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How to Change Your Habits | Katy Milkman

May 10, 2021 1h 11m 20 insights
To state the blazingly obvious, creating healthy habits can be infernally difficult. But why? And what are the best strategies for getting around this? My guest today has spent nearly two decades researching these questions. Her name is Katy Milkman. She is a behavioral scientist and professor at the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania. She hosts a podcast called Choiceology and has written a new book called, How to Change. In this conversation, we talk about why willpower is such an unreliable inner resource, why making habit change fun is such a powerful technique, and key strategies such as "the fresh start effect," "temptation bundling," "commitment devices," "piggybacking," and giving yourself a Mulligan. We also talk about the potentially sensitive subject of getting other people to change.  Are you interested in teaching mindfulness to teens? Looking to carve your own path and share this practice in a way that feels real, authentic, and relevant in today's world? Our friends at iBme are accepting applications for their Mindfulness Teacher Training program - catered towards working with teens and young adults. The last round of applications are due May 15th and scholarships are available. For more information and to apply, check out: https://ibme.com/mindfulness-teacher-training/. We also want to deeply thank and recognize mental health professionals for your support. For a year's FREE access to the app and hundreds of meditations and resources visit: https://www.tenpercent.com/mentalhealth. We have one final item of business, and it is an invitation for you to participate in this show. In June, we'll be launching a special series of podcast episodes focusing on anxiety – something I'm sure we're all too familiar with. In this series, you'll become intimately familiar with the mechanics of anxiety: how and why it shows up and what you may be doing to feed it.  And this is where you come in. We'd love to hear from you with your questions about anxiety that experts will answer during our anxiety series on the podcast. So whether you're struggling with social anxiety, anxiety about re-entering the world post-Covid, or have any other questions about anxiety - we want to hear from you. To submit a question or share a reflection call (646) 883-8326 and leave us a voicemail. If you're outside the United States, you can email us a voice memo file in mp3 format to listener@tenpercent.com. The deadline for submissions is Wednesday, May 12th.  Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/katy-milkman-345
Actionable Insights

1. Prioritize Fun Over Efficiency

When pursuing long-term goals, focus on making the process enjoyable rather than maximally efficient, as people who find joy in their goals are more likely to persist and achieve them.

2. Design Choices, Not Willpower

Reduce reliance on willpower, which is unreliable, by designing your environment and choices so that desired long-term behaviors are either automatic or inherently appealing.

3. Implement Commitment Devices

Create formal incentive structures, such as putting money on the line with a referee, that restrict future choices and impose a cost for failing to achieve a goal.

4. Bundle Temptations for Motivation

Link an activity you dread but know is good for you with an alluring indulgence you enjoy, allowing you to look forward to the beneficial activity.

5. Plan for Setbacks with Mulligans

Incorporate ’emergency reserves’ or ‘mulligans’ into your ambitious goals, allowing for a limited number of slip-ups without abandoning your overall objective.

6. Build Elastic, Flexible Habits

Structure your routines with flexibility and fallback plans, so if your primary schedule is disrupted, you have alternative times or methods to complete the habit, making it more robust.

7. Leverage Fresh Start Moments

Initiate new goals or changes during ‘fresh start’ periods like New Year’s, birthdays, or the start of a new week/month, as these times naturally foster a ’new me’ mindset.

8. Prioritize Goals to Avoid Overwhelm

Focus on one or two clear goals at a time, rather than attempting to tackle too many simultaneously, to prevent overwhelm and demotivation.

9. Piggyback New Habits

Attach a new desired habit directly onto an existing, well-established routine to make it easier to remember and consistently perform.

10. Give Advice to Self-Motivate

Boost your own motivation and self-efficacy by giving advice to others who are struggling with similar goals, which encourages introspection and reinforces your commitment.

11. Cultivate a Growth Mindset

View failures and setbacks as valuable feedback and opportunities for learning and growth, rather than as fixed indicators of your capabilities.

12. Embrace a ‘Good-ish’ Mindset

Recognize yourself as a ‘work in progress’ rather than a fixed ‘good’ or ‘bad’ person, which fosters greater opportunity for continuous improvement.

13. Curate Social Role Models

To encourage change in others, strategically expose them to positive role models and peer groups who embody the desired behaviors, leveraging social influence.

14. Combine Change Strategies

Leverage multiple behavior change techniques simultaneously (e.g., making it fun and using commitment devices) to address various barriers and maximize your chances of success.

15. Track Streaks (with Reserves)

Use streak tracking to provide a self-rewarding system for consistent behavior, but include ’emergency reserves’ to prevent demotivation if a streak is broken.

16. Opt-In to Gamification

Utilize gamification to make goal pursuit more enjoyable, but ensure it’s a game you genuinely want to play or that others opt into, as forced gamification can backfire.

17. Rehearse Successful Behaviors

After a successful behavior change, articulate and rehearse what went well, focusing on specific triggers and positive responses, to solidify learning and prepare for future similar situations.

18. Fresh Starts Need Follow-Through

Understand that fresh starts provide initial motivation but are not sufficient for sustained change; additional strategies are needed to overcome ongoing obstacles.

19. Address Bias Systemically

To combat bias and promote diversity, prioritize advocating for structural changes in organizational policies (e.g., hiring, promotion) and actively mentor underrepresented groups, rather than solely relying on individual attitude adjustments.

20. Tailor Strategies for Others

When trying to encourage change in others, first identify the specific barrier preventing the change (e.g., confidence, habit, forgetfulness) and then apply tailored solutions.