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Duct Tape for Your Inner Critic (Gently, of Course) | Dawn Mauricio

Oct 31, 2025 39m 15s 22 insights
<p dir="ltr">If your inner narrator won't give it a rest — constantly judging, narrating, or second-guessing you — you're in good company.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this live conversation from our weekly Substack sessions, Dan sits down with meditation teacher <a href="http://dawnmauricio.com/">Dawn Mauricio</a> to explore how to work with the nonstop chatter in your mind. They dig into common pitfalls like self-judgment, overthinking, and the feeling that you're "failing" at meditation — and how small mindset shifts can turn those moments into wins.</p> <p dir="ltr">Dawn offers practical, kind, and often funny guidance for bringing gentleness and curiosity to your practice, whether your eyes are closed on the cushion or open while doomscrolling. Plus, Dan and Dawn swap tips on finding meditation community, celebrating awareness instead of berating yourself, and making mindfulness a little more doable — even when your mind won't shut up.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Related Episodes:</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.danharris.com/p/am-i-meditating-correctly-am-i-doing?r=4o5o&amp;utm_campaign=post&amp;utm_medium=web&amp;showWelcomeOnShare=false"> Am I Meditating Correctly? Am I Doing the Right Kind?<br /></a><a href="https://www.danharris.com/p/how-to-handle-difficult-people-dawn-33d?r=4o5o&amp;utm_campaign=post&amp;utm_medium=web&amp;showWelcomeOnShare=false">How to Handle Difficult People | Dawn Mauricio </a></p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Tickets are now on sale for a special live taping of the 10% Happier Podcast with guest Pete Holmes! Join us on November 18th in NYC for this benefit show, with all proceeds supporting the New York Insight Meditation Center. Grab your tickets <a href="https://www.nyimc.org/event/great-cosmic-joke/">here</a>!<br /> <br /> Tickets are now available for an intimate live event with Dan on November 23rd as part of the Troutbeck Luminary Series. Join the conversation, participate in a guided meditation, and ask your questions during the Q&amp;A. Click <a href="https://troutbeck.com/culture/luminaries-series-conversation-meditation-with-dan-harris-2025/"> here</a> to buy your ticket!<br /> <br /></p> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan's online community <a href="http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href="https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href="https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href="https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p><strong><br /> <br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href="https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>
Actionable Insights

1. Celebrate Mindfulness’s Return

When your mind wanders during meditation, celebrate the moment mindfulness returns instead of judging yourself. This shift in tone makes practice more enjoyable, active, and inspiring.

2. Ask “What Is Being Known?”

Consistently ask yourself “What is being known?” throughout your day, even outside formal meditation. This practice brings you into the present moment, helps you step out of mental narratives, and attunes you to the non-self nature of experience.

3. View Cruelty as Unhealthy

When encountering cruel behavior, consider it as “unhealthy” rather than “evil” to reduce your own judgment. This allows you to resist harmful actions without getting mired in hatred or demonizing the person.

4. Cultivate Kindness for Wandering Mind

Invite kindness and gentleness to be your companion during meditation, accepting that your mind will travel. When you notice it has wandered, gently return your attention to your chosen anchor without judgment.

5. Choose Accessible Meditation Anchor

Select a meditation anchor that is easy and accessible for you, such as sensations, sound, or thoughts. This provides a consistent point of focus for your attention, whether the experience is pleasant or unpleasant.

6. Adapt Mental Noting Volume

If you use mental noting, gradually lower its “volume” so that the direct experience takes precedence over the narration. Adjust the volume based on your daily needs, as it’s a flexible tool, not a fixed goal.

7. Pay Attention to Note Tone

Be mindful of the tone of your mental notes, especially if they are shouty or judgmental. Noticing and tweaking the tone can improve the quality of your mindfulness practice.

8. Seek Meditation Community

Actively seek out and engage with a meditation community (sangha) for support and consistency in your practice. You can find communities through websites like the Buddhist Insight Network, by researching affiliated teachers, or by creating your own.

9. Mindful Transition Out of Meditation

Gradually transition out of meditation by tuning into surrounding sounds and movements, then lifting your gaze to observe light and shapes in the room. This helps you re-engage with the external environment mindfully.

10. Be Present for Relief and Ease

After moving due to discomfort during meditation, make a conscious effort to be present for the subsequent relief and ease. This practice helps you appreciate and make more room for ease in both your practice and daily life.

11. Practice Naming in Open-Eye Meditation

During open-eye meditation (e.g., walking), practice mental noting by naming what you see and think. Acknowledge and enjoy the present experience before continuing, which helps manage visual distractions.

12. Mindful Observation Before/After Practice

Before and after formal meditation, take a moment to mindfully observe your surroundings by naming colors or objects. This prepares your body for practice and integrates mindfulness of seeing into daily life.

13. Use Alternative Breath Anchors

If focusing on the breath causes anxiety or difficulty, use alternative meditation anchors like sight, body sensations, or loving-kindness phrases. The breath is a tool, but not the only one, and other techniques provide similar benefits.

14. Focus on Natural Breath

If meditating on the breath, focus on being mindful of your natural breath as it is, rather than trying to take deep breaths. This avoids forcing the breath, which can cause discomfort.

15. Tune into Physical Support & Relax

Begin meditation by tuning into how your body is physically supported by the floor or seat, then consciously relax into that holding, releasing any bracing in your body and face.

16. Observe Without Changing

Simply notice whatever arises in your awareness during meditation—sounds, energy, thoughts—without trying to change or fight it.

17. Choose Comfortable Meditation Posture

Set up for meditation in a way that is comfortable for you, whether seated, lying down, looking out a window, or walking slowly. This flexibility supports your ability to settle into practice.

18. Close or Lower Eyes for Focus

If able, close your eyes or turn them downward during meditation to help with focus, always ensuring safety if in motion (e.g., driving).

19. Take Deep Breaths to Settle

To help settle at the beginning of meditation, take a few full, deep breaths and exhale deeply, then return to breathing naturally.

20. Greed, Hatred, Delusion are the Enemy

When faced with challenging people or situations, remember that greed, hatred, and delusion are the true enemies, not the individual. This perspective helps cultivate compassion and reduces personal entanglement in negative emotions.

21. Join Live Meditation Sessions

Join weekly live meditation and Q&A sessions (e.g., Tuesdays at 4 Eastern) to support your practice, learn from teachers, and engage with a community.

22. Sign Up for Custom Meditations

Sign up at danharris.com to receive invitations to live sessions and access custom guided meditations that accompany podcast episodes.