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Fun Is a Trainable Skill (And It Doesn't Involve Your Phone) | Catherine Price

Oct 7, 2020 58m 8s 21 insights
At a time like this, fun may seem frivolous. But our guest today is going to argue — convincingly, in my opinion — that fun is absolutely essential to a well-lived life. She has thought deeply about what actually constitutes fun, and how we can best live a life that is conducive to fun. In other words, she argues that fun is a trainable skill. You may have heard of Catherine Price. She's been on the show before. She wrote an excellent book called How To Break Up With Your Phone, which had a significant influence on me. We start our conversation by talking about ways to achieve what she calls "screen/life balance" during a time of pandemic and political upheaval, and then we flow directly into fun, which is something you can only have when you put your phone down. Where to find Catherine Price online: Website: http://catherineprice.com/ Sign up for the #FunSquad: https://mailchi.mp/screenlifebalance/funsquad Resources for Screen//Life Balance including a 3-day challenge and social media detox course: screenlifebalance.com Catherine's writerly social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/catherine_price Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_catherineprice/ Social Media "intervention feeds" (designed to help you catch you while you're mindlessly scrolling and help you re-direct your attention): Instagram: @screenlifebalance / https://www.instagram.com/screenlifebalance Twitter: @screenlifeblnce / https://twitter.com/screenlifeblnce Facebook: @slbalance / https://www.facebook.com/slbalance/ Books: http://catherineprice.com/books In case you missed it, we're running a podcast series to help you stay sane and engaged during this election season — without burning out. Every Monday in October, we'll discuss four tools from ancient teachings to help guide you through this especially challenging time. You can check out Monday's podcast episode for a taste of the Election Sanity Series. You can also visit tenpercent.com/guide to sign up for our limited-time email guide. We would appreciate it if you can take a few minutes to help us out by answering a survey. The team here is always looking for ways to improve. Please go to www.tenpercent.com/survey. Thank you. Other Resources Mentioned: Freedom (App Blocker): https://freedom.to/ Designing Your Life: https://designingyour.life/ The Book of Delights by Ross Gay: https://bookshop.org/books/the-book-of-delights-essays/9781616207922 Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi: https://bookshop.org/books/flow-the-psychology-of-optimal-experience/9780061339202 Additional Resources: Ten Percent Happier Live: https://tenpercent.com/live Coronavirus Sanity Guide: https://www.tenpercent.com/coronavirussanityguide Free App access for Frontline Workers: https://tenpercent.com/care Center for Healthy Minds Join the Center for Healthy Minds and Healthy Minds Innovations for a week-long series of well-being events and discussions. Learn about the innovations and science behind creating a better world from mental health experts and His Holiness the Dalai Lama, Oct. 5-9. Don't miss out – register now! https://mailchi.mp/centerhealthyminds.org/twwm-2020 Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/catherine-price-289
Actionable Insights

1. Cultivate Fun as a Skill

Recognize that fun is a trainable skill, not just a passive experience, and make a conscious effort to cultivate it in your life to increase joy and meaning. This approach allows you to be systematic about bringing more fun into your daily existence.

2. Mindfulness for Technology Use

Employ mindfulness to regularly check in with yourself about how technology use makes you feel in the present moment. Use this awareness to gently guide your choices towards activities that feel better, without self-judgment.

3. Set Stage for Fun (SPARK)

Actively create opportunities for true fun by applying the SPARK principles: Make Space, Pursue Passions, Attract Fun, Rebel and Spark, and Keep At It. These actions collectively foster playfulness, connection, and flow in your life.

4. Practice Noticing Delight

Actively look for and label small moments of ‘delight’ throughout your day, such as a pretty tree or a bird. This practice fosters a positive mindset, opens you to playfulness, and acts as a self-protective measure against negative media algorithms.

5. Avoid Phone Day Start/End

Do not begin or end your day by checking your phone, as apps are deliberately designed to capture your attention. This practice allows you to regain control of your time instead of letting algorithms dictate your first and last moments.

6. Charge Phone Out of Bedroom

Charge your phone outside your bedroom and out of arm’s reach to create a physical barrier. This discourages late-night and early-morning phone use, which improves sleep quality and enhances personal control over your device interactions.

7. Categorize & Evaluate Screen Time

Sort your screen time into necessary and voluntary categories, then evaluate the actual purpose of each interaction. This helps you determine the best way to achieve your goals and identify areas where you can creatively seek non-screen alternatives.

8. Creative Leisure Time Alternatives

For voluntary leisure time, actively seek creative alternatives that don’t involve screens. These activities often lead to feeling more refreshed and better than passive screen consumption, even when in-person interactions are limited.

9. Set Device-Specific Boundaries

Assign specific roles to different devices, such as using one device for work calls and another for checking the news. This creates clear boundaries, preventing various life aspects from blending together and making it easier to manage your time.

10. Create App ‘Speed Bumps’

Install and uninstall problematic apps as needed to create ‘speed bumps’ in your phone usage. The brief effort required to reinstall an app can be enough to prompt awareness and allow you to choose a different, more intentional activity.

11. Plan Alternatives to Scrolling

When you catch yourself stress scrolling, have a pre-planned alternative activity ready to engage in. Relying solely on willpower to stop is an ineffective habit-changing strategy; an alternative provides a positive redirection.

12. Self-Compassion for Stress Scrolling

When you find yourself stress scrolling, acknowledge that your brain’s rational decision-making is impaired under stress, and practice self-compassion. After this awareness, gently redirect your attention to a more beneficial activity.

13. Use Separate Alarm Clock

Stop using your phone as an alarm clock to prevent immediate engagement with a device designed to steal your attention the moment you wake up. A dedicated alarm clock helps you start your day with more control.

14. Remember Your Physical Body

Consciously remember and engage your physical body through movement, walking, dancing, or play. Sitting is detrimental to health and well-being, and physical activity is crucial for pleasure, learning, and overall vitality.

15. Fill Empty Time Intentionally

When you reduce screen time and gain extra time, proactively fill it with activities that align with your personal interests and passions. This prevents algorithms or passive consumption from dictating your leisure.

16. Cultivate Your ‘Play Gauge’

Make a conscious effort as an adult to carve out time and space for playfulness, as responsibilities can easily diminish it. Replenishing your ‘play gauge’ fills your personal reserves, allowing you to give more to others.

17. Keep a ‘Fun Times Journal’

Before bed, maintain a ‘fun times journal’ to reflect on your day’s activities and note which ones brought a sense of playfulness, connection, or flow. Use this insight to guide future choices and build more positive experiences into your life.

18. Manage Zoom Fatigue

For work calls, consider using audio-only options to mitigate Zoom fatigue. The cognitive effort of reading 2D cues and emoting more than usual can be exhausting, making audio-only a less draining alternative.

19. Facilitate Kids’ Learning Differently

For children’s remote learning, question the traditional school replication on screens and explore alternative ways to achieve learning and social development. This approach avoids requiring constant screen time, which may not be ideal for young children.

20. Provide Kids Screen Time Breaks

If children are required to have extensive screen time for remote learning, ensure they take frequent breaks and consciously manage their other recreational screen time. This helps maintain balance and prevents them from spending their entire waking life staring at a screen.

21. Follow Screen Life Balance Social

Engage with Screen Life Balance social media feeds, which are designed to provide ‘cold shower’ messages that encourage you to disengage from social media. These prompts help you be more present in your life rather than endlessly scrolling.