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How To Actually Keep Your New Year's Resolutions | Dan Solo Episode

Jan 3, 2025 25m 20s 33 insights
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Actionable Insights

1. Cultivate Self-Compassion Habit

Develop the ‘uber habit’ of self-compassion by speaking to yourself like a good friend or coach, offering motivation without self-hatred, which builds resilience and increases the likelihood of reaching goals.

2. Prioritize Systems Over Goals

Shift your focus from solely big goals to establishing robust day-to-day systems and processes that facilitate your habits, recognizing that consistent systems are more effective than relying on goals alone.

3. Set Specific, Achievable Goals

Define your resolutions with clear, measurable actions (e.g., ’exercise three times a week,’ ‘read one book a month’) instead of vague aspirations, to increase your likelihood of success.

4. Start Habits Very Small

Begin new habits with extremely minimal effort (e.g., 1-2 minutes of meditation, putting on running shoes, reading one page) to reduce resistance, build initial wins, and foster an identity aligned with the desired behavior.

5. Align Goals with Core Values

Select or connect your resolutions to your deep-seated personal values and intrinsic motivations (e.g., exercising for family health, meditating for better relationships) to foster a more powerful and sustainable drive.

6. Practice General Mindfulness

Cultivate general mindfulness or healthy self-awareness to resist automatic, reactive behaviors and cravings, break free from autopilot mode, and lower overall stress, which can derail habit formation.

7. Map Your Habit Loops

Identify and map out your ‘habit loops’ for addictive behaviors by recognizing the three components: the cue (trigger), the routine (the action), and the reward (the feeling or outcome).

8. Mindfully Examine Habit Rewards

Use mindfulness to critically evaluate the actual results and true rewards of your habits, especially addictive ones, to cultivate ‘disenchantment’ and reduce their appeal.

9. Find a “Bigger, Better Offer”

Once you’ve recognized the unsatisfying nature of old habits, identify and implement a ‘bigger, better offer’ (BBO) – a more rewarding alternative, often mindfulness itself – to replace the old behavior.

10. Implement “Never Miss Twice” Rule

If you miss a day of your habit, ensure you do not miss it a second consecutive time; this rule provides a balance of flexibility and structure, preventing a single slip from derailing your progress.

11. Track Habit Progress

Monitor your habit attempts using a journal or a habit tracking app (e.g., Streaks, Habit Bull) to reinforce consistency, boost self-awareness about effective times/days, and provide positive reinforcement by celebrating small wins.

12. Optimize Your Environment

Arrange your physical and digital surroundings to support your new habits by making desired actions easy to access (e.g., workout clothes visible, healthy snacks at eye level) and minimizing distractions (e.g., blocking distracting websites).

13. Use Habit Stacking

Attach a new desired habit to an existing, consistent habit you already perform (e.g., meditate after pouring morning coffee) to make it easier to remember and integrate into your routine.

14. Frame Goals Positively

Formulate your goals as approach-oriented actions (e.g., ’eat more vegetables’) rather than avoidance-oriented ones (e.g., ‘stop eating crap’), as positive framing is more effective for habit formation.

15. Limit Resolution Quantity

Focus on a small number of resolutions at a time, avoiding the attempt to change too many things simultaneously, to prevent overwhelm and increase success rates.

16. Seek Social Support for Habits

Engage with a community or find partners who share your habit goals (e.g., gym buddy, book club) to make the process more fun, receive motivation, reinforce positive behaviors through social norms, and create accountability.

17. Practice Temptation Bundling

Pair a desired habit (e.g., exercise) with a ‘guilty pleasure’ you enjoy (e.g., watching a favorite TV show), allowing yourself the pleasure only while performing the habit, to make the habit more enjoyable and increase persistence.

18. Focus on Joy in Exercise

Approach exercise by emphasizing the inherent joy of movement rather than external motivators like shame, self-criticism, or comparison, to foster a more sustainable and positive habit.

19. Automate Financial Goals

Implement automated savings plans to regularly transfer a portion of your income into savings, removing the need for conscious effort and reducing the temptation to spend, thereby increasing savings.

20. Connect with Your Future Self

Visualize or engage in an imaginary dialogue with your future self (e.g., your 80-year-old self) to gain perspective, clarify the long-term benefits of your habits, and strengthen motivation for current actions.

21. Create Meaningful Rituals

Establish a personal ritual around your habits, such as a specific phrase or intention said before starting, to imbue the action with deeper meaning and enhance intrinsic motivation.

22. Utilize Daily/Weekly Fresh Starts

Embrace the ‘fresh start effect’ not just for new beginnings, but also to recover from setbacks; consider every new day or Monday as an opportunity to restart your habit efforts without self-blame.

23. Notice Difficult Moments Mindfully

When experiencing self-criticism or difficulty with resolutions, use mindfulness to simply notice and acknowledge the challenging moment, even by saying ’this sucks’.

24. Recognize Shared Human Experience

During difficult moments, remind yourself that countless others are experiencing similar feelings and thoughts, fostering a sense of common humanity to combat feelings of isolation.

25. Self-Talk Like a Good Friend

Address yourself with kindness and encouragement, as you would a good friend, especially when you falter; using your own name can create helpful psychological distance.

26. Use Financial Accountability Apps

Consider using apps like Stick or B-Minder to set goals and commit money that you will lose if you fail to meet your commitments, creating a strong financial incentive to follow through.

27. Savor and Recount Wins

Actively recount and savor your successful moments or ‘wins’ (e.g., successful conversations, habit achievements) to coaches or friends, as this process helps solidify the learnings and positive behaviors.

28. Share Progress for Motivation

Share your habit streaks or progress (e.g., meditation streaks) with others, as seeing your progress is a powerful motivator and ‘healthy bragging’ can provide additional social support and accountability.

29. Experiment with Habit Strategies

Choose a few habit formation strategies that resonate with you and test them out, rather than trying to implement all of them at once.

30. Join Free Meditation Challenge

Subscribe to danharris.com to participate in a free 7-day meditation challenge, receiving daily guided meditations and access to live Q&A sessions, as mindfulness is considered a foundational habit for behavior change.

31. Engage with “Do Life Better” Series

Tune into the podcast’s ‘Do Life Better’ series, which dedicates a week to common resolutions like fitness, finances, career, and addiction, offering science-backed and ancient wisdom approaches.

32. Explore Habit Formation Playlist

Access the curated podcast playlist on habit formation, featuring experts like James Clear, Judd Brewer, and Katie Milkman, and learn about Gretchen Rubin’s ‘four tendencies’ to understand personal behavior change styles.

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