace travel as a means to cultivate humility and release the illusion of control, allowing for greater acceptance and adaptability when plans go awry and life presents unforeseen circumstances.

30. Build Crisis Resources

Cultivate inner resources, such as those gained through meditation or quiet reflection, to draw upon during life’s inevitable challenges and crises, recognizing that external achievements may be irrelevant in such moments.

31. Choose Uplifting Focus

Consciously choose to focus your attention on information and experiences that uplift and open your mind, rather than those that agitate or deplete you, to foster a richer and happier life.

32. Morning Poetry/Classics

Replace morning news consumption with reading poetry or classic literature for a set period (e.g., 30 minutes) to foster wisdom, calm, and a more positive disposition.

33. Learn from Dalai Lama’s Practice

Be inspired by highly productive individuals like the Dalai Lama who prioritize significant daily quiet time (e.g., meditation) and commit to even a small fraction of that (e.g., 20 minutes) for personal well-being.

34. Radical Quiet Action

Recognize the need for radical action to break the vicious cycle of constant rushing and distraction, and actively seek out quiet to realize your fundamental need for rest and reflection.

35. Embrace Impermanence

Practice observing the impermanence and interdependence of all things, allowing this understanding to reduce attachment and prevent taking passing thoughts or events too seriously.

36. Discipline for Freedom

Consider establishing a rigorous daily discipline, even with small, consistent practices, as this can paradoxically lead to greater freedom by reducing decision fatigue and providing structure.

37. Recollect Scattered Self

Engage in practices like retreat or quiet reflection to ‘recollect’ yourself, gathering scattered attention and fragmented parts of your being into a more unified and present whole.

38. Withdraw to Engage Better

Understand that temporary withdrawal from the world can be a powerful tool for self-improvement, ultimately making you a more effective and engaged participant in society.

39. Solitude Enhances Community

Recognize that periods of solitude can enhance your capacity for meaningful engagement and contribution within your community and relationships.

40. Learn from Selfless Service

Observe and learn from examples of selflessness and service in others, using their dedication to inspire your own contributions to the well-being of those around you.