Develop the ability to choose where you place your attention, as it fundamentally shapes your inner atmosphere and available choices, reclaiming it from external influences and habits. Practice shifting your attention intentionally (e.g., from sight to sound) and consciously choose nourishing focal points (sky, trees, fresh air) during short breaks to strengthen this capacity.
Cultivate a balanced worldview that acknowledges both progress and problems, remaining open to being wrong and avoiding simplistic binaries, as this fosters sanity and prevents blinkered thinking. Actively seek out multiple perspectives and avoid reducing complex issues to ‘us vs. them’ or ‘right vs. wrong’ mentalities, especially in social engagement.
Develop inner balance by managing personal stress, overwhelm from news, and work burnout, as this foundational step positions you to be more effective in all aspects of life (parenting, work, civil society). Get a handle on your own stress and overwhelm first, as you cannot effectively help others or engage with the world if you are ‘drowning’ yourself.
Practice mindfulness to engage deeply with the full spectrum of human experience (both pleasant and painful), recognizing it’s the first step for healing and transformation, not just feeling good. Cultivate awareness of current realities, including difficult emotions and challenging circumstances, as this direct engagement is necessary for genuine healing and change.
Define your aspiration – a longing for something better, fulfilling, or meaningful – to provide purpose and energy, using it as a ‘North Star’ to guide your actions and return to when triggered. Set small, achievable aspirations (e.g., go outside, take a shower) to generate energy and reorient yourself, especially during difficult times, or use larger aspirations (e.g., parenting with care) to align your behavior.
Investigate what’s ‘yours to do’ by taking care of yourself, listening to what you genuinely care about, and recognizing your unique gifts and skills, understanding you can’t do everything but must do something. See yourself as an embedded member of a community, not an isolated individual, and engage sincerely and wholeheartedly with the question of where you can contribute meaningfully.
Define devotion as giving yourself completely with love, loyalty, and sincerity; apply this wholeheartedness to relationships, work, hobbies, causes, and even mundane tasks like chores. Recognize the deep human need for devotion as a hunger for wholeheartedness and connection to something larger than yourself, avoiding filling this void with external status or accumulation.
Actively work to increase your capacity for joy, seeking it through meaningful relationships, wholehearted engagement, and being present to life, beyond superficial pleasures. Slow down, reduce distractions, and be available to receive positive experiences (e.g., observing nature, mindful sensory engagement) to allow joy to arise naturally, which recharges and nourishes you for perseverance through difficulties.
Love and care for others deeply, but without attachment to them being a certain way or to their permanence, recognizing the impermanent nature of all beings. Cultivate equanimity to avoid withholding love from others due to the pain of feeling helpless in the face of their choices, and learn to open your heart without taking loved ones for granted.
Recognize that calming yourself down and working on relationships (personal and global) are forms of ’enlightened self-interest’ that lead to greater happiness and well-being. Engage in acts of service and contribution to your community, as this brings energy, confidence, reduces anxiety, and fosters self-worth, ultimately healing you as well.
Utilize the pain of regret as a powerful teacher for personal growth, and when receiving criticism or differing perspectives, listen openly and use it as an opportunity to investigate your own biases and learn. Be open to feedback from others and unexpected life events to gain clarity about yourself, and turn a critical lens inward to transform how you engage in the world.
When selfish motivations arise, get curious, cultivate self-empathy, and identify the underlying healthy needs (e.g., care for family, desire for love) rather than judging yourself. View ’embarrassing’ parts of your personality with warmth and compassion, understanding them as attempts by your mind to protect you.
Acknowledge and own your personal needs, communicating them clearly in relationships, while also recognizing how responding to the needs of others (even helpless ones) can evoke generosity and tenderness. Observe how shared positive experiences can dissolve social barriers and reveal the innate goodness in people, even amidst stress and anxiety, fostering connection.
Integrate small, non-Herculean shifts into your day, such as stretching for 10 seconds or closing your eyes for 30 seconds between tasks, to manage overwhelm and recharge. Recognize that every choice shapes your mind; consciously practice being thoughtful, kind, and generous in small ways to build resilience rather than stress.
Understand that modern life often conflicts with our neurophysiology (designed for small communities, shared purpose, regular downtime) and seek ways to integrate these elements into your life. Consciously manage how you interact with media and technology, as it often bombards us with information we can’t act on and shapes us through algorithms, which is at odds with our natural design.