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How a Buddhist Monk Deals With Anxiety | Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche

Apr 30, 2025 55m 22s 24 insights
<p dir="ltr">Anxiety has long been a massive societal issue that spiked during the pandemic, and many of us are still feeling it in 2025.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode, renowned Buddhist monk <a href="https://tergar.org/about/mingyur-rinpoche" rel="noopener" target="_blank">Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche</a> talks in detail about how he personally works with anxiety and panic and the practices he draws upon when dealing with these states. </p> <p dir="ltr">Mingyur began doing long retreats in his teens and now teaches all over the world.  He's written the books <a href="https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780307347312?aff=penguinrandom">The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness</a> and <a href="https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780525512547?aff=penguinrandom">In Love with the World: A Monk's Journey Through the Bardos of Living and Dying</a>. He also oversees the <a href="https://tergar.org/about/">Tergar Meditation Community</a>, a global network of Buddhist meditation centers.  </p> <p dir="ltr">This episode was originally published in July 2022.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about: </p> <ul> <li dir="ltr"> <p dir="ltr">Working with strong emotions using sound and the breath</p> </li> <li dir="ltr"> <p dir="ltr">Deconstructing your reality to make it workable</p> </li> </ul> <ul> <li dir="ltr"> <p dir="ltr">Understanding what awareness is in a Buddhist sense </p> </li> <li dir="ltr"> <p dir="ltr">How to make meditation free-range and available to you all times </p> </li> <li dir="ltr"> <p dir="ltr">The simple but also tricky advice of, "stop doing and just be" </p> </li> <li dir="ltr"> <p dir="ltr">When to take a step back or even take a break from meditation</p> </li> <li dir="ltr"> <p dir="ltr">What Mingyur Rinpoche says is the true purpose of the practice.<strong><br /></strong></p> </li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">This interview was recorded in person at the TED conference in April of 2022, where both Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche and Dan Harris spoke.</p> <p> </p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>Join Dan's online community <a href="http://www.danharris.com">here</a></strong></p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>Follow Dan on social: <a href="https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href="https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></strong></p> <p><strong id="docs-internal-guid-cf0478da-7fff-d405-222a-40f0b5d3b335">Subscribe to our <a href="https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></strong></p>
Actionable Insights

1. Discover Innate Goodness

The ultimate purpose of meditation practice is to discover your innate goodness, which is the beautiful quality of your own mind, encompassing awareness, love, compassion, and wisdom. This fundamental light is the background from which all thoughts and emotions manifest.

2. Embrace Awareness, Not Fight

Do not try to get out of, fight with, or do anything with panic or strong emotions; instead, the key point is to simply be with awareness. This allows you to connect with a deeper sense of contentment and joy that exists beyond fear and anxiety.

3. Recognize Awareness as Present

Understand that awareness is your fundamental nature, always present within you, even during panic or sleep. The practice helps you recognize this inherent quality, much like recognizing a watch you’ve always worn.

4. Practice Meditation Systematically

Connect with awareness through a systematic, step-by-step practice, as it’s not easy to perceive directly at first. This gradual approach allows your mind to become more pliable and workable over time, like building physical fitness.

5. Begin with Simple Meditation

As a first step, choose a simple meditation support like listening to sound, focusing on your breath, or mental recitation of a word or mantra. This helps you connect with awareness through an object, serving as a mental exercise.

6. Meditate Everywhere, Anytime

Progress to the second step by expanding your meditation practice to everyday life, using any situation or problem as a support for awareness. This means you can meditate with anything, anywhere, and at any time.

7. Navigate Strong Emotions Strategically

When working with strong emotions like panic, follow a four-step approach: first, be aware; second, if overwhelmed, try something different like a smaller emotion or returning to sound/breath; third, step back by observing your aversion to the emotion; and fourth, take a break if too exhausted.

8. Deconstruct Emotions for Wisdom

Cultivate wisdom by deconstructing strong emotions, like panic, into their constituent pieces such as sensations, images, voices, and underlying beliefs. By seeing these components as changing and interdependent, the emotion loses its solid meaning and power.

9. Let Go of Aversion, Craving

Understand that aversion (trying to get rid of something) and craving (trying to hold onto something) are core causes of suffering. Letting go of these reactions allows emotions to liberate automatically, revealing wisdom, love, and compassion.

10. Cultivate Self-Kindness, Acceptance

Allow difficult emotions like panic, depression, or stress to be present without fighting them, as this act is a true form of self-kindness, self-love, and self-compassion. This approach helps diminish the emotion’s power.

11. Stop Doing, Just Be

Learn to practice “non-meditation,” which involves ceasing all striving and simply being with your mind as it is, allowing clarity and presence to naturally reveal themselves. This is the best meditation once you’ve learned how to meditate.

12. Use Suffering as a Teacher

Reframe any suffering, including anxiety and panic, as a motivation for practice and a teacher that helps you discover awareness, love, compassion, and wisdom. This perspective allows difficult experiences to become your friend.

13. Listen Effortlessly to Sound

When practicing sound meditation, relax your body and simply listen with your ear and mind together, allowing sounds to come to you without strong focus or trying to stop thoughts. The key is to remember you are still hearing, even if thoughts arise.

14. Understand Awareness is Effortless

Recognize that awareness itself requires no effort; it is happening without your conscious doing. You can use a mental reminder like “effortless” to bring yourself back to this understanding during practice.

15. Treat Meditation as Mental Exercise

View meditation as a mental exercise, similar to physical training, where consistency is more important than intensity. At first, you may only sustain awareness for short periods, but with regular practice, it becomes longer, clearer, and more effortless.

16. Practice Daily, Even Briefly

Commit to a regular, daily meditation practice, even if it’s just for five minutes, for at least one to two months when starting. Consistency is crucial for building mental fitness and making awareness more salient.

17. Begin Free-Range with Small Emotions

When starting to apply meditation to your problems in daily life, if a major affliction like panic is overwhelming, begin by working with a smaller, less intense emotion like past anger as a stepping stone. This prevents being overwhelmed and builds confidence.

18. Observe Emotions Without Identification

Practice observing emotions as if you are “seeing the river” from the bank, rather than “falling in the river” and being carried away. This means you are out of the emotion, even if it’s still present, allowing awareness to be greater than the emotion.

19. Shift Focus to Aversion

If you find yourself fighting with an emotion or pretending to welcome it while secretly wanting it to leave, shift your awareness to that feeling of fighting or aversion itself. This “inner recycling” turns the secondary reaction into a support for meditation.

20. Take Breaks from Meditation

Do not feel guilty about taking a break from meditation if you are too tired or exhausted; it’s a valid part of the practice. Resting, drinking coffee, exercising, or even sleeping can be beneficial, much like resting during a mountain hike.

21. Understand Meditation’s “View”

Before practicing, cultivate a clear “view” or understanding of what awareness is, its function, benefits, and how to practice it. Having this conceptual framework helps guide your experiential practice and connect with your core being.

22. Be Open About Your Nervousness

Being honest and open about your nervousness or anxiety, even if you are an expert, can be incredibly impactful and relatable for others. This shared vulnerability can help alleviate others’ fears.

23. Allow for “Fake Welcome”

If you find yourself struggling with an emotion, even a “fake welcome” or insincere attempt to accept it can be helpful. This initial step, though not fully genuine, can still create a beneficial shift in your experience.

24. Continuously Reinforce Learnings

Recognize that these profound insights often need to be heard and revisited repeatedly, as they cut against the grain of human nature and modern life. Each reminder offers a deeper level of learning and discovery.