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From Wild Card with Rachel Martin: Taylor Tomlinson

Aug 23, 2024 31m 27s 11 insights
<p>There's a great podcast we want to introduce you to today, hosted by our friend Rachel Martin at NPR. It's her new show, called <a href="https://www.npr.org/podcasts/510379/wild-card-with-rachel-martin" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Wild Card</em></a>, which she describes as "part-interview, part-existential game show." It's a different way of approaching a celebrity interview, with a special deck of cards that helps shape the conversation. It's a really fun show, and she talks to some really big names, including David Lynch, LeVar Burton, Issa Rae, and US Poet Laureate Ada Limon. </p> <p>Rachel was also a guest on this very podcast recently, and we had a great conversation and even played a little bit of the card game, so go back in your podcast feed and check that out. <a href="https://www.happierapp.com/podcast/tph/rachel-martin" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">You can also listen to it here. </a></p> <p>The <em>Wild Card</em> episode we're sharing with you today features Taylor Tomlinson, who has found the kind of success many comedians dream about, with multiple Netflix specials and a late-night hosting gig — <em>After Midnight</em> on CBS. She tells Rachel that part of the secret to her success is fear. They also swap stories about their Christian upbringings, the search for validation and getting things stuck up their noses.</p> <p>So enjoy this episode, and check out Wild Card wherever you find your podcasts. </p>
Actionable Insights

1. Channel Grief into Potential

Transform the grief and sense of waste from a loved one’s unrealized potential into a powerful drive to stretch your own talents and creativity, fulfilling what they couldn’t.

2. Overcome Fear with Regret

Push through present fears by focusing on the greater fear of future regret, motivating yourself to pursue potential and develop talents you might otherwise neglect.

3. Recognize Inherent Worth

Understand that you are inherently worthy of love in relationships, rather than feeling the unhealthy need to constantly prove your worth, which can lead to self-sabotage.

4. Reframe Relationship Failures

When relationships don’t work out, reframe the outcome as a matter of ’not the right fit or combination of people’ instead of concluding that your best isn’t good enough.

5. Embrace Not Knowing

Find freedom by deciding you don’t know and will never know certain things, like what happens when you die, instead of trying to make sense of it all with definitive answers.

6. Actively Process Deconstruction

If you are falling out of love with a religion, recognize it’s a gradual and challenging process that requires constant work and sitting with uncomfortable feelings over years.

7. Connect with Lost Loved Ones

Stay connected to people you’ve lost by talking about them, asking others for stories, writing creatively about them, and imagining their opinions on current events or media.

8. Leverage Past Accomplishments

Use the confidence gained from significant past accomplishments (e.g., performing for thousands) to empower yourself to tackle smaller, everyday fears.

9. Get Comfortable with Fear

Learn to get comfortable with being perpetually afraid, as anxiety is constant fear, which can help manage it rather than letting it paralyze you.

10. Cultivate Naivety for Hope

Embrace a degree of naivety, similar to how children are, as it can be good for maintaining hopefulness and a rich imagination about the future, counteracting adult feelings of being bogged down.

11. Strive to Be Kind

Aim for others to perceive you as kind, recognizing that while it can be challenging to prove, it is a desirable quality in interactions.