When encountering skeptical tendencies, curb them for a minute and listen to new perspectives, especially when wisdom and science are on their side, to avoid dismissing valuable insights.
To return to your inherent state of radical self-love, identify and actively disengage from the stories and feelings that are preventing you from connecting with your intrinsic worthiness.
When facing discomfort, choose to embrace it in service of personal liberation and growth, rather than settling for familiar, unproductive discomfort that keeps you stuck.
Begin by becoming conscious of your automatic thoughts and behaviors, especially those that operate on autopilot, to understand how you are moving through the world.
When you notice a self-blaming thought (e.g., ‘my body is wrong’), interrupt it and consciously choose a new, alternative story or option, even if it feels uncomfortable initially.
Consistently practice new thoughts and behaviors repeatedly, even if you don’t fully believe them at first, as this repetition will eventually transform them into your new way of being.
By the repetition of new behavior in the face of old thoughts, you create new neural pathways that then make it much easier to go to the new thought as default rather than the old one.
Train your mind to think differently about bodies by noticing immediate judgments about your own and others’ bodies, slowing that judgmental process, and retraining your mind to adopt new perspectives.
Reframe your relationship with your body by viewing it as an ally working in solidarity with you, rather than an enemy, to make decisions together for your most authentic existence and highest good.
Allow yourself to not understand certain things (e.g., how others desire) without creating false stories or judging them, recognizing that not knowing is not a personal failing.
Embrace difference as a natural part of the human ecosystem, rather than seeing it as a threat or a reason for scarcity, by intentionally evolving from thinking that doesn’t serve you.
Accept and embrace the unique differences of your own body, recognizing that much body shame and judgment stems from societal norms about what is ’normal’ or ‘good.’
Be aware of external messages and influences that encourage self-doubt or deviation from radical self-love, as these ‘feeders’ reinforce old, default thoughts.
Recognize that many negative self-perceptions or biases (isms and obias) are cultural imprints, not personal creations; acknowledge them, then consciously begin the process of ‘returning’ these unwanted, externally given thoughts.
Take responsibility for carrying around uninterrogated thoughts and cultural biases, and actively work to interrupt and challenge them to foster personal growth.
Cultivate self-acceptance, self-compassion, and self-love to reduce shame when confronting the ‘uglier’ aspects of your mind, recognizing they are your responsibility to address but not necessarily your fault for originating.
Offer yourself grace and compassion on the difficult journey of radical self-love, especially when you find yourself reverting to old loops or stories of not enoughness.
Practice loving the part of yourself that feels inadequate or self-loathing, rather than rejecting it, to build capacity for returning to a space of love and acceptance.
When encountering resistance to self-love or new ideas, acknowledge its presence and cultivate curiosity about its underlying causes or fears.
Prioritize choosing yourself and your well-being, even if it means divesting from external validations that have rewarded disconnection from your true self.
Reclaim your full humanity by rejecting societal pressures that demand you exchange connection to self and others for external prizes and validation.
Shift your ambition from being driven by feelings of ’not enoughness’ to being fueled by radical self-love, which connects you to your purpose, joy, and enthusiasm, creating a more sustainable engine.
Actively engage in community to sustain your radical self-love journey, as individualism is an illusion and collective support is essential against societal and cultural pressures.
Share your radical self-love journey within a community to interrupt the contagious nature of body shame and instead foster the contagious nature of radical self-love.
Actively challenge societal systems that perpetuate inequality or self-loathing, observing both the resistance encountered and the new opportunities that arise from this engagement.