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How to Break Your Anxiety Habit | Judson Brewer

Mar 10, 2021 1h 11m 16 insights
<p>To mark the first anniversary of the week in March 2020 when Covid fundamentally altered our lives, we're launching a special two-part series. Today, we're going to be talking about anxiety, which has been spiking during the pandemic. My guest is Dr. Jud Brewer, a psychiatrist and deep dharma practitioner who argues that anxiety is a habit–one that you can unwind. Then, next Monday, we'll talk to Nicholas Christakis, who is not only a doctor but also the head of the Human Nature Lab at Yale, about when the pandemic will end, and what this ordeal has revealed about our species. But today it's anxiety with Jud Brewer. Some of you may know Jud from the Ten Percent Happier app, where he teaches a mindful eating course. He's also been on this show several times. He is the Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center at Brown University. He's got a number of apps that use mindfulness to treat addiction, including Eat Right Now, Craving to Quit, and Unwinding Anxiety. He also has a brand new book, called Unwinding Anxiety. In this interview, we talk about: how exactly mindfulness can be harnessed to deal with anxiety; what is anxiety anyway, and why does he view it as a habit? And we publicly debate something we have been privately discussing: Is there any level of stress or anxiety that is healthy? One more thing: We are looking for a podcast marketer. If you love this show, marketing, and building relationships, we would love to have you on the team to help us grow Ten Percent Happier and our future shows. Please apply at https://www.tenpercent.com/careers. Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/judson-brewer-329</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Map Anxiety Habit Loops

Identify and understand your anxiety and worry-related habit loops, including other related unhelpful habits (e.g., overeating, excessive social media), using a simple ’trigger, behavior, result’ framework. This helps to see how anxiety perpetuates itself.

2. Update Worry’s Reward Value

When you find yourself worrying, bring awareness to the present moment by asking: ‘What am I getting from this right now?’ (e.g., increased anxiety) and ‘Is this actually solving the problem?’ This helps your brain recognize the true unrewarding nature of worry.

3. Embrace Curiosity as BBO

Replace unrewarding anxiety and worry with curiosity, asking yourself what feels better: being anxious or being curious about that anxiety. Curiosity is an intrinsic, intrinsically rewarding ‘bigger, better offer’ that helps you step out of old habit loops.

4. Accept & Welcome Anxiety

Instead of resisting, trying to fix, or avoiding anxiety, practice simply being with and accepting the feelings as body sensations. This stops feeding the anxiety and allows for a shift in your relationship to it, as ‘what we resist persists’.

5. Practice Informal Mindfulness

Engage in ‘short moments many times’ of informal mindfulness throughout your day, such as mindfully eating, smoking, or simply noting anxiety sensations or taking a mindful breath. This helps establish the habit of awareness in context before formal meditation.

6. Differentiate Fear from Worry

Recognize that physical feelings of fear can be useful signals, but obsessive thinking (worry) triggered by fear is unhelpful and makes things worse by hindering clear thought and planning. Watch out for the latter.

7. Cultivate Interest Curiosity

Focus on ‘interest curiosity’ – the joy of discovery and exploring the journey – rather than ‘deprivation curiosity,’ which is about seeking to fill an information gap. Interest curiosity feels more open and rewarding.

8. Practice Brain Self-Compassion

When anxious, practice self-compassion by reminding yourself, ‘Oh, that’s how my brain works,’ recognizing that your brain is trying to protect you, even if it’s overreacting to non-threats. This helps to give your brain a break and break the cycle of self-judgment.

9. Focus on Present ‘What’

When dealing with unhelpful patterns, devote your energy to ‘what is happening right now’ rather than dwelling on ‘why’ it’s happening. Understanding the present pattern is more effective for changing habits than focusing on past origins.

10. Embrace Growth Zone Discomfort

When stepping out of your comfort zone into new, uncomfortable territory, recognize that this discomfort is a natural brain survival mechanism. Approach it with curiosity rather than panic to avoid reverting to old, unhelpful patterns.

11. Play the Tape Forward

To overcome unhelpful habits (e.g., drinking), practice ‘playing the tape forward’ by reflecting on past negative outcomes of the habit and comparing them to the present positive experience of not engaging in it. This helps update the brain’s reward value.

12. Use GAD-7 for Severity

Utilize the GAD-7 (Generalized Anxiety Disorder 7) questionnaire, a common clinical tool, to gauge the severity of your anxiety, with scores indicating minimal (<5), mild (5-10), moderate (10-15), or severe (>15) anxiety.

13. Assess Life Disturbance

To determine if your anxiety is problematic, ask yourself if it is causing a disturbance in your life or disrupting your ability to function fully, rather than solely relying on symptom checklists.

14. Take Deep Breaths

When feeling worried, consciously take deep breaths, as this simple practice is phenomenally helpful in managing the physical sensations of worry and anxiety.

15. Avoid Unhelpful Compensatory Habits

Refrain from employing unhelpful compensatory mechanisms like excessive drinking, overeating, or social media addiction for news, as these habits solidify anxiety rather than addressing its root cause.

16. Cultivate Love and Kindness

Cultivate feelings of love and kindness, as they share the same core quality of ‘opening up’ and expansion as curiosity, helping you see the unrewarding nature of contraction and fostering connection.