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Nov 5, 2025 1h 15m 13 insights
<p dir="ltr">Plus: How to take your thoughts less seriously and be the calmest person in the room.</p> <p dir="ltr">GuoGu (AKA Dr. Jimmy Yu) is the founder of the <a href="http://www.tallahasseechan.org/">Tallahassee Chan Center</a>  and a Professor of Buddhism and East Asian religions at Florida State University. He is the author of several books, including <a href="https://www.shambhala.com/authors/g-n/guo-gu/the-essence-of-chan-15555.html"> The Essence of Chan</a> (2012), <a href="https://www.shambhala.com/authors/g-n/guo-gu/passing-through-the-gateless-barrier-3507.html">Passing Through the Gateless Barrier</a> (2016), and <a href="https://www.shambhala.com/authors/g-n/guo-gu/silent-illumination.html"> Silent Illumination</a> (2021). </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr">Embodied experiencing </li> <li dir="ltr">How words and language shape our reality </li> <li dir="ltr">The practice of wonderment </li> <li dir="ltr">Body scan meditation </li> <li dir="ltr">The importance of relaxation — and how to do it if you have pain </li> <li dir="ltr">The 4 things you need in order for meditation to do its job </li> <li dir="ltr">How to carry all of this into daily life — GuoGu gets super practical here</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan's online community <a href="http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href="https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href="https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href="https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr"> </p> <p dir="ltr">Additional Resources: </p> <ul> <li dir="ltr"> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL28345138729C2BF3">Tallahassee Chan Center & Talks by Guo Gu</a> (YouTube Channel)</p> </li> </ul> <p> </p> <p dir="ltr">Tickets are now on sale for a special live taping of the 10% Happier Podcast with guest Pete Holmes! Join us on November 18th in NYC for this benefit show, with all proceeds supporting the New York Insight Meditation Center. Grab your tickets <a href="https://www.nyimc.org/event/great-cosmic-joke/">here</a>!</p> <p>Tickets are now available for an intimate live event with Dan on November 23rd as part of the Troutbeck Luminary Series. Join the conversation, participate in a guided meditation, and ask your questions during the Q&amp;A. Click <a class="c-link" href="https://troutbeck.com/culture/luminaries-series-conversation-meditation-with-dan-harris-2025/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">here</a> to buy your ticket! </p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href="https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p> <p>Thanks to our
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1. Shift from Head to Body

Shift your awareness from constant mental activity and ’toxic recursive loops’ of thought to your physical body. This helps you avoid being ‘owned by your swirling stories and ancient grudges,’ allowing you to navigate the world more effectively and successfully, turning ‘obstacles into opportunities.’

2. Practice Embodied Experiencing

Throughout the day, have specific moments to tune into your body and ground yourself. This helps avoid discursive thinking from hijacking your sense faculties and allows you to be more in tune with the ‘undercurrent feeling tone.’

3. Engage Non-Discursive Senses

Actively train yourself to use senses like deep listening (without adding labels) and seeing (without compartmentalizing or judging). This helps to slow down or ‘bracket the monologue’ of your discursive mind.

4. Progressive Relaxation for Meditation

Begin seated meditation by systematically relaxing the body from head to toe, tensing and releasing difficult areas like eyebrows and shoulders, and focusing on tactile sensations. This primes the body and allows for a deeper, more effective meditation practice.

5. Four Meditation Foundations

For effective meditation, ensure four conditions are present: a primed body, regulated breath, a content feeling tone, and a focused mind. Addressing these foundations allows any meditation method to be efficacious.

6. Manage Pain with Awareness

To manage pain, relax the body to short-circuit the stress response, isolate the painful area, and observe its changing nature without labeling it with words like ‘pain.’ This increases pain tolerance and reveals the illusory nature of discomfort.

7. Discern Undercurrent Feeling Tones

Train yourself to be more aware of your undercurrent feeling tones (moods or attitudes), which are subtle, unformed thoughts that dictate and color your experience. Regularly ask, ‘What’s the attitude in the mind right now?’ to identify your perceptual lens.

8. One Minute Daily Mindfulness

Choose five innocuous daily activities and for one minute during each, relax, ground yourself, tap into a content feeling tone (‘It’s all good’), and engage with the activity using other sense faculties without discursive thinking. Sustain this for 1-3 months, then extend to other triggers.

9. See Junctures as Opportunities

View junctures of life (contact, tension, change, lack of recognition, power dynamics, status, influence) as opportunities to practice. This helps expose habit tendencies, allowing you to understand, embrace, work with, and let go of them.

10. Cultivate ‘It’s All Good’

Train yourself to cultivate the attitude ‘It’s all good’ (I-A-G), even if initially forced. This cognitive and experiential reframe helps your body avoid stress, opens possibilities, and allows you to find solutions rather than being overwhelmed.

11. Expose, Embrace, Transform, Let Go

When you expose your habit tendencies of labeling and categorizing things, embrace them (understanding their history), then work to transform them, and finally let go. This process helps to free you from negative perceptions that shape your suffering.

12. Reframe Perceptions with Language

Use words and language to rephrase negative perceptions (apophatic terms) into positive ones (cataphatic terms). For example, rephrase ‘impermanence’ as ’new beginnings’ or ‘relationships/connections,’ which carries different feeling tones and can create a virtuous cycle.

13. Cultivate Wonderment & Curiosity

Cultivate a practice of wonderment and curiosity, approaching experiences with an innocent, non-judgmental attitude. This shifts your brain’s response from threat to problem-solving, diminishing identification with rigid containers and labels.