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Enough-ness and the Hungry Ghost, Narayan Liebenson

Jun 26, 2019 1h 31m 36 insights
Most kids are not spending their time in solitude exploring the abilities of the mind. In that way, Narayan Liebenson was not like most kids. Fascinated with the mind since a young age, she has led a life studying meditation in different traditions. Her training over the past forty years includes study with meditation masters in the Theravada, Zen, and Tibetan traditions. In 1985, Liebenson co-founded the Cambridge Insight Meditation Center, which describes itself as "an urban refuge and teaching center for all who seek inner peace through the liberating practice of Insight Meditation." She is also the author of the recently released book, "The Magnanimous Heart: Compassion and Love, Loss and Grief, Joy and Liberation." In it, and in our discussion, she describes how to move from the "constant squeeze" of suffering to a direct experience of what she calls "enough-ness." We also discuss how that concept relates to the Buddhist teaching of "Hungry ghosts," creatures with huge stomachs and tiny mouths, who always remain hungry. Plug Zone New Book "The Magnanimous Heart: Compassion and Love, Loss and Grief, Joy and Liberation" https://www.amazon.com/Magnanimous-Heart-Compassion-Grief-Liberation/dp/1614294852 Cambridge Insight Meditation Center: https://cambridgeinsight.org/about/teachers/ To donate to the Cambridge Insight Meditation Center: https://cambridgeinsight.org/generosity/unrestricted-gift-dana/ Ten Percent Happier Meditation – Oren Jay Sofer's Practicing Kindness: https://10percenthappier.app.link/3nu2IRiOiX ***VOICEMAILS*** Have a question for Dan? Leave us a voicemail: 646-883-8326
Actionable Insights

1. Use Your Whole Life as Meditation

Integrate meditation into all aspects of your daily existence, rather than confining it solely to formal sitting sessions, to deepen your practice and understanding.

2. Let Be, Don’t Let Go

Approach difficult experiences with friendliness, embracing them as they are, rather than trying to forcefully ’let go’ of them. This allows what is gripping you to release itself naturally.

3. Embrace the ‘Constant Squeeze’

When you feel the ‘constant squeeze’ of unsatisfactoriness or pain in life, brave enough to embrace it gently with loving kindness and compassion. This allows the discomfort to reveal itself and uncoil, rather than tightening further.

4. Cultivate Boredom for Depth

Allow yourself to experience boredom fully, without immediate distraction. Staying with this space can lead to profound, freeing, and beautiful insights by dissolving the ‘veiling’ over the heart’s natural luminosity.

5. Be Aware of Habits and Patterns

Through meditation, become aware of your unhelpful habits and patterns. This awareness allows the ‘mist’ of these patterns to dissolve into the light of consciousness, revealing the heart’s natural freedom.

6. Investigate What’s Most Important

Use moments of preliminary contentment, achieved through calming the mind, as a springboard for deep investigation into what truly matters to you and why you are here.

7. Come See For Yourself

Don’t blindly believe teachings; instead, take up the methods, practice, and study, using your own life experiences as material for awakening to see for yourself how things actually are.

8. Live Your Understanding

Beyond mere intellectual comprehension, strive to embody and live your understanding of the Dharma from moment to moment in all circumstances, ensuring your path is not fragmented.

9. Cultivate a Magnanimous Heart

Develop a heart that is porous and open, allowing all experiences to enter and leave without resistance. This involves befriending whatever arises and viewing yourself and the world with vast perspective, learning from everything.

10. Employ Methods and Study Principles

Engage with both the practical methods and techniques of Buddhist practice and the study of its core principles, such as ethics, steadying the mind, wisdom, and compassion, to gain a wide and vast perspective.

11. Practice Through Grief and Challenge

During immense challenges like grief, rely on your established practice and trust in its ability to support you. Sustained practice through difficulty can lead to deeper emergence and even greater trustworthiness.

12. Use Sitting Practice as Refuge

When facing difficulties, find refuge in sitting practice by simply adopting the posture, being quiet, and allowing everything to be there without trying to change or fix anything, trusting that it will resolve itself.

13. Don’t Get Involved with Thoughts

During sitting meditation, allow your mind to do whatever it wants, but consciously choose not to get involved or carried away by the thoughts, simply observing them as thinking.

14. Sustain Practice Over Time

Commit to a sustained meditation practice that becomes integrated into your life, rather than an occasional activity. This consistency is crucial for meaningfully greeting life’s joys and sorrows.

15. Nourish Moments of Enoughness

Appreciate and be grateful for moments when you experience a sense of ’enoughness,’ without clinging to them. This practice of appreciation will naturally lead to more such moments in your life.

16. Don’t Reject Relaxation in Meditation

If you find yourself slipping into dream-like states or deep relaxation during meditation, do not reject it. Instead, be aware of the feeling tone of wanting to be drawn into it, recognizing it as a sign of deeper letting be.

17. Trust Sleepiness in Meditation

When experiencing sleepiness or lethargy during meditation, trust the process and apply a gentle attentiveness to it. This can sometimes lead to a deeper level of wakefulness.

18. Let Go of Counting Practice Time

For experienced practitioners, move beyond rigidly counting meditation minutes or evaluating progress. This allows for a more fruitful practice by opening the door beyond assessment, agendas, hopes, and fears.

19. Shift Neurosis to Object of Meditation

Instead of being driven by neurotic patterns like constant evaluation or self-doubt, recognize them as neurosis and make them an object of meditation. This shifts perspective and allows for deeper insight.

20. Use Thoughts Wisely for Problem Solving

In daily life, recognize that thinking is necessary for problem-solving. The goal is not to abandon thought, but to use your thoughts wisely, rather than being habitually used by them.

21. Meditatively Question Problems

When facing problems, ask meditative questions that are ‘bigger than the problem’ itself, such as ‘How can I hold this differently?’ This approach can lead to problems dissolving or resolving themselves through a shift in perspective.

22. Cultivate Calm Before Problem Solving

Before engaging in problem-solving, assess what is truly needed. Sometimes, cultivating more calm and spaciousness is necessary first to allow for more fruitful and creative thinking about the problem.

23. Listen and Respond Mindfully in Meetings

Apply meditative principles in group settings like meetings by fostering relaxation and a greater capacity to listen and respond. This reduces being caught up in specific outcomes and opens the door for creative solutions.

24. Seek Experiences Challenging Biases

Actively seek out teachers, experiences, or situations that challenge your less helpful biases. This can be a useful way to transcend ingrained perspectives.

25. Calm Your Mind and Thin Out Thoughts

Practice calming your mind to allow thoughts to thin out. This creates a sense of space and preliminary contentment, which can be a foundation for deeper inquiry.

26. Use Your Name as a Mantra

As a specific technique, repeat your name over and over again as a mantra. This can lead to a sense of non-identification and open up into something beyond the self.

27. Investigate Your Fears

If you experience strong fears, investigate them deeply to understand them. This process can be a propelling force towards freedom from those fears.

28. Pause, Recognize, and Be in the Body

Cultivate the ability to pause and recognize what is happening in your body and how your mind is operating. This helps you avoid being yanked around by ego, emotions, or reactions.

29. Be Fascinated with the Process of Thinking

Shift your fascination from the content of individual thoughts to the underlying process or ‘infrastructure’ of thinking itself. This can lead to a deeper understanding of the mind.

30. Cultivate Affection and Well-being

Become fascinated with the natural bubbling up of affection, well-being, happiness for others, and the desire to alleviate suffering. This is a cultivation of your true, loving nature.

31. Develop Confidence Through Experience

Engage with practice to gain your own experiences, rather than relying on what others tell you. This personal verification builds complete confidence in the path.

32. Be Honest and Authentic in Practice

As you deepen your practice, strive for honesty and authenticity in your approach, offering your true self and life experiences as part of your meditative journey.

33. View Yourself as Nature

Cultivate a mindset of sensing yourself as an integral part of nature, rather than separate from it. This fosters a broader perspective and interconnectedness.

34. Learn from All Experiences

Adopt the view that ’everything is my practice,’ meaning every experience that happens can be understood, learned from, and integrated, rather than categorizing some as outside of practice.

35. Don’t Limit Your Practice

While a short daily practice is beneficial, remain open to the vastness of the Dharma world and do not limit your potential for deeper engagement and exploration beyond your current comfort zone.

36. Be Patient with Sleepiness

If you experience sleepiness during meditation, maintain a small degree of attentiveness to it without trying to push it away. This patience can sometimes lead to a deeper state of wakefulness.